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Can You Be In Love With Two People At Once?

He Said / March 10, 2016

Can you be in love with two people at once?  My simple answer is no.

Now what’s there to write about then you say?

The reasons why I think you can’t be in love with two people at once.

I’ve been in love on two occasions.  With that, I tend to be sort of the mindset that being in love is lovely but can be draining. The times I have been in love I couldn’t picture loving someone else with the same fervor. Love is action packed and a lot of giving is involved.

Can You Be In Love With Two People At Once?

You can love more than two people obviously. We love many people in our lives. What I think is a common misconception for many is loving one person and lusting for someone else. Now I think this is completely possible.  You might be in love with someone but maybe they haven’t fulfilled you sexually as you would like. For the record, I doubt I could be that person to feel this way but in the immortal words of Kevin Garnet  “anything is possible.”  Someone may have all the other tools you look for in a person but your sex life may leave you not feeling alive.

Another reason I don’t think you can be actually in love with two people at once is because that involves some sort of sharing of attention. I really believe that when you’re in love, the sharing of your emotions might arguably mean more than the sharing of your body. I can picture someone getting over a cheating fiasco, but to hear your lady say she loves someone else might cut even deeper.

Can You Be In Love With Two People At Once?

You have to have a clear distinction of what it’s like to be in love and what it is to just have love for someone. I always think of love being a dormant volcano. It has all this potential and there’s no doubt that it’s there. But being in love is when a volcano erupts. When those joints erupt it isn’t deniable and it sure as hell ain’t no joke. I cannot picture having this volcanic eruption feeling for two people simultaneously. How could you even live?  Maybe you all could tell me in the comments below. I just think it sometimes comes down to love and lust… and maybe you actually dig the person you lust for. But actually being in love? I just don’t know. I’m all eyes, let’s talk about it.

These are my words and I make no apologies.


Have you ever been in love with two people at once?

If you have, how does that work?

Can you be in love with the person that lust for? 

Is there a difference between being in love and having love for someone? 

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Damn Pops is a Brooklyn native and resident. He has aspirations to one day be a marriage counselor and author. He has been "blogging" for 4 years now. You can reach Damn Pops at: Single Black Male Viral Status Twitter: @DamnPops

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