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Ladies, you have been played, lied to, conned, hoodwinked, led astray, bamboozled and whatever other word you can think of by some men. You have to learn how to avoid getting played by men!
There was a great song by the ‘The Main Ingredient’ called Everybody Plays the Fool. Truer words have rarely ever been written. There are only two types of people in this world: those who have been played and those who lie and say they have never been played.
The problem is not that you believed someone who you should not have believed. The real problem becomes when it happens again and again. At some point you have to take responsibly for your life and say that this will not happen again. That is what the article is designed to help you do.
There are lies that guys tell every day. Many women fall for them because they do not want to believe the truth. They would rather believe a lie and in turn get played by men. Well here are some of the main ones to watch out for. Learn these and you can stop playing the fool.
Guys use this one as an excuse to not get in touch with a woman until she calls. He will claim that he has been so busy that he just has not had time to get back with her. It must be all those hours he has been working trying to create world peace. Do not fall for it. What he is really saying is that you are not important enough to keep in touch with. You are only important when you call him. In fact you should just be glad he picked up the phone when you called. Do not fall for it.
Speaking of calling, here is another popular lie. Sure most men would prefer to text then call, but if he is interested enough he will make the effort. He may not speak long, but he will call you just to make sure he stays on your mind. It is also a way to see if you are with another guy. If he cannot call you tell him to call Tyrone and get to stepping. Can you hear me now?
This is the “I have been hurt so do not expect too much from me” lie. If this is the case then he has emotional baggage that he needs to deal with. Tell him to look you up when he is emotionally available. Until then do not believe this Sigmund Freud lie and give him the number to a good counselor.
“I’m not saying she is a gold digger, but she aint…” well you know the rest. Hey, it is not all about money, but if the brother cannot afford to pay attention, you would do better to step. I am not saying he needs to buy you a house, but he should be able to take you out, even to a fast food restaurant. If the brother is so poor that he cannot treat you to a night out then he needs a better job, not a relationship.
If he never takes you out then that is a problem. Not every place cost to go to. You can go to the park or mall for free. Do not settle for being his home, honey. The place where he eats and sleeps, but never takes you anywhere.
Break up sex maybe wild, passionate and drama filled, but it is also stupid. Do you really want a guy that is continuing to break up with you and get back with you? If he really wants you he would stay around.
This is the guy that is a jerk to you all because he wants to help you “improve”. He is full of put downs and snide remarks. Do not fall for this low self esteem having fool. It does not take much of a person to feel better by putting other people down.
This is the guy that keeps on running in and out of your life. Tell him to stay gone. Do you really want someone popping up in your life just when you have it the way you want it. Tell him to take his magic show on the road.
This is the guy that tells you how bad he has it at home and he is just waiting for the right moment to leave. Please. He is getting it at home and on the side. If you are fine with being a side dish and not a main meal then by all means continue to believe his lies. If you want a man of your own, then send him back home.
All right, please stop making excuses for foolishness. You do not need the thug, criminal or playa in your life. If you need drama watch television. If you want a solid relationship then tell him to go and play with other girls. There are plenty of thirsty women out there looking for him so make sure you don’t pick up their trash.
Ladies, please get some self-respect. If you find yourself dealing with any of these idiots then you need to move around because you are most certainly being played. It is better to be alone than dealing with trash and drama. You deserve better, but you won’t get it until you demand it. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you, so stop allowing yourself to be treated like anything other than a real woman.
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