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A Father’s Views on Co-Parenting

Parenting / Single Mommy Stuff / Single Moms Talk / December 25, 2017

A few months ago, I wrote a post called, “How to Co-Parent When You Can’t Stand His Ass,” which a lot of women could relate to.  Based on the responses, there are many women who are trying to figure out how to be successful at co-parenting when they are still in their feelings about their child’s father, the relationship is strained or their child’s father is just a straight up ass.

When I posted a link to this post, one man called me out and asked, “When are you going to write, ‘how do you co-parent when you can’t stand her ass?'” My response was simply, “I’m not but you can,” and that’s just what he did. Here’s his take on co-parenting…
As a father, you want the best for your children…period. They have to have better than you or at the very least, be given the opportunities to be as successful as they possibly can be in life, however, when you are not able to co-parent effectively, that can all be hindered.
I’m not privy to all info like events that happen at my kids schools or their extracurricular activities, (basketball, karate, hockey and ballet) through her as she is the custodial parent. Any information obtained for my children I had to seek on my own.
In a perfect co-parenting relationship, the communication is healthy and the goal is always the children. When resentment, money and unhealed hurt are still at the forefront, being diplomatic is the name of of the game. You pick and choose when and where to speak up. You choose to ignore the pettiness. You choose to ignore the social media rants all for the betterment of your children.
So how do you co parent when you can’t stand her ass?
You pick and choose your fights and you keep the children first. I can’t undo why our marriage failed, I can’t apologize anymore than I already have. I can’t pay anymore child support than I  already am, but I can control to a certain extent the relationship I have with my children. That’s what I focus on!
Jean-Wesley Michel is a divorced father of two: an eleven-year old son and an eight-year old daughter. He is a Sales Professional and a Design Expert by day. Nights and weekends, he is a culinary artiste and amateur photographer. Looking to cook, capture and create any chance he gets. You can reach him on Instagram at JayWMichel and Eye Shot This and BBQ by JW.

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Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.




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8 Comments

on December 27, 2017

I appreciate how he got to the point. No messiness. No pettiness. Very maturely written.

on December 27, 2017

I think it’s so important to keep the children first. That’s all that matters. Not how you feel about the other parent and what they did or didn’t do, but how you both can move beyond that to raise your children in a healthy and cooperative way.

on December 28, 2017

I don’t know. I kinda think your blog is for women so of course you’re going to write from that perspective. Either way, the point is to work it all out.

on December 28, 2017

I get it…sometimes men get the short end also and its not fair when they want to be apart of their children’s lives. I think both parties need to communicate as best they can to provide healthy relationship for the children!

on December 28, 2017

There’s two side to every story, but the only thing that matters is what’s best for the child! I co-parent and my goal is to leave my reserves and dislikes out of the situation. My son is all that matters, how his father feels is truly irrelevant and none of my business!

on December 29, 2017

He had a great perspective, and he seems to want to keep the kids best interests at heart. It’s great you gave him a chance to show his side.

on December 29, 2017

I applaud you for sharing his perspective. It’s definitely a two-way street but both parties involved have to be willing to set aside differences for the well being of the children.

on December 29, 2017

It was nice that you let him share his side. I have no idea what it is like to co-parent, even though there is an absentee parent out there, and I certainly can’t stand his ass. LOL! Great thing is, my son has hit 18, and I don’t even have to think about what he might be thinking.



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