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If you haven’t heard by now, The Sexy Single Mommy is back on the market. Perhaps, I REALLY was never off the market,. This post is what happened after I learned everything that I did about the “celebrity bodyguard” and his dot com pimping ass. Now hold on to your seats because like everything else I write, I’m giving it to you straight with no chaser on how I caught ole boy cheating!
If you recall, I wrote a post a couple months ago about, “Lessons I Learned From Dating A Celebrity Bodyguard,” (click the link to refresh your memory.) Well after
knowing someone thinking I knew someone after 9 years of friendship. I realized that I trusted the wrong person and that everything out of his mouth was a lie. Here’s a few things that I learned about the celebrity bodyguard:
For months, I kept telling my friends and myself that I was going to leave his ass alone because I felt that something was just not right. Although I couldn’t put my finger on it, I knew that his get down had changed a bit and although he was on tour, something just wasn’t right.
Earlier this year, while on his computer, writing a blog post, I typed in a letter in the search bar and his previous searches came up. The one that caught my eye was, “Black People Meet!” Yes, the dating site. At the time, I didn’t say anything. I just left it alone. I didn’t click on it or do any snooping; I just left it alone, although it would bother the hell out of me when I felt that shit wasn’t right and that leads me to the next thing that I learned.
I should have said something about what I found but I let it fester until he was in Asia and I wasn’t speaking to him like I was used to and went OFF on his Instagram, Facebook messages and text. When I said off, I mean OFF!! When we did speak, he said all the BS that I wanted to hear but down the line, I realized that was a lie, too. Had I said what I was feeling when I first found out, I probably wouldn’t have had to lose my damn mind later. Hold on! It’s coming…
As long as I have known him, I have heard about his exes who did him wrong, i.e., the chick that told him he had a crush on him back in high school that never said anything in high school but surfaced on Facebook and NOW wanted to tell him how she felt and he ended up buying the chick a house AND furnishing it but she ended up going back to his abusive ex.
Oh, and let’s not forget about his daughter’s mom who he bought a house, moved her to Cali and who while on tour decided she didn’t want to be here anymore and moved back to DC with her ex!
EVERY woman who he dealt with, did him wrong but it was NEVER anything that he did.
I did whatever it took to hold him down while he was gone. I made sure that I sent him a text daily to let him know that I was thinking about him. When he came home, I would cook his favorite meal: fried chicken, rice and gravy and mac and cheese. Whatever he needed, I took care of that!
Now also along the lines of being “his good girl,” he wanted to start a blog, so I connected him with my site designer and worked as project manager for his site. He would send me the notes from his travel and I would write the post. Basically, that blog was ALL me!
Because I was doing his blog for him, I had passwords to the blog and Facebook Fan Page but never thought to use them to check up on him UNTIL he just disappeared. YES, DISAPPEARED. I was with him on a Thursday and EVERYTHING was all good. He went out of town on Friday and was supposed to return on Monday. I never heard from again. No text, no call, no Fuck You, Ty…No NOTHING! I really didn’t know what to think and it wasn’t until about 2 weeks later something told me to use that password on his Facebook page and that’s when…
PANDORA’S BOX WAS OPENED
His Facebook inbox was filled with messages from all kinds of women who he must have either met or reconnected with on Facebook because they would leave their phone numbers. There were messages from chicks saying how much they missed him with explicit picture of a man giving a woman oral sex. Other messages of him inviting some chick over who didn’t have gas money and him offering to give her money when she came over along with giving her his address. Ole girl said she would come over and asked if she could shower at his house and would be there after putting her girls to sleep. The same chick sent him who a Facebook message the next morning saying what a good time she had. Another chick who I reached out to and not in a nice manner, responded that she was just with weeks ago in Vegas (which he was) and at his house. It was just crazy! With every message I read from these women I felt like I was being punched in the stomach. And to top it off,
the words that I thought were ONLY for me, he was saying to SEVERAL other women…”I Love You!”
When I checked the email, he was even buying plane tickets for women to meet him where he was and paying bills for them!
I know that you are probably wondering what I did with this information, right? Well, first, I sent him a text saying, “You might want to call me RIGHT NOW!” After 20 mins and no response, I wrote a nice post on his Facebook page (remember I was logged in as him) saying,
PSA: I just want to apologize to all of the women that I was playing while I was dot com pimping. I acknowledge that I am a dot com pimp and a true asshole. Please accept my apology.
You can imagine the responses that he got from his friends and family thinking that his page was hacked, which I made sure to tell had not been and that the idiot gave me the passwords. Of course, I changed his Facebook password and I completely deleted EVERYTHING off of the blog that I had written which means that there is nothing there any more.
After an hour he posted that he had been hacked which I went back again and deleted and changed the password and then deleted his ENTIRE Facebook page.
Petty? Yeah, I’ll take the title…this time….
Did I feel good after that? Hell, yes but it didn’t stop the hurt that I felt nor make the deception of it all go away. To this day, I can not believe all the lies and deceit when all he had to do was tell me that he didn’t want to do US anymore. It just goes to show that some men want their cake, your cake and cake from all over the world. I trusted someone who I shouldn’t have and like I said before,
I should have trusted my intuition all along!
A few months go by and I receive a call from a producer of a television court show who says that he found my case online and asked if I would be interested in appearing on said court show to resolve the case. I’m like, “What?” I didn’t even know there was a damn case. He gave the information on the case and his number and I proceeded to look up the info. Do you know that fool had the audacity to try to sue me for $5k! REALLY?
He was saying that I hacked into his “non-profit” website and deleted it, along with his Facebook page because I was upset about our breakup. This MF! “Non-profit?” It was a DAMN TRAVEL BLOG!
I couldn’t even believe it! I called the producer back who told me that he had already spoken to him and he was cool with doing the show. I explained that it wasn’t going to happen! I’m still in shock!
So what happened? Not a damn thing because he nor I never showed up for the court date and the case was dropped.
Lesson learned….trust my intuition…every…damn…time!! Oh and NEVA date another celebrity bodyguard again! Oh well…
What lessons have you learned from a breakup?