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So What You Saying?
You’ve been dating someone special for a while now, and it’s definitely going somewhere. In fact, it’s going so well you’ve lost interest in the other guys you were maybe dating. You’re telling your girlfriends about him and you stop just short of calling him your boyfriend because … is he your boyfriend yet? And if you’ve stopped dating other guys, has he stopped dating other women, too? Lady, it’s time to Define The Relationship — also known as the “what are we” talk. And it’s not as hard as it seems.
1. Feel out to see if you’re both ready. Do you find yourself wondering what the status of your relationship is? Does it feel natural to think of him as your boyfriend? What about him — is he spending more and more time with you, making plans in advance? Has he bought you a toothbrush to keep at his apartment? (That’s when I knew.) Has he introduced you to friends or family? Are people starting to ask you if you’re a couple? Do you like the idea of both of you as a couple?
2. Find the right time. Right after sex is not one of those times, okay? Pick a moment (other than that, or during sex) when you’re both feeling relaxed and can focus on each other for a few minutes without being interrupted. I think one of your homes is better than in a public place, too. Also, don’t be drunk. Like, maybe don’t drink at all for this conversation, even if you’re nervous.
3. Keep the conversation light. Don’t make it a heavy thing — keep the tone upbeat and fun as much as possible. You’re not discussing your will with your lawyer.
4. Start with a positive opener. Notice something. “This is the best weekend we’ve spent together, and this is the third one in a row, too!” Bring up something you do together that seems to indicate that you’re, you know, headed into relationship territory. Whatever you do, don’t start with WE NEED TO TALK.
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