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Learn How To Satisfy Your Partner

Dating & Relationships / He Said / November 6, 2014

This post is directed to both men and women alike. This is something both genders need help with and this particular subject ruins so many relationships, be it dating, girlfriend/boyfriend, or marriage. I am always hearing about people breaking up, and when I find out the reason, it is usually something very petty.  It usually goes a little something like this…

  • He does not listen
  • He does not want to take me anywhere
  • He spends too much time with his friends and not me
  • She doesn’t cook enough
  • She won’t let me do this or that in bed
  • She spends too much money

I have seen people break up and divorce over this type of petty shit, when all they had to do was satisfy each other. I mean come on folks,

when you love someone and are in a relationship with them, you owe it to them to SATISFY.

Learn How To Satisfy Your Partner

Hell you owe it to yourselves, because when you are pleasing your mate, more than likely you will get what you want in return. Every relationship is different, so what works for your relationship will be different from the next, but everyone wants satisfaction. Think about it for a minute, if you love someone, I mean really love someone, don’t you want them to be happy? Are you always complaining about your mate, and do you always find yourself telling them what they need or should be doing better?

Well how about the next time you find yourself getting ready to complain, ask yourself, “am I doing all that I can for my man or woman, or whatever you got yourself?”

There are often times when we think that we are so perfect in our relationships that we forget to check ourselves.

Ladies, do you clean up enough? Do you let your man take control and make most of the decisions concerning the house? You know we really like that you know! Men, do you walk up behind your woman in the kitchen when you get home from work and grab her from behind and squeeze her and say “I LOVE YOU?” When was the last time you sent her some roses, huh? Oh and the bedroom, I know that men and sex go hand in hand, but fellas the ladies like to get off too, you know. How about waking her up in the middle of the night with some tongue action, and when you are done, roll back over and go to sleep. Let her know that you had a taste for that thang, and you just wanted to show her a little appreciation. I bet you get breakfast the next morning, take it from me, it works!

It’s not just about you bro, it’s about satisfying her every need, and sometimes we can get caught up in wanting all of our fantasies fulfilled and we forget about her.

Settling For So-So

If you practice satisfying your significant other, they will soon follow and if they do not, get rid of they’re ass. I had to learn this very thing myself, and I’m glad that I did not wait until I was an old man to realize it. You cannot go around telling someone how wrong they are all of the time, and you are not handling your biz as you should be. When you stop and take a look at the things that you are not doing, I bet you that you will have more flaws than your mate. So find out what it is that your love is wanting and give it to them. Give it to them so good that they will have no other choice but to want to satisfy you in return.

Y’all are going to have to excuse me, I’m about to go eat, if you know what I mean (smile).

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Kataurus Braswell
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on September 28, 2012

Amen Amen and Amen!
This is soooo very true. I tell this to women all the time check yourself, cleanup before you complain. Love it!
Tastefully SoSo

on September 30, 2012

Thanks, glad u liked it so so tasty.

on October 18, 2012

Hi Kataurus, I was perplexed at first – I thought I was reading a post written by the Sexy Single Mommy – and it soon became blatantly obvious it was written by a man! You’re right of course – probably every single word of it – yet, I cringe at the decision making part. I don’t let my man take control often enough.. but to be fair I’m not often woken up in the middle of the night feeling like a Vanilla Ice Cream cone either! Great post and great advice – I’m gonna ‘suggest’ that my hubbie reads it when he gets home tonight:)

    on October 19, 2012

    Thanks Josie, I just believe in leaving little room for complaints as possible. I might not be perfect, but there will be some things that I will not get complaints on. If you are going to be with the same person for life, you better make that Sh** pleasurable.

on October 13, 2013

This is awesome! I could definitely brush up on some things myself. Being expressive with our feelings is something a lot of men have a hard time doing and I need to do better. Washing a car or taking someone out to a nice dinner may show that you love someone, but it’s icing on the cake if you tell them, too.

Great post.

    on October 14, 2013

    Thanks, I think he makes some very valid points!!

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