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Single Because? “I’m Doing Me Right Now”

Dating & Relationships / October 30, 2016

People ask me why am I single all the time LOL! They say you’re pretty, smart, and educated so why don’t you have a man? Oh you must be crazy??!  Some people contribute my singleness to me being too picky (which I’m definitely not!). My response to people concerned with my relationship status is that I’m single by choice and I’m content with it.

Society & Single Women

Society makes women feel like we have to be married by the age of 25 and start pumping out babies before we are 30 because our “biological clocks” are ticking! I think this is why divorce rates are so high. People are rushing to get married without really getting to know the person that they are with because they feel like their lives are on a timeline.

Single Because

Honestly I’m not in any rush to get married or have kids. When I think about marriage I think about forever and that’s just something I’m not trying to put a time limit on. If I decide to get married I only want to do it once so I’m taking my time, exploring my options, and making sure that whoever I decide to commit myself to will be able to love me unconditionally and for me to be able to do the same for him.

I do date from time to time but I haven’t met that guy who I want to commit myself to fully. Most of the relationships that I’ve been in from my past have brought negativity to my life and have broken me down spiritually. During my time of being single I have been able to discover who I am as a person outside of a relationship; I’ve also discovered my self-worth and I will no longer let a man define who I am as a person.

Many people act like being single is a bad thing but it can actually be very beneficial to your life. Although I’m single I’m really enjoying my life at this point!  I recently moved to a new state and I’m enjoying meeting new people and living in the moment.

Right now I’m focused on achieving my goals, having fun, and embracing all that life has to offer! If my soulmate happens to find me along the way I’m cool with that and as far as my biological clock goes I’m hitting the snooze button on that bad boy! LOL!


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on September 8, 2017

When I single I loved it. There is nothing wrong with being alone and having fun doing things that make you happy.

on September 8, 2017

I have chosen to remain single since my husband passed away. I am loving it and learning more about myself each day. I need to work on my self love and personal likes.

on September 8, 2017

That was a great post. Society puts so much pressure oon women. It’s crazy people assume there must be something wrong with a woman because she’s single.

on September 8, 2017

I love the idea that you haven’t fallen in love with the idea of falling in love so much that you lose your sense of self. You continue to do you and enjoy the single life.

on September 8, 2017

I tell people all the time, enjoy being single. It’s a great time to get to know yourself and understand your strengths and weaknesses. It’s also a great time to just enjoy life!

    on September 10, 2017

    I agree. Being single affords you the time to get to know yourself. So many people jump from relationship to relationship and it is just a mess.

on September 10, 2017

Being single is a great time to work on you. I married young and wish I had more time to work on and enjoy being by myself.

on September 10, 2017

Cute post! Being single is a beautiful thing! I’m in a relationship now. I love this phase of life too. Enjoy and be happy! Don’t worry about what others have to say.

on September 11, 2017

There is nothing wrong with being single, but society thinks it is. I’ve only been single for 2 years of my adult life. I feel like I’ve missed out on so much. It would have been much easier to learn me first while single instead of in a relationship. I advise women to be single at least until they are 25 so you can explore the world on your on terms. Good for you.

    on September 11, 2017

    I agree. It’s easier to create a self awareness, do some traveling, etc when you are young and single.

on September 13, 2017

I wish people would really stop putting a negative stigma on being single. From the failed marriages I see, being single is a good thing. You have to be ready to be married.

    on September 13, 2017

    I agree that being single can be good. Sometimes, people don’t realize that you have to be ready to get married. They just see the fairytale.

on September 14, 2017

I am single. People always look at you funny if you are single or have been single for quite sometime. Man listen I rather be single then be attached and unhappy. Shoot!

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