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Men use relationships to get sex, women use sex to get relationships.
Only one of them really ends up getting what they want.
Sex is everywhere. There is no way to avoid it. You see it on television, you hear it in music and you see it on the big screen. The only thing that may be more surprising about the amount of time guys think about sex is the amount of time women talk about sex. Remember Sex in the City was a show about women.
The problem is that women have been feed 5 big sex lies that are getting them in trouble. Instead of helping to find the love they want, many women are actually father from a serious relationship than they have ever been.
Many women have been told that you really need to try it out before you commit to living a life with one person. It is sad to say many of these women are Christian women. They make it sound like a product that you can just take back to Wal-Mart if you don’t like it.
The problem with that lie is that if everything else is great most women are not going to leave a good guy just because the sex is not the greatest. If he is taking care of all the other needs then that is just something many women will live with. Besides, if he loves you enough he will learn to be a great lover.
Many women are told that they should be just like guys. Just have fun with it. The problem with that lie is that women are not like men. Men can detach their emotions and go from one bed to the next. Most women cannot. No matter how they try, most will still get attached if they really care about the guy they are having sex with. This will leave them more miserable not happier than before.
If a guy really wants to be with you, then he will wait. I know that I did. Also, if he is really following God’s word, he will wait. I know I did. I know I am not every man, but there are men that will respect a woman’s desire to wait until marriage. They are out there you just have to be patient. It is worth the wait.
Forget about marriage. Many women are told that no guy will even date them unless they are putting out. Here is just another lie that women have been fed so that guys can get what they want. The problem is that more and more women and sharing this lie with each other. There are guys out there that would be honored to date a woman who is not sleeping with the football team.
Most women ask the wrong question. They ask a guy will he still respect her in the morning if they have sex. Of course he will, but just not as much. Believe me the guy’s vision of you changes once he has “hit it.” He no longer has you on the same level that he had before because now you are no different from all the other women he has had sex with.
There is good news. There is a growing number of women who are committing themselves to wait until marriage before having sex. They have lived the lies and now see that they are no happier, loved or nearer a relationship then before they started having sex outside of marriage. Most men will not marry for sex, but they will marry for love. Sex should be a benefit of a loving relationship, not a replacement for one.
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