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One problem with writing erotica is that you can start to look at every sexual encounter as a potential article. Pretty soon, even your partner starts to do the same. Sexual intimacy should never be about the wow factor for next week’s blog post, though. I found this out the hard way.
Here’s what happened. Royce* and I were having sex the other night. It wasn’t extravagant or especially kinky. It was just regular, satisfying sex between lovers. Don’t get me wrong, though. That ish was good as hell! I mean, my man knows exactly how to do me right, you know?
He was on top and doing this move where the thick base of his shaft hits my sweet spot over and over. Just when I thought it couldn’t feel any better, he added this little twist to his hips that made my eyes roll to the back of my head. Then, right when I felt the first stirrings of orgasm, he suddenly stopped and asked “Should we change up and do something fancier?”
Huh? What? Dude, are you f’ing crazy? Why would you stop now?
Okay. I didn’t say all that. But I did ask “Huh?”
“I mean, this seems so ordinary. Don’t you want me to give you something to write about?”
As much as I wanted to finish that awesome stroke-fest, we obviously needed to have a conversation right then and there. Because at that moment, the last thing I was thinking about was writing a damn blog post.
“Do you really think I have to write about every single time we have sex?” I asked as he slowly pulled out of me. Then we turned so that we were both on our sides facing each other. I was still a little breathless.
“Well, no,” he said sounding unsure. “But, you do write about us a lot.”
“And sometimes I feel like I need to give you something juicy to write about.”
Oh, the drama of dating a sex blogger. I understood what he was saying, though. I felt the same way, sometimes. I was just sad that he felt that kind of pressure too.
Royce gets a kick out of being the inspiration for some of my posts. And I’m grateful he’s cool with it because a lot of guys wouldn’t be okay with their woman writing about their most personal moments. And while I want him to continue to be my muse, I don’t want my posts to play such a big role in our relationship. There needs to be a balance.
Besides, not all of our escapades make into my articles. Some of them are complete failures! Remind me to tell y’all about the time we tried to use a swing. That one almost sent both of us to the hospital!
Royce and I are so compatible because we’re both sexually adventurous. We’re both open to learning and trying new things. But experimentation and adventure aren’t the basis of our relationship. At least I hope it isn’t. There’s much more to us than that.
And honestly, sometimes a girl just wants a decent nut and a good night’s sleep in her man’s arms. Hell, ain’t nobody got time to be a friggin’ porn star every damned night! That’s too much pressure! So I reassured him that we didn’t need to swing from the chandeliers every time we’re together.
This even came up with one of my girlfriends. She said, “Sophia, I love reading your posts, but I have to admit that sometimes they leave me feeling disappointed with my own love life.”
This friend is happily married to a wonderful guy, by the way. She said she would look at him and say “Why aren’t our afternoons like this? Why don’t you wake me up like that?”
Chile, please. NOBODY’S afternoons or mornings are always like the ones I write about! Not even mine!
I want my stories to inspire you and your partner to explore and experiment. I hope they inspire you to learn your own body well enough so that you can wring the most pleasure out of every sensual experience you have. I hope they turn you on so much that you initiate some steamy lovin’ with your Boo. And if you’re currently single, I hope they motivate you to get out there and find some love for yourself.
But make no mistake: my stories are not meant to be compared to your current situation. Don’t measure your satisfaction by my erotic tales. If you were happy with your man before you read my stuff, then you should still be happy after. I’m just here to entertain, folks.
The truth is that there ain’t nothing wrong some good, ordinary, satisfying sex with your lover. If it gets the job done and helps you get to sleep, cool. Of course, every couple should spice things up every once in a while just to keep things interesting. And learning new skills and tricks is never a bad thing.
But don’t feel like Royce did the other night. Here I am, about to explode, and dude was wracking his brain to come up with some new gimmick! In the end, we ended with a strong finish. And we didn’t do anything new or exotic, either. We just let our bodies do what came naturally and reveled in each other’s pleasure. And then we slept for 10 straight hours.
Stay tuned, though. Royce just watched some YouTube videos showing men how to better please their women. He claims to have learned some new move he wants to try when we hook up again next weekend. We’ll see …
*Royce ain’t his government name, of course. I always change the names and a few details to protect the not-so-innocent.
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