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Online Dating: The Good, The Drama and The BS (Part 2)

Dating & Relationships / June 1, 2016

Online dating can be a means of finding love or a means of entertainment or both depending on the situation. I’ve already discussed the “Good” in online dating (Click the link if you missed it). Online dating is more than a notion and I’m going to tell you right now…be prepared for the drama. Brace yourself, ladies, there are some men who bring more drama than we do.

Online Dating Drama

Case in point…

We’ve already determined that online dating is like being in a candy store, so of course, you have options and you don’t want to limit your options. However, some men think that after one conversation that you are their woman and should immediately close your account and only deal with him. Boy bye! You can not lay claim after one conversation.


One of my friends met a man online and after several conversations and a couple of dates, he asked her over for dinner, which they prepared together (turns out that he couldn’t really cook).  After dinner, she is helping to put food away and notices that there are leftovers in the fridge. She asked if he had cooked those things and he said, “No, my ex has a key and comes over to cook every now and then.”

REALLY? Your ex?

But that’s not the kicker.

He then went on to tell her that he needed to be honest with her about something and proceeded to tell her that he had herpes!



Good thing they never had sex or even kissed. I mean, there is nothing wrong with folks with herpes but, in my Big Sean voice, “I’m not *ucking with you.” Period!

Of course, I’m sure there have been several people who are online “pretending” to be single but are actually married or in relationships. I have been told by several men that they have met women online who are married and say that these online dating sites are a means of entertainment for them. As for men, I suppose that they want their cake and eat it to.

Case in point of how some men try to play games:

I met a guy online, who seemed pretty cool but my biggest hesitation was that he was a bodyguard and if you have been reading my blog for awhile, then you know about my relationship with a celebrity bodyguard and how that ended. (Click the pink link) I decided to give the brother a chance and we had a brief meeting. Later he calls and says that he wanted to kiss me when he saw me.

Strike 2

(Being a bodyguard was strike 1). I just sort of brushed off what he was saying, but then he asked could he come over. I responded “no” and explained to him that not only don’t I invite people to my house that I just met but I also explained that I don’t introduce my son to men whom I am not serious with.  He “seemed” to be cool with that but then proceeded to invite me over his friends house. I’m thinking,

“Hell, no! What are we? In high school?”

I suggested that we meet at Friday’s or Dave & Buster’s, and he responded  that he would let me know.

Now, you know me, I tend to over analyze things and what I noticed was that he never invited me to his place (not that i would have gone), but it made me wonder, what’s really going on? He could very well be as cautious as I am but by now, my Bullshit Meter was reading him as on some REAL BULLSHIT.

I didn’t hear back from him until about 10 pm via text and he said, “Sorry, babe. My phone died. I just finished charging it.” I knew something was up with this dude, so I responded, “Oh. okay. Give me a call.” He responded back, “I need to charge my phone.” Fool, you just said that you had “just” charged your phone. Now, you need to charge it again?

Nawl, Boo. Don’t worry about a thing. Keep charging your phone and loss my number because I’m blocking yours. Dueces!



As I mentioned in Part 1 of this series, online dating allows you to weed out the bad seeds pretty quickly, that is, unless you are on some bullshit, too, then you guys will be good together but for those of us who have little tolerance for drama and bullshit, quickly pass on that fool and move on to the next prospect. He can save all the drama for the next chick!

the sexy single mommy


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on June 1, 2016

I laughed, I was supposed to laugh but I laughed. I also talked back to the screen when I saw his ex has a key and randomly comes in to cook. REALLY SIR!

I met my Babe on the “innanet” 12 years ago. It wasn’t a dating website or anything but still. He is stuck with me because I’m not cut out for dating. Case and point the stories above. lol

on June 1, 2016

I loved listening to my BFFs online dating drama! She’s married now so it worked out in the end!

on June 1, 2016

Dating is fun and interesting. I have some stories that I could share from my experiences. After I gave up on dating I decided to give this guy a chance and he turned out to be the love of my life. I how you are aware and have rules in place. I tell my friends you need to have a dating strategy and BS filter. Set your standards and don’t break them.

on June 1, 2016

I’m so happy I do not have to date anymore… God willing. These stories scare me. An ex who has keys and he has herpes… and ole boy who can’t keep a lie straight just needs to stop.

on June 1, 2016

I tried online dating once and boy was it a roller coaster! There are def some bad apples out there just like in real life.

    on June 5, 2016

    Yes, it is a roller coaster and not easy at all. I wonder how people meet their mates on here?

on June 1, 2016

Oh wow. Navigating through the dating world as a single mother is dangerous. Thank you for sharing your experience with me.

    on June 5, 2016

    It can be but you have to trust your instincts for sure

on June 1, 2016

Online dating seems to have ups and down but it’s definitely a great way to get out there and connect…a good way to get back in the dating scene if you’ve been out for a while…ya know, work out the kinks before meeting someone that you really want to impress.

    on June 5, 2016

    It is a great way of getting back into the dating scene but you have to pay attention to what people say and do and trust your instincts for sure.

      on June 5, 2016

      Most Def!

on June 2, 2016

HIS EX STILL HAD A KEY?! O_O Girl online dating is a headache for me. Some stories are funny, but the others lawd…

    on June 5, 2016

    Girl, YES!!! Can you imagine. I can’t with some of these fools!

on June 2, 2016

I was bracing myself for something truly terrible, lol. At least you saw the red flags before you got into anything with him.

    on June 5, 2016

    The most important thing to me when dating online is to trust your instincts!

on June 2, 2016

All I can say is that I am so glad I missed this whole online dating thing since I’ve been ,married 22 yrs! I would hate to have to go through drama.

on June 2, 2016

Okay, I just got caught up. 3 blog posts later… dang. I’m clearly not cut out for the newfangled dating scene. I know folks that have been successful with it, but the ones that aren’t? Lawd…

    on June 5, 2016

    LOL! It is more than a notion and not for everyone for sure!

on June 3, 2016

I never dated online. I am too creeped out by the potential of meeting some crazy person. People are really crazy in this world.

    on June 5, 2016

    MJ, it is a bit crazy but you have to be careful in what you share and who you decide to meet in person.

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