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Days and months have come and gone, yet you still are coming up with a zero on the scoreboard of dating. You’ve found a 101 things wrong with everyone that you have interacted with on online dating sites or have actually met in person. No one seems good enough for you.
Is it really them or is it you, that the problem truly lies with? Maybe, just maybe, you aren’t ready to be dating? Maybe, you aren’t even ready for a relationship? Here are 3 signs that maybe you need to relax on the dating and relationship search because you ain’t ready, Boo.
You say that you want to date and find someone, yet you have not committed to the process. You sign up for online dating sites because you you just don’t feel like going out to bars, clubs, coffee shops or wherever folks go nowadays to meet people. The problem is when you go through the profiles on these sites, your list of “must haves” are so long that Jesus wouldn’t even make the cut. You ignore most of the messages that you get and after a couple of days, your are “done!” You start to feel like the little time and energy that you have invested, isn’t worth it because “I’ll never find my soul mate in this group of idiots,” so you give up.
You are still harping on what the last man did to you and the one before that and the one before that. How are you going to move on with a new man, if you can’t get over the last one (s)? You can’t move on if you still have ill feelings about your ex and what he did to break your heart. Until you let it go, you aren’t ready to start something new.
You like not having to share your space with someone else. You are just fine, watching what you want on the tv or deciding what you want to eat and are cool with the fact that you don’t have to debate over any of those things. You are good being alone and the thought of having to share your space with someone else doesn’t excite you but gives you anxiety instead.
If these 3 things sum you up, maybe you should forgo searching for love and continue to do you. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that. The truth of the matter is that until you are truly ready to open up your heart and life to someone else, you won’t be ready for a relationship and will only waste yours and someone else’s time. That’s not fair to you or them. When all 3 of the above reasons are no longer and issue, then you can open yourself to find and receive the love that you deserve.