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Mr. Wrong AKA Good D Won’t Pay Your Bills

Dating & Relationships / March 17, 2015


I had an ex send me a link to “Mr. Wrong,” by Mary J Blige with a message saying, “This is about me.”  Now, if you have followed my blog, then you know the ex that I am speaking of, “Mr. Emotionally Unavailable.”  Anywho, I had never heard this song before, so I clicked the link to watch the video and found myself zoning into the words.

Drake starts the song with a rap and these are the lyrics that stood out:

“…And I’m always her regret, yeah, I’m always her regret
And I always make it harder on whoever’s coming next
It goes up and down, it’s just up and down
She’s crying now but she’ll laugh again
Cause we on the rise and she here with us
In expensive shit, just keeps happening
She loves it, she stares at me like who does this
And we hold hands while I pray that she’s not the type to hold grudges
I’m wrong…”

“Who does this?”  I have asked myself this question more than once and I am sure that many of you have,  as well.  How many of you ladies, have had regrets about the Mr. Wrong that was or is currently in your life?

Mary goes on to say,

“Bad boys aint no good
Good boys aint no fun”

Ha! Isn’t that the truth and that’s the damn problem with so many of us, women?  We love the bad boy but hate all the BS that he brings, yet, even though we know he isn’t any good for us, Mary says,

“When he put that loving on me, I can’t think of nothing
That’ll make me walk out
I’m holding on”

Let me start by saying, that Mary  hit the nail on the head cause baby, when you have that good good…I mean that GOOD GOOD, it can have you doing some crazy shit. Shit that you would have never thought you would have done or would have accepted but there comes a day when good d will not be able to erase all the broken promises and broken hearts and then what?  You can’t take good d to the store and purchase anything, nor can you pay a bill with good d, so in the scheme of things, what can it really do but make you feel good for a few minutes and it’s all over.  Sure, we may get caught up in the afterglow, but really ladies, there is more to life and love than good d.

Many of you have been reading my blog long enough to know that I have had my share of Mr. Wrong’s thus, it is part of the reason why I started blogging, to share my experiences in the hopes that it may keep some of you from making the same mistakes.  Many of us have been in a relationship with a few Mr. Wrongs and if we received nothing else from the Mr. Wrongs in our lives, we have all received a lesson.  Now sometimes, many of us have had to learn several lessons from Mr. Wrongs before we finally got it right, while others only needed one time to learn that lesson from Mr. Wrong to know that we never wanted to feel or be treated that way again.

mr wrong 1As for my Mr. Wrong, AKA Mr. Emotionally Unavailable, he wasn’t an asshole….well, that can probably be debated but he wasn’t a man who dogged me out, made me cry or did all kinds of messed up things to me.  He was and is emotionally unavailable.  He is that guy who is good to you but he is also that guy who you can’t expect anything from.  So what was my lesson learned, you may ask?   I you want something more, something real, don’t settle for Mr. Wrong, wait for your Mr. Right.



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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on March 17, 2015

Every woman has had a MR WRONG.!!!

    on March 17, 2015

    Yes, indeed Darlene.

on March 22, 2015

I’m curious Ty…do you think women are aware that a man is Mr. Wrong before they get with him, while they are with him or after the relationship or situation has ended?

    on March 25, 2015

    Hey Jay. I don’t think that women know that a man is Mr Wrong all the time from the jump, however, there are several times when the signs are clearly there and we tend to ignore them.

      on March 26, 2015

      That’s real. I appreciate you taking the time out to answer my question. Thanks Ty!

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