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8 Foolproof Ways To Make Your Relationship Feel Like It Day On Day One

Dating & Relationships / November 11, 2015

The beginning of a relationship is all butterflies and rainbows. It feels like a fairytale that you want to never end. But soon, those butterflies fly back down to earth, and you can’t find the rainbows anymore. This fairytale isn’t what it used to be. I’m not saying it’s a book of horrors, but it could use a little fairy dust. Most relationships go through this. You lose sight of those fireworks and don’t know how to get that intense spark back.

Here are some tips to make your relationship feel like it did in the beginning.


In the beginning of a new relationship, it’s all about being spontaneous. As your relationship goes on, so does your routine. Routines are great, but you two need to spice up the spontaneity. Don’t you remember when you both used to go out on a work night, just because? Or when you decided to drive to Las Vegas that one weekend last minute? These are the nights you’ll never forget. Make more of those moments.



Don’t you remember when you first starting dating and you two would just make out for hours on the couch? It was like you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other, or your lips. As the relationship grows, unfortunately, the making out starts to fade. Well, I say, bring on those kisses again! Start acting like you two are teenagers and get to kissin’.


An excellent way to rekindle your relationship is to reminiscence about when you two first met. Talking about the moment you first saw each other can bring back those old butterflies. Go on your very first date again and laugh about those silly awkward (but cute) moments you once had. Bring up your first kiss and how you knew he was the one when he just went for it.

Date Differently


Your once-romantic dinners turned into TV dinners while watching the news. Um, no, thank you. Turn this around. Start planning out actual date nights with each other. Switch off planning the dates to make it fun. Go on dates you both have never been on. Try a new kind of food together. Travel to a different city. Date differently.

Spice Up the Bedroom

Spicing it up shouldn’t just be meant for the kitchen. You also need to spice it up in the bedroom. If you and your partner’s sex life has become one note, you’re going to need to add in some flavor. Think back to how you two got down in the beginning and do those moves again. Let that wild side of you show again. Try out new moves, or even new places. Who knows where this can take you.


In the beginning of your relationship, holding hands was the name of the game. You two were the cuddle masters and no one could dethrone you. How quickly things can change. Pick up those hands and start holding on to each other. Even hugging one another can make you feel more connected than you ever imagined. So in order to not lose touch with each other, start touching more often.


In the first months of dating, you both used your words to express how you feel. After you know you have your relationship on lockdown, these words start to lessen. Those sweet loving texts aren’t being sent as much and those compliments aren’t being told as much. But you can’t lie, you miss those “You’re the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen” texts or those love notes left on each other’s cars. Start speaking up again. Tell your loved one how much you love him or her.

Sleep Together

Getting enough sleep in life is important. So is getting enough sleep with your partner. When a relationship starts, you two usually go to sleep together. But as months pass, you might be putting your relationship on snooze. One of you usually ends up on the couch watching TV, while the other decides to hit the hay alone. This creates less intimacy and is the opposite of rekindling your relationship. Start making a conscious effort to go to sleep together. A happy bed makes a happy couple.

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on November 11, 2015

These are soooooo true! Like all of them! I’ve been trying to make sure I implement them in my relationship because after having my son we had a little period where we felt more like roommates than anything else. It’s important to want to get back on track! Love this.

    on November 11, 2015

    Hey Tanay. After having a baby, it’s really hard because the focus becomes on the baby. These tips will help you get things back to the way they used to be.

on November 11, 2015

These are so simple but SO OVERLOOKED! Thanks for posting these. I’m taking notes!!

    on November 11, 2015

    Hi AC! Yes, we often don’t even think of the simple things! Glad you enjoyed the list!

on November 11, 2015

Great tips, the mister and I have been together for twelve years. Believe me we do several of these but I will add the others to the list.

    on November 11, 2015

    Hi Mimi! Have fun! Hope they help!

on November 11, 2015

My husband and I have been together for so long and I agree that you need to mix it up every now and then. I think I’ll try to go on some different dates as you suggested. Sounds like it could be really fun!

    on November 11, 2015

    Hey Stacie. Yes, you do need to switch it up sometimes. Let me know how those date nights go!

on November 11, 2015

This is right on time. Hubs and I are creeping up on 10 years together and we could benefit from some spicing up 🙂

    on November 11, 2015

    Congrats, T. I’m glad this list can help.

on November 11, 2015

Great tips! I agree each one is needed to keep the relationship fresh. 🙂


    on November 11, 2015

    Thanks Siobhan

on November 12, 2015

I think people are sleeping on the art of kissing! Every relationship I had started off with a fire kiss and the saying is true…you can put the spark back in your relationship with a kiss!

on November 12, 2015

Oh, I love all of these tips!! I am going to try all of these.

    on November 12, 2015

    Glad to hear it. Enjoy!!

on November 12, 2015

Alright now! I love this post especially the points on dating differently and spicing up the bedroom. It can be so easy to get into a routine, but doing these two things have kept the spark in my new marriage.

on November 12, 2015

After ten years of marriage, I have to agree with all of these tips! They are spot on, and so necessary for keeping a fresh relationship.

on November 13, 2015

Awesome tips to keep the fire burning! These small gestures are often overlooked as the relationship progresses. I especially love the spontaneity tip.

on November 13, 2015

These are all great tips. Things can get way less romantic when you’re busy with kids and just life stuff. It’s easy to just fall into a routine. My husband and I recently went on a date to Dave & Buster’s instead of just going out to dinner. It’s a simple thing but it reminded us of how we used to have fun before we had kids.

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