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Top 5 Reasons to Say Yes to Dating in 2016

Dating & Relationships / December 29, 2015

Dating after a break-up can be challenging for anyone, no matter what stage you are in life.  The longer the relationship, the more difficult it is to get “back in the game.”

As dating opportunities arise, we often come up with reasons why we shouldn’t accept the invitation, ranging from “I’m too busy” to “He just isn’t my type.”  Yes, meeting new people can be scary and exhausting, but if you want to find love, you have to push through the fear and live your life knowing you’ll get what you want.

Prioritize yourself. Make it a New Year resolution to say yes to dating in 2016. You’re never going to have what you want if you don’t leave the house. Maintaining an open and optimistic attitude is essential to learning what makes you happy and finding it.

 

Here are 5 reasons I said yes—and ultimately found my soul mate.

  1. Practice makes perfect. Let’s face it: if you’re coming out of a long relationship, you‘re probably out of practice when it comes to basic things such as flirting, reading social cues and navigating the general world of dating. Take a step forward and say yes to a date that you feel is less than perfect. Dip your toes in the water and polish your dating technique.
  2. He could be a friend. If a friend, co-worker or prospective new date asks you to a social event – SAY YES. You may think this person isn’t your type or that you’ve already gone out once and it didn’t work. But if you keep things light you may discover that he has great friends and so do you. Expanding your circle of friends can bring you new opportunities to meet new friends and new opportunities. Not every date has to be your next forever. But it could lead to a solid friendship.
  3. You need to find out what you want. My grandmother used to say that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before your find Prince Charming. While most of us aren’t waiting around for Prince Charming, it still holds true that you have to find out what you want to know what you want. Date with a purpose and pay attention to how you feel with each interaction. You may think you know what you want, but meeting new people will allow your internal voice to guide you and reveal what really makes you happy.Say yes, and pay attention to what makes you feel good.
  4. The situation may surprise you. Many of us have a list of the features or traits that we look for in a mate. It’s important to know what you want, but don’t create a rigid box that doesn’t allow you to expand or be open to new things that you want in life. If you say yes, the person or situation may just surprise you—and you may surprise yourself. Opposites often attract, so try a social situation or date that you would normally dismiss because it sits outside of our box.
  5. Get ready for the real thing. It’s natural to desire a mate. You never know when someone who is perfect for you will cross your path. Although you may feel ready, you want to ensure that you’ve done your homework and are truly ready. You can’t expect to come out of a relationship and be prepared for “the one.” Say yes so that you’ve given yourself an opportunity to know what’s important to you, and how to recognize and land your soul mate.

Happy dating.

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Kelly Green
Kelly Green is the author of the forthcoming memoir Back in the Game: My Year of Dating Dangerously, scheduled for release in early 2016. She lives in Austin, Texas.




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17 Comments

on January 4, 2016

Good advice for those going back to the dating scene. I think people forget that the person could be a really good friend, if nothing else.

    on January 4, 2016

    That’s very true. Every person will not make a good mate but could become a really good friend.

on January 4, 2016

This is good advice. Dating is tough and sometimes we need encouragement to keep at it.

    on January 4, 2016

    So true. Dating is not for the faint at heart. LOL!

on January 4, 2016

This is some great advice. If I were on the market I would totally do this.

on January 4, 2016

This is so true! I think back to when I dated my now husband, I learned quickly to expect the unexpected. Great post!!

on January 4, 2016

I wish I had dated around to find out what I want. What I wanted in my 20s is a whole lot different than what I want in my 30’s. I got married so young that I didn’t know who I was to know what I wanted. I wouldn’t advise that to anyone these days. Wait and date.

on January 4, 2016

When I was a single mom I dated all the time, I think it is so important to get a break… Your reason are great reasons…

on January 4, 2016

Great advice for individuals entering the dating scene!

on January 5, 2016

Great advice, I’ve certainly heard some of my girls say a few of these to reason away a date. Well Happy New Year to them because I’m sending them this article. lol

on January 5, 2016

I think this is sage advice. It never hurts to put yourself out there, and you will meet interesting people and potentially new friends in the process.

on January 5, 2016

I think this is great advice! Oh the possibilities 🙂

on January 5, 2016

Great tips! I’ve been out of the dating pool for a while. I told myself that I need to be more open to love in 2016, and these tips are definitely going to help me. Thanks 🙂

on January 5, 2016

This post is so for me, lol. I hate dating and having to start over. I’ve found myself recycling exes to keep from having to learn someone new, lol

on January 5, 2016

Great advice. This definitely gives me a boost. The challenge for me is getting out of the house lol. I’m such a homebody.

on January 6, 2016

Sheesh, dating is definitely hard work lol. My husband and I dated for a few years before we were married and I’m glad we were able to develop an awesome friendship as well in the process.



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