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If you read my last post, you know that I have decided to jump back into the world of online dating and it has been an experience. I’ve talked to lots of people on the site and many of those have remained…on the site. The few that I have talked to over the phone have been okay but that initial call and hearing their voice may be a deal breaker to me.
You see, I’m pretty big on men’s voices. With the whole online dating thing, obviously, everything is initially done online but once that interest has been sparked and the conversation online is decent and I decide that it’s time to talk on the phone, if your voice isn’t cool. I’m not cool. Okay, I know, that may sound a but superficial (I’ve already admitted to that), but I love a man who has a nice voice, so when I get a call from a man who sounds like he hasn’t gone through puberty yet and his voice never grew up, I’m immediately turned off.
That’s the thing about online dating, it’s initially all about the physical attraction. Let’s be honest, no one goes through the profiles on online dating sites and thinks to themselves, “Oh, he/she looks like they have a great personality, a sense of humor and honest…yeah, they look honest.” Come on, man!! Online dating is all about physical attraction, if you say it’s not, you are lying. Now, sometimes you may lower your standards, so to speak, or tell yourself, “he/she may not be my cup of tea but let me see what their conversation is like.” Thus, you either respond to their message or send one of your own and go from there.
Let’s jump to the phone thing…a lot of times, after receiving your number, men will text and send a pic of themselves. Usually, they will ask you to send you one, too. I don’t. Their reason being, is that they want to add a pic to the number.
What did you do before smart phones? My name should be sufficient. Just like yours will be, if, I decide to even save you in my phone. Right now, your are just a phone number.
Most of the time, when they decide to call, I let it go to voicemail. That way, I can hear their voice when they leave a message. If he sounds like a boy in 6th grade, I’m cool. It is such a turn off. Call it what you may, but, I like what I like and men who sound like boys isn’t one of them. I guess I haven’t stopped being superficial when it comes to certain things. Oh well….I guess it is, what it is.
What are your turn-offs/deal breakers when it comes to dating?