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When I was younger, I had no idea how much work it took to keep a relationship alive. And of course I wasn’t interested in figuring it out. I was young, vibrant and open to dating rather than devoting myself to just one person. This part of my life helped me learn about myself, as well as how men think.
Over time, as I became a woman, I began to get a clear understanding of what ingredients are needed to keep a relationship thriving, and happy. I’ve read tons of articles on-line, and everyone seems to have the magic formula when it comes to making a relationship work. Let me reiterate, there are just a few things that makes a “marriage” work. It doesn’t take an entire list of rules to keep you and your man dedicated and happy.
I’m past the relationship stage, I’m a whole married woman, who is no longer looking for prince charming. And NO, I’m not bragging. I’m just expressing that it comes a time in a woman’s life where dating isn’t cute anymore. If you are dating because no man you’ve been with wants to wife you up, take care of you and love your forever, then you are doing something SO wrong.
Thank goodness that stage of my life is over, because I’ve dated some real lames in my lifetime. Dating is far from being fun. Women who are dating, wish they were in my shoes, and married women who are unhappy wish they were dating again. But at the end of the day, if you lack the proper ingredients for your marriages’ recipe, it will more than likely turn out to be pretty nasty and you will find yourself surfing the sea for more fish. (Did you get that?, Hilar, I kill myself)
Even though every relationship is different, and the terms and agreements are not the same, I think every relationship thrives off of three basic ingredients: Trust, communication and SEX. These three ingredients can keep God’s unity together. Let me stress another point to women who are holding on to something that doesn’t seem to become better overtime, if God didn’t put it together, then it’s meant to fail.
Ladies, we are the foundation in which keeps our marriages together. Little do you know, we have the power to motivate, and we have the power to ruin everything around us. Men are simple creatures, who don’t need much at all.
1. Trust them, unless you have been given a reason not to.
2. Communicate with them and tell them what’s on your mind.
3. And give them some ASS.
Men are like children, you must nurture, and stroke every part of their manhood. Trusting a man who loves you will make him want to continue to earn your trust. He will work to keep your trust because he knows he has a woman at home who believes in him and everything he does.
Communicate with your man with a kind heart, and loving gestures. Any man who has a woman who does nothing but nag, yell, bitch and complain will more than likely look for a safe haven or someone else who’s more than willing to handle him with care. Don’t push your man into the arms of another woman, BECAUSE IT CAN HAPPEN.
I need for women who actually want to keep their man to stop thinking that sex isn’t a major part of the equation. Lets be adults here. Sex is a beautiful thing, especially when it’s between two people who love each other, and who have been kissed by God. Sex can make just about any situation better. It can be the glue that keeps you two together. It can bring about solutions, relieve stress and tension. And it can strengthen your bond. Don’t get it twisted, sex shouldn’t be a chore, sex should be a joy.
Even though there are thousands of different things that are claimed to keep a relationship/marriage together. These three are at the top of my list. These three things are what have kept me married for 10 years. These three things are the only things that we really need to survive, while others continue to search. It really isn’t rocket science, and it shouldn’t be treated as such.
Get Your minds right!
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