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What I Learned From Dating A Celebrity Bodyguard – After The Shit Hit The Fan

From the Editor / October 8, 2014

If you haven’t heard by now, The Sexy Single Mommy is back on the market.  Perhaps, I REALLY was never off the market,. This post is what happened after I learned everything that I did about the “celebrity bodyguard” and his dot com pimping ass.  Now hold on to your seats because like everything else I write, I’m  giving it to you straight with no chaser on how I caught ole boy cheating!

If you recall, I wrote a post a couple months ago about, “Lessons I Learned From Dating A Celebrity Bodyguard,” (click the link to refresh your memory.)  Well after knowing someone  thinking I knew someone after 9 years of friendship. I realized that I trusted the wrong person and that everything out of his mouth was a lie.  Here’s a few things that I learned about the celebrity bodyguard:

1.  Trust Your Intuition

For months, I kept telling my friends and myself that I was going to leave his ass alone because I felt that something was just not right.  Although I couldn’t put my finger on it, I knew that his get down had changed a bit and although he was on tour, something just wasn’t right.

Earlier this year, while on his computer, writing a blog post, I typed in a letter in the search bar and his previous searches came up.  The one that caught my eye was, “Black People Meet!”  Yes, the dating site.  At the time, I didn’t say anything. I just left it alone.  I didn’t click on it or do any snooping; I just left it alone, although it would bother the hell out of me when I felt that shit wasn’t right and that leads me to the next thing that I learned.

2.  If The Shit Ain’t Right, Say Something

I should have said something about what I found but I let it fester until he was in Asia and I wasn’t speaking to him like I was used to and went OFF on his Instagram, Facebook messages and text. When I said off, I mean OFF!! When we did speak, he said all the BS that I wanted to hear but down the line, I realized that was a lie, too.  Had I said what I was feeling when I first found out, I probably wouldn’t have had to lose my damn mind later.  Hold on! It’s coming…

3.  If A Man Can Always Tell You What Every Female Did Wrong To Him But Not HIS Part In Past Relationship Breakups, He’s Lying

As long as I have known him, I have heard about his exes who did him wrong, i.e., the chick that told him he had a crush on him back in high school that never said anything in high school but surfaced on Facebook and NOW wanted to tell him how she felt and he ended up buying the chick a house AND furnishing it but she ended up going back to his abusive ex.

Oh, and let’s not forget about his daughter’s mom who he bought a house, moved her to Cali and who while on tour decided she didn’t want to be here anymore and moved back to DC with her ex!

EVERY woman who he dealt with, did him wrong but it was NEVER anything that he did.


4.  Don’t Play Wifey Without The Ring

I did whatever it took to hold him down while he was gone.  I made sure that I sent him a text daily to let him know that I was thinking about him. When he came home, I would cook his favorite meal:  fried chicken, rice and gravy and mac and cheese.  Whatever he needed, I took care of that!

Now also along the lines of being “his good girl,” he wanted to start a blog, so I connected him with my site designer and worked as project manager for his site.  He would send me the notes from his travel and I would write the post. Basically, that blog was ALL me!

5.  Don’t Be So Damn Trusting

Because I was doing his blog for him, I had passwords to the blog and Facebook Fan Page but never thought to use them to check up on him UNTIL he just disappeared. YES, DISAPPEARED.  I was with him on a Thursday and EVERYTHING was all good.  He went out of town on Friday and was supposed to return on Monday.  I never heard from again. No text, no call, no Fuck You, Ty…No NOTHING!  I really didn’t know what to think and it wasn’t until about 2 weeks later something told me to use that password on his Facebook page and that’s when…



His Facebook inbox was filled with messages from all kinds of women who he must have either met or reconnected with on Facebook because they would leave their phone numbers. There were messages from chicks saying how much they missed him with explicit picture of a man giving a woman oral sex.  Other messages of him inviting some chick over who didn’t have gas money and him offering to give her money when she came over along with giving her his address. Ole girl said she would come over and asked if she could shower at his house and would be there after putting her girls to sleep.  The same chick sent him who a Facebook message the next morning saying what a good time she had. Another chick who I reached out to and not in a nice manner, responded that she was just with weeks ago in Vegas (which he was) and at his house.  It was just crazy!  With every message I read from these women I felt like I was being punched in the stomach.  And to top it off,

the words that I thought were ONLY for me, he was saying to SEVERAL other women…”I Love You!”

