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3 Signs You Are Not Ready for a Relationship

Dating & Relationships / May 30, 2017

Days and months have come and gone, yet you still are coming up with a zero on the scoreboard of dating. You’ve found a 101 things wrong with everyone that you have interacted with on online dating sites or have actually met in person.  No one seems good enough for you.

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Is it really them or is it you, that the problem truly lies with?  Maybe, just maybe, you aren’t ready to be dating? Maybe, you aren’t even ready for a relationship? Here are 3 signs that maybe you need to relax on the dating and relationship search because you ain’t ready, Boo.

You don’t want to invest the time

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You say that you want to date and find someone, yet you have not committed to the process.  You sign up for online dating sites because you you just don’t feel like going out to bars, clubs, coffee shops or wherever folks go nowadays to meet people. The problem is when you go through the profiles on these sites, your list of “must haves” are so long that Jesus wouldn’t even make the cut.  You ignore most of the messages that you get and after a couple of days, your are “done!”  You start to feel like the little time and energy that you have invested, isn’t worth it because “I’ll never find my soul mate in this group of idiots,” so you give up.

You haven’t let go of past hurts

You are still harping on what the last man did to you and the one before that and the one before that.  How are you going to move on with a new man, if you can’t get over the last one (s)?  You can’t move on if you still have ill feelings about your ex and what he did to break your heart. Until you let it go, you aren’t ready to start something new.

You like your space

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You like not having to share your space with someone else.  You are just fine, watching what you want on the tv or deciding what you want to eat and are cool with the fact that you don’t have to debate over any of those things. You are good being alone and the thought of having to share your space with someone else doesn’t excite you but gives you anxiety instead.

If these 3 things sum you up, maybe you should forgo searching for love and continue to do you.  Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that. The truth of the matter is that until you are truly ready to open up your heart and life to someone else, you won’t be ready for a relationship and will only waste yours and someone else’s time.  That’s not fair to you or them.  When all 3 of the above reasons are no longer and issue, then you can open yourself to find and receive the love that you deserve.

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.




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16 Comments

on June 13, 2017

These are some great signs to know that you’re not ready for a relationship. Most of the time we don’t take time to self-reflect on ourselves and how can we improve within.

on June 13, 2017

These are definitely signs a person is not ready to commit. Relationships require a great deal of commitment and time. I am married and I remember after we got married I felt a little shocked at how much work it is to make a marriage work. So for a person who is dating, I would definitely recommend your tips. If the person isn’t ready for commitment, it’s okay! Just be honest with yourself and the person you are interested in dating.

on June 13, 2017

The enjoy being by yourself was something that I had to slowly let go of. Now that I have a little family I realize that that was one of the huge sacrifices I had to make!

on June 13, 2017

Great tips for people to make sure things are right when dating someone new and just to gauge if they themselves are in a place to be open to dating.

on June 13, 2017

You know I had to go through all these emotions when I was single but still was under the silly idea that I was ready. Thank goodness things didn’t work out with anyone at that time and I waited.

on June 14, 2017

Being hurt and trying to move on is not easy. There are so many emotional and mental blockers that will stand in your way.

    on June 16, 2017

    You are totally correct and until you get past them, you won’t be good to anyone else.

on June 14, 2017

I can say in the past all of these points were me! Especially needing my space and investing time sometimes I am too busy but now I am being more open and making more time.

    on June 16, 2017

    That was me, too. You just have to know when you are ready and open or it won’t work.

on June 14, 2017

These are great points! A lot of people think they are ready, but they have these issues that they need to get over first before truly being ready!

    on June 16, 2017

    Thanks and to add to that, some people need to realize that they have issues or they will bring them into the next relationship

on June 14, 2017

Yes I can agree with these. Especially needing your soace and not letting go past hurt. In order to move forward the past has to be left in the past. Needing space was always my number 1 go too.

    on June 16, 2017

    So many people have such a hard time of leaving the past in the past, thus, they make the same mistakes over and over again in relationships.

on June 15, 2017

I agree with liking your own space. If you want to have a relationship, you can’t be focused on being content by yourself. That only brings loneliness for your partner.

on June 19, 2017

There was a time before my 11-year marriage that I wasn’t ready. It is so important to spend time with God and self-reflect first!



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