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When you’re worth $735 million, marriage is not something that you take lightly and Diddy says he’ll do a “love contract” with no problem but signing a marriage certificate…not so much.
This week, Diddy, 45, who has been dating girlfriend, Cassie Venture, 28, since 2008, appeared on Watch What Happens Live, to promote his new fragrance, 3am, when the topic of relationships and marriage came up. He told Andy Cohen, “No honestly, I just don’t think I’m ready right now [for marriage], but I’m a great boyfriend.”
Although Diddy is sworn off of marriage, for the time being at least, he did say that he is down with a “love contract” with financial perks.
“I don’t know [if I’ll ever get married]. It’s the whole thing of; I think you have to be ready for it because it’s somebody else’s heart involved. That’s just a lot of responsibility and I don’t want to be going to court and having somebody interfere in my relationship. So I’d rather just do the “Goldie Hawn.” But I will give a contract. I will commit to a contract, a love contract. I’m talking about where there’s some money involved too if there’re any problems. You have to have an agreement. You can’t just love somebody, take them and y’all just part.”
Lifestyle clauses are n ow being added to pre-and postnuptial agreements, especially with those with assets. Some of those clauses include weight requirements between partners, ultimatums addressing infidelity and even guidelines about the frequency of sex.
The agreements — dubbed love contracts — can quell the concerns and establish ground rules between soon-to-be-weds and those in long-term relationships, like Diddy and Cassie or Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. Love contracts are usually drawn up for couples who are already married and want to strengthen their marriage.
For those who never intend on getting married but instead want to live together, consulting a lawyer to set up a to cohabitation agreement. According to New York attorney and love contract specialist Ann-Margaret Carrozza, by setting up a cohabitation agreement, “there’s no expectation of marriage or a claim that someone led the other on.”
I’m not mad at Diddy. If I had as much money as Diddy, I probably wouldn’t be interested in getting married either. I would have a Stedman and you can just call me, Oprah, honey! Why go through all the motions and who is the wedding for you or the people around you? If you are committed and worth major dollars, I say go ahead and sign that love contract.
A love contract puts everything on the table and leaves no room to question where the relationship stands. If you are both committed to one another and agree to a love contract, then why not? Considering that the divorce rate is 50%, a love contract may be something that people may want to reevaluate.
Think about all the long-term relationships that you have been in or people who you know have been in and what did they walk away with? No much of nothing, I’m sure except some hurt feelings and a couple of extra bags to carry into your next relationship. What if you decided that you didn’t want to get married for whatever reason, but you were in love? Would you consider a love contract?
Now I’m not sure if Cassie ever wants to get married but being the girlfriend of Diddy has to have some terrific perks and hell, if she spends her 20’s with Diddy and decided that she wanted to do something else, hey, I’m sure she will walk away in a better position than had she never been with him. Besides, who knows, maybe they have already signed a love contract and she just may see a cool mill on her way out.
What do you think about love contracts?
Would you sign a love contract?
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