When I checked the email, he was even buying plane tickets for women to meet him where he was and paying bills for them!


6.  There’s Nothing Worse Than A Woman Scorned

I know that you are probably wondering what I did with this information, right?  Well, first, I sent him a text saying, “You might want to call me RIGHT NOW!”  After 20 mins and no response, I wrote a nice post on his Facebook page (remember I was logged in as him) saying,

PSA:  I just want to apologize to all of the women that I was playing while I was dot com pimping. I acknowledge that I am a dot com pimp and a true asshole. Please accept my apology.

You can imagine the responses that he got from his friends and family thinking that his page was hacked, which I made sure to tell had not been and that the idiot gave me the passwords.  Of course, I changed his Facebook password and I completely deleted EVERYTHING off of the blog that I had written which means that there is nothing there any more.

After an hour he posted that he had been hacked which I went back again and deleted and changed the password and then deleted his ENTIRE Facebook page.

Petty? Yeah, I’ll take the title…this time….


7.  Nothing Feels As Good As Revenge

Did I feel good after that?  Hell, yes but it didn’t stop the hurt that I felt nor make the deception of it all go away. To this day, I can not believe all the lies and deceit when all he had to do was tell me that he didn’t want to do US anymore.  It just goes to show that some men want their cake, your cake and cake from all over the world.  I trusted someone who I shouldn’t have and like I said before,

I should have trusted my intuition all along! 

8.  Say “NO!” To Television Court Shows

A few months go by and I receive a call from a producer of a television court show who says that he found my case online and asked if I would be interested in appearing on said court show to resolve the case. I’m like, “What?” I didn’t even know there was a damn case. He gave the information on the case and his number and I proceeded to look up the info.  Do you know that fool had the audacity to try to sue me for $5k! REALLY?

He was saying that I hacked into his “non-profit” website and deleted it, along with his Facebook page because I was upset about our breakup. This MF! “Non-profit?”  It was a DAMN TRAVEL BLOG!

I couldn’t even believe it! I called the producer back who told me that he had already spoken to him and he was cool with doing the show. I explained that it wasn’t going to happen! I’m still in shock!


So what happened?  Not a damn thing because he nor I never showed up for the court date and the case was dropped.

Lesson learned….trust my intuition…every…damn…time!!  Oh and NEVA date another celebrity bodyguard again! Oh well…



What lessons have you learned from a breakup?

the sexy single mommy


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on October 8, 2014

Damn! Hate that this happened to you, Sis. Thanks for being brave and sharing your pain. I know that someone will learn from this, and hopefully will avoid being hurt. Now where is this punk and when do we roll up on him? You know I got your back, girl!

    on October 8, 2014

    LOL! Thanks, Sophia. I’m sure this will help someone. It took a minute for me to write about it because I am still PISSED but this too shall pass and I do believe in Karma!

on October 9, 2014

Sorry to hear you were betrayed and hurt, like so many other women and men by uncaring people. However, some may find your response to the demise of your relationship reckless and immature.

I sincerely hope you are able to move on positively and continue to inspire others.

    on October 9, 2014

    Hey Portia. I agree, my response was not the best and I own that. It is, what it is.
    I have moved on and I appreciate your comments

on October 9, 2014

Bravo, bravo Ty! You did that mama. Yes, I’m a married mom but I’ve been there many times before and I’m a long time reader. I’m SO sorry you didn’t trust your gut like the ole’ folks say. You know how we do with giving the benefit of the doubt and ignoring things we shouldn’t. You did NOT deserve this and now you need to take some time to focus on YOU! Do some retail therapy, spend some time with your son and keep it moving.

on October 9, 2014

Good for you Ty!!! I been here several times and I know how you felt. I’m happy you trusted your instincts and have move forward without him. God will bring along the right one that is meant to be in your life. I know you are a great person with a good heart:)

    on October 9, 2014

    Hey Nikki. Thanks for the kind words. Against my better judgment, I ignored my intuition on several occasions. Lesson learned.

on October 10, 2014

Man I would have copy and pasted every private FB message as a new public FB post on his wall, so every chick could see every message he received from other chicks. (I know that’s not right…but it would have made me feel better) What the hell?!! Beyond being a liar, this dude put your health in danger because there’s no telling who he’s been with or when he lies so much. He wasn’t even brave enough, as a man to end his relationship with you in person. He sounds like a scared immature fool. How the hell you gonna be a bodyguard that’s too afraid to break up with a woman? What a chump! Kudos on deleting your content from his blog.

