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Single Because: I’m Waiting For Someone With Lifetime Intentions

Dating & Relationships / Single Moms Talk / September 25, 2017
When it comes to single life, I am single because I am going to wait. I feel like some people just don’t put in effort when it comes to pursuing someone with lifetime intentions. I could write a million words about how I feel about the opposite sex at this present time but it just seems cynical at this point.

I Am Waiting For A Man Who…

Because I am single, I set reminders for myself to wait. I am going to wait for the man who sees me as I am and be good with growing and learning together. I am going to wait for the man who doesn’t hide who he is for fear that I won’t want him. I am going to wait for the man who can respect this mother right here taking care of her responsibilities and has no intention of making her miserable and makes a heavy effort not to make her miserable by hiding details of his life because he wants to attain a beautifully made woman of GOD. I want to wait for the man who follows goals he has taken the time to write down and implementing on a daily basis. If I am grinding, he is grinding too, legally. Someone I could brainstorm on business ventures and finance budgeting would be amazing. Someone to go half on cleaning up, watching our family or hiring a maid lol. Someone who earns his income by effort and energy like me. Someone who can stare in my eyes and just be randomly passionate not necessarily sex driven but just wanting his partner to feel like silk after a long day of work.

I’m Single Because He Didn’t Love Himself Enough To Love Me

As a single mom it gets harder because we can often get stereotyped as loving the wrong guy and we make bad decisions all day. I didn’t love the wrong guy, I fell for a man who was all that I was looking for and I opened my heart because we were on one accord. I was everything he was looking for but he didn’t love himself. I watched him fall apart because he didn’t feel he deserved my love. You can’t make anyone love themselves. And I tried and that’s how it all falls down. I don’t give up on the things I valued in that relationship but I do give up on trying to think I can change or motivate a person without their effort. And so again I am single because I will wait for the man who loves himself as much as I love myself. And now I understand exes who left me, male friends who wouldn’t date me when I was in the same place. Because two whole individuals know how to work as a team and as individuals. So even if things don’t work out or never start they can be adults about it. Not many whole people around anymore.

Jenelle


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.




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16 Comments

on September 25, 2017

I love that point about finding a man who loves himself. We always focus on being loved the way we deserve to be, but forget that won’t happen if the person you love doesn’t love himself.

on September 25, 2017

Great read and perspective, I can understand what you are talking about. In order to have a successful relationship both people need to enter the relationship whole in order to help the other person.

on September 25, 2017

This was such a great read. A lot of single ladies out there should read this and I totally agree with you, there aren’t a lot of whole people in the world.
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on September 25, 2017

This brought tears to my eyes. At my damn work desk! Thanx Jenelle lol! But on a serious note this really resonated with me. I recently decided to stop dating for a while for the exact meaning behind this post. Great read!

on September 25, 2017

I LOVE THIS! I am also a woman of God, waiting to be found as we are not supposed to be searching! If a man or woman, isn’t 100%, how can we expect them to give what they don’t have, in the relationship? I love coming here, these articles are so real and relatable!

on September 26, 2017

Good read. I don’t think the topic of men loving themselves. We often focus on women not loving themselves but its important to that man know they have to love themselves or they can too become destructive. Waiting is hard but it has to be done for great things to happen.

on September 26, 2017

I am really going to share this with my single friends!! I’d love to hear their thoughts on this subject. Great post!

on September 26, 2017

I agree it’s so important for two WHOLE people to come together. Working on ourselves and getting to a place of wholeness before we get into serious relationships makes a big difference.

on September 26, 2017

I believe its important to love yourself first before you can love anyone else! And I loved the point of someone having lifetime intentions versus right now intentions!

on September 26, 2017

This is such a a great post and very much needed. I have a few single friends that I try to tell this all the time. You need to learn to love yourself completely and know who you are before you can be with someone else.

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Bianca

on September 26, 2017

I am really enjoying this series. I am single because my husband died but that “a man who loves himself” line is definitely something I will be looking out for in my next relationship.

on September 26, 2017

I love that “Im single because he didn’t love me enough to love me”. That is awesome real talk!

on September 27, 2017

I love that you are embracing the single life! Great post!

on October 11, 2017

That line “he didn’ love imself enough to love me” is so powerful. Thank you for sharing.



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