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Make no mistake, married men who are fooling around can be very attentive and romantic. He can be texting and calling you all day long, filling your heart with affirmations you never dreamed of, showering you with gifts, and making world-class love to you. It can be the stuff of which fantasies are made & here’s why: to him it is a fantasy. So how can you tell that the man you’re dating is married? Here are clues dating married man.
1. You’re suspicious.
Suspecting every man is prejudice, & means nothing. However, if you suddenly get suspicious about the particular man you’re dealing with, trust your instincts. Where there’s smoke there’s fire.
2. His tone of voice gets guarded, he won’t make eye contact & is evasive when certain topics come up like family, children, vacations, where he lives, etc.
You’ve never been to his house because yours is more “convenient.” He vaguely talks about his kids and of course, there is an “ex,” but you don’t really know much about their situation. He isn’t fully disclosing much of anything even when it would seem appropriate. He alludes to “things he’ll tell you about later.”
3. He insists that all contact be on his terms only.
He gives some reason why you must only call him at work or on his cell. You ask for his home phone number & he says that he doesn’t have one. He will call you before he “goes to bed” to say good night as a way of keeping you from calling him. If you do call him late at night, you don’t get him but his voicemail instead and of course his excuse will always be that he was sleep.
Married men can be very ingenious about situations like this & if you’re sprung, you’ll find a way to rationalize his particular excuse. Don’t!
4. It’s the best sex you’ve ever had.
He lays the “D” like none other and has you looking for his ass in the daylight with a flashlight. Girl, don’t allow yourself to be dickmatized! Nothing stokes a man’s fire like forbidden love unless it’s forbidden love with no possibility of the “c” word.
5. His heart’s not on the line.
You sense an imbalance of vulnerability, and this is intuitive. When two available people are dating, both presumably are anxious for it to work out, and are equally at-risk. When you’re playing for keeps & he’s just playing, he won’t care as much about how you’re getting along. He has the security of the marriage & nothing to lose but an exciting good time.
6. After an appropriate amount of time he doesn’t suggest meeting each other’s friends.
If you do met one of his friends, it’s probably one of his friend’s who is also cheating on his wife and he doesn’t have to worry about the guy code being broken.
7. He gives strange reasons for not wanting to go to certain places (like your favorite restaurant).
You first met him at a happy hour (where he’s known and someone might tell his wife) and after that every place he takes you to is in another county. (There’s a part of town he definitely avoids. Guess why?)
8. He pays for restaurants, motels, resorts, and airplane tickets in cash rather than by credit card.
No, he’s not BALLIN. He’s covering his tracks.
9. He is never available on Sundays, late nights or early mornings.
For some men, Saturday night may be Boys Night Out, however, he knows that he needs to be in by a certain hour and he can never stay over night. Sundays are usually strictly “family time,” so don’t expect to see him. That goes for holidays, too. So with Labor Day right around the corner, don’t plan or seeing him or hearing much from him, that’s family time.