    on October 11, 2014

    LOL! I didn’t think about copying and pasting the message! I agree it is an HUGE Chump and his actions are beyond forgivable on ALL levels! I believe in Karma and it will most def come back to him!

on September 13, 2016

Oh wow!!! That was such a good story, you definitely had me anxiously reading to see what would happen next!!! I can’t believe the nerve on some guys…and then he had the audacity to try and sue you…and take you on television court?! Woah! Glad you found out about his ways before it got any more serious!

    on September 13, 2016

    Girl, yes!! That was some drama for sure! Glad it’s done and I know the truth!

on September 13, 2016

Whoa! I. WAS. NOT.READY! I am so sorry you went through this. I remember a similar situation happening some years back when technology wasn’t even like it is today. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t do some of the same things you did in response to finding out a grown man wanted to play boyish games. I went and sat my butt down somewhere after that relationship cause I didn’t like what he made me become trying to get revenge. I am so sorry that happened to you. UGH i wish grown ups would just act like darn grown ups.

    on September 13, 2016

    LMAO!!! I wasn’t ready either!! I agree, it’s a damn shame when folks want to play grown up and not be a grown up!

on September 13, 2016

Oh wow girl, you really went through it! So sorry that you had to go through this. We really need to trust our gut more, it never lies!

on September 13, 2016

Great post! I love the funny and real tone of your blog. Wow…i didn’t even expect it. Smh. I love how you handled the situatiom though!!

on September 13, 2016

GIRL!!! That’s a Tyler Perry movie. I am so sorry you went thru that foolishness. I’m nosey nelly and want to know who he’s guarding…lol Great article! We as women really have to trust our gut more!

    on September 13, 2016

    LOL!!! Yes, it was like a Tyler Perry movie. That person is pretty famous…

on September 13, 2016

Wow! That’s crazy! I def agree that playing the wife role isn’t for me. I did it once and won’t ever do it again.

on September 13, 2016

Girl, wow. You are sharing some true wisdom in this post. Let all the single ladies take heed, because this is the truth!

on September 14, 2016

Ugh. These men are a trip. We’ve all been there, and have learned from it. I dated a man who had a wife and I had no idea. The gag is; he still wanted to continue after he was caught!

on September 14, 2016

Girl, my mouth is all the way open. I feel like I just watched an episode of Love and Hip Hop. Some folks have no character about themselves what so ever.

on September 14, 2016

Girl I love your blog because you keep it all the way real! That bastard I’m the queen of revenge if I told you some of the stuff I’ve done when I found out I was being cheated on you would think I was crazy. I’m so glad you blasted his nasty thirsty ass! I hope he reads this and knows that we all think he ain’t sh*t.

on September 14, 2016

damnnnnnnn. Some guys are a trip. I’m reading this eating imaginary popcorn. Crazy wild.

on September 14, 2016

Baybee! This was a lot. I am so happy to not have to date these days. This is tew much

on September 20, 2016

You are terribly funny and accurate. Loving the energy here!

on July 28, 2017

Wow he was buying everybody and they mama a house smh. I hope you at least got a car out the deal!

on July 28, 2017

OMG I just closed my account on Black People Meet .com. I couldn’t not stomach the fuckery and foolishness that I kept attracting. It was so annoying.

on July 28, 2017

OMG I had to come back and comment again. This reminds me so much about my ex who lied and said he went to Indiana to find employment after being fired from Bank of America. Come to find out he was courting a woman he had known for quite some time. Even though he kept lying and saying they were not. Not even 6 months after we officially broke up..they got engaged.

    on July 30, 2017

    Girl! And the crazy thing is that you can write all day this amazing profile putting out there all the things you won’t deal with and what you are looking for and yet, so many idiots don’t read it and try to holla anyway.

    on July 30, 2017

    Damn!! Some dudes ain’t shit! I don’t even know why some men just can’t be honest. All you have to do is keep it 100 with me.

on July 29, 2017

Wow! It goes to show just how far some men will go to sleep with women. Hopefully they can see him for the filth that he actually is. I can only hope that he is not still out here dot com pimpin.

    on July 30, 2017

    I am pretty sure he is probably still dot com pimping. SMH!

on July 30, 2017

Girl!!!! Sometimes you can’t give people the benefit of the doubt. I’m sorry this happened sis, but I know you learned from it.

    on July 30, 2017

    Yes, it was most def a learning experience and hopefully someone else can learn from my story.

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