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Dear Mr. Right (A Letter to my Future)

Dating & Relationships / Parenting / October 29, 2014

Dear Mr. Right,

How are you? I pray that all is well. As for me and the girls, GOD is truly good to us. He has provided us with a place to stay, food to eat, and clothes on our backs. If He doesn’t give me anything else, I am truly blessed!! So I can’t complain.

LIFE is giving me all that I am asking for and more.

Mr. Right, I was just thinking about you and wanted to send you a kite. I want to talk to you about some real shit right now….

Since you’ve been gone, I’ve been holding it down. I must admit, I am very proud of myself for several reasons, but here are just a few of them.

  • I’m still PUSHING.
  • I acknowledge GOD in all that I do, and I live my life based totally on my faith, TOTALLY!!!
  • I’m a real hustler these days, and most of all…..
  • I know what I want.
  •  and I KNOW MY WORTH

Now let me tell you what I want from you. Pay attention, I didn’t say “need”.  But anyway, these are the things I’d like from you…


  • First of all, get saved. It’s not going to be easy, but you should at least be baptized. Take the first step in your walk and all else will fall in place.
  • Be a MAN. Know what your home needs without having to be told. You see, the man who is the Head of my life is already giving me what I NEED, so I’d just like it if you give me what I’d like in a man.
  • Find something that you like to do and DO IT. When you have a good woman, she becomes your support system because she sees something in you, just don’t take her as fool, because she can see through bullshit and will move on, leaving you with nothing but what you came into the relationship with.
  • Be a good father to the girls. Tell them the real deal on these fellas, and don’t let them fool you with those sad faces and eye batting. Being able to instill good values in the girls is important. Be a Father Figure. Show my girls what a good man is supposed to be so that they will grow up knowing that they don’t have to take less than they deserve from any man, and the only way you can teach them that, is if you are a real man yourself.


I mean is that asking for too much? I only ask for 4 things. Most woman have a list. But see, the difference between their list and my list is this, 

They are asking for so much “shit” that they don’t even realized that they aren’t asking for the right thing. 

I believe if you ask the Lord for a man who knows he’s a man and one that loves and fears Him, everything else will fall into place. So I figured if I ask you to commit to the simple things required of man, it would be more influencing. Now if it is too much to ask for, I understand, I really do. I know everyone just can’t do right. Just keep it real with me now.. Because if you mess up, I’ll disappear, leaving nothing but memories.

Well, if you’re all in, sign your name on the dotted line and it’s a sealed deal…

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Portia Clyde

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on April 16, 2013

Thank you for reading my post and allowing me to share it with your readers. I hope it help at least 1 woman today. As long as you know your worth ladies, you should be BOLD in what you ask from a man, your potential husband. It doesn’t take a whole lot to get to the main commitment. Having those long list of things you want from a man from physical to sexual, ain’t gone get you Mr. Right, but it will attract Mr. For the Moment, who is going to stick around until he is bored. He’s not the one you need so why waste time?

Of Course they are going to want to know what they get in return, but that’s when you tell “Hey I’m not asking anything from you that I don’t plan I’m giving you in return”. In life, you’ve got to have faith and believe that all things are possible. Thank you again Sexy Mommy, You ROCK!!!

    on April 17, 2013

    Portia, Thank you for sharing this post. I agree with everything you said and too many women get caught up with a 50 item list that no one man can fulfill. You do have to have faith and believe that God will send the man that you are supposed to be with. The problem is that we try to find him ourselves and come up short more often than not.

on April 17, 2013

Portia. What a great letter and list. I certainly do not think it is too much to ask for in a man. I would just add 2 things. One, you probably want a man that is living a Christ-like life and not just saved or baptiized. There are plenty of saved, baptized Christians who are living lifestyles that are no different from someone that is unsaved. Also, a Christlike man will probably be turned off by the profanity. I know I would. This is just a word to the ladies out there if you want to Christ-like man please watch the words you choose. You may talk you way out of Mr. Right. I wish you and your girls all of God’s Blessings.

    on April 18, 2013

    Shawn I definitely want a Christ-like man. That’s why I asked Mr. Right to be baptized, if he already isn’t. I understood there are a lot of luke warm Christians. And I don’t want a husband that’s luke warm in his faith. That alerts me that he’s luke warm as a man. I want him to understand I know the walk with GOD ain’t easy, I’m going through it with him, so I got his back!! Now about the cursing. I’m not big on curse words, but I curse occasionally. I’m definitely working on that, but that doesn’t define me as a woman. A woman with balls at that. So if a little cursing word offends my husband every now and then, then he’s not the one for me. The man designed for me will accept all things about me, flaws and all. So you’re right a man with sensitive ears wouldn’t be a part of the design, because I’m sassy like that. But I still love my GOD and I live in that truth. And last but not least if I talk Mr.Right out of my life the words have to be intentional and if they are, then he wasn’t the “Right” one anyway. The man GOD has designed for me ain’t going no where. Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

      on April 22, 2013


      I certainly understand. We are all a work in progress so I know we all struggle with our own issues. It was just odd to see a woman say she wants a Man of God in one sentence and curse in another. We are certainly more than the weight of our words, but words do have an impact on our witness to others. I hope you will continue to pray for me as I pray for you. I wish you all of God’s blessings.

        on April 22, 2013

        Shawn I can totally understand how that may be confusing for you and even someone else, but I’m not perfect never proclaimed to be, so I have my flaws like others. I own up to my them as well. I’m not the first nor will be I last Christian to curse, it’s a part of growth. I don’t curse like a sailor, but every now and then I do. I still want a man who loves and fears the LORD, that doesn’t change anything… I won’t say that I will pray for you, because by the end of the day I will forget, so I don’t tell people that unless I KNOW for a fact that I will. But I am definitely withing you many blessings.

          on April 22, 2013


          You are so right. I often forget so when I say I will pray for someone I do it right then. Helps me keep my word and hopefully blesses. them. So my sister I have already prayed for you and look forward to your wonderful testimony.

    on April 22, 2013

    Thank you Shawn!! XOXOXO

on April 18, 2013

It’s good that you know what you already want in a man. Being as specific as possible is important as it gives you mind something specific to work on, and then it goes about changing you into that person you need to become in order to attract that man. What a great idea to write a letter to your future partner, and then when it happens, you can read over it and remember how you felt then and feel now that it is happening.!

    on April 18, 2013

    I was really feeling myself the afternoon I pinned this letter. After having almost 3 years all to myself, it allowed me some time to tap into ME. So once my life started changing, so did my idea about what I want in a man. I have two kids, girls, and I can’t let just anyone in my life. Then only thing I forgot to mention in this letter is that I would like it if every now and then, my Husband makes me feel like I’m the ONLY woman in the world, and he GENUINELY does it… Yeah I can see myself writing a “I’m Mrs.” letter in about a year or two.

on April 21, 2013

Nice Post, and that was not to much to ask for!

on April 23, 2013

This is such a great post. There is power in writing your goals down. It does not matter if it is spiritual, financial or for a relationship. Putting it on paper makes it real.

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