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Being a Single Parent SUCKS (Sometimes)

Parenting / September 14, 2014

When you are a single parent it is you and only you at all times. Last night, I had the worse stomach ache and nothing in the house to take for it.  I was talking to a friend on the phone, moaning and complaining about my stomach, when they suggested that I go to the store and pick something up.  My response was, “I would have to wake up TJ for that and drag him with me.  NOT!!”  It was after 9 pm and TJ was sleeping and had school in the morning.  My friend responded, “Oh Yeah. I forgot.”  Um mm yeah, Idiot!  I wanted to say out of pain but mostly frustration.  I was frustrated because it is times like this that I wish I had a significant other, who could get up and run to the store for me or who could stay at home, while I ran to the store.

Being a Single Parent SUCKS (Sometimes)!

I am not going to lie.  Sometimes being a single parent SUCKS.  For instance, this morning, I felt absolutely awful.  I barely went to bed at 3 in the morning, after going back and forth between having chills, then being hot as hell.  Topped off by a super runny nose and then I started wheezing.  At 6:15, the alarm goes off, and I felt like shit!  Lord, knows that I didn’t want to get up, throw some clothes on and get TJ up to start getting ready for school.  I most def didn’t want to drag myself to the car and drive him to school and stop at Walmart on my way home.  Days like this, I wish there was someone to say, “Stay in bed, honey.  I will take care of everything this morning.”

As a single parent, you are always “ON!”  There are no off days.  There are no breaks.  It is you and only you, 24/7.  I don’t have the luxury of weekends and/or holidays off.  The only time that I get a break is if my mom or sister takes my son when I have something to do or would like some “adult” time with my friends.  Thank God for them, although I don’t call on them very often.  Now that school is back in from summer break, I can have a little quiet time to go to the store alone, take a nap during the day, get a mani or pedi without TJ asking how long is it going to take, etc.

So for all of you moms out there that “complain” about how hard you have it, although you have help…take a walk in my shoes for a week.  I bet you will appreciate the help that you have and how good you have it.

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.




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7 Comments

on September 14, 2012

My mom was my hero growing up because I didn’t know where she found the strength to be a single mom. There were times when she was sick and I would try to take care of her but she always found time to spend with me no matter what. There’s two jobs on this planet that are extremely hard, being a parent and being a single parent. Women like you are my hero because you always put your children first even when you don’t have the strength to get up.

    on September 14, 2012

    Thanks Dee! I appreciate that and your continued support!

on September 18, 2012

I don’t know what being single mom is like but I must say the single moms I know have churned out some great children. I commend you all who put in that extra effort to make your child the best. Being a single parent is not easy in fact there have been many who failed but it takes a special individual to do what needs to be done for their children and your baby will remember that. All he will remember is that you were there when nobody else was.

on September 18, 2012

I know the feeling :/ sometimes it really does suck

on September 19, 2012

I related to this more than you know and yes sometimes it really really really sucks. Those that don’t live it don’t know what its like. And some of us didn’t plan it, but found ourselves single parents when our marriages that were supposed to last forever didn’t work out.

    on September 20, 2012

    Yes, those who don’t live it don’t have any idea…smh!

on December 28, 2012

–Sorry typos on my last comment– Revision…
Agree with this post. Single parenting is a thankless job most of the time, especially when the baby becomes a teen; AKA big baby big mouth. But you love your kids so you take care of them. Even though at times, most times, they get to big for their britches. For some reason in their teens kids get angry and resentful. Guess its because of the world they are being left by some politicians and their narrow mindedness and selfishness when it come to what’s good for the world vs. what’s good for their own pocketbooks or re-election status.
We see too much of it in the news, Fiscal cliff. Going over it cause congress can’t seem to agree with the President to do what’s right for the country and the rich 5 percent don’t want to be taxed an equal percentage because they would lose a few thousand dollars of their multimillion dollar income they make per year or month. I’m still wondering why the President OF the UNITED STATES OF AMERICA has to beg elected officials to do their jobs and protect the majority of the people that put them in office. Yet people that need jobs and want to work can’t get jobs.
But I digress, sorry. These children are being brought up to see that we “ADULTS” can’t just “get along” (to quote Rodney King). Kids are seeing families being broken up by other angry, people, and killers. And let’s just face it. Many of us single parents don’t really have an answer for them because we don’t really have any answers for ourselves as to why the world is going to hell in a hand basket.
At the end of the day we are all being beat down by what the world is becoming and feeling that lack of control. What can we do? I’m not so sure myself, but I know that we can’t give up. We keep it pushing, even if we lose a job or lose our focus on life’s most important priorities. Today’s world is preventing many children from developing a strong bond with their parents. Many of us have jobs, some lose the jobs. In either case we don’t want to tell kids that mom or dad may not have a job for too long the way things are going. Or that you don’t know where the next paycheck is coming from because you are working your own business and some people can’t pay other people when they should. Result a little more distance from our children. I, my daughter, and god-daughter were always close until they turned 12 and started seeing what kind of world we are leaving them. Then they just went south from their. But luckily they have evened out before they went totally bad. Times are hard but remember to keep that strength level up as well as the conversation and love. Try to listen to them and keep explaining why you think the world is going to hell in a hand basket so maybe if our generation is too lazy to get off their asses and fix it. The next generation may have a decent shot of patching it up. Find out what’s worrying your kids. I’m a man, and not to great at that area but I manage.
The politician’s already have been showing us how they feel about other peoples kids by continuing to fire all the hardworking teachers that would throw themselves in-front of a bullet to protect your child. While the politicians take their-own kids to rich private schools in the “PRIVATE SECTOR” to quote a past presidential hopeful. Parenting is a thankless job every day 24/7, Monday thru Monday. Yes an infinite loop (forever). This is as good as it gets …well until they have their-own families. Train them well so that there is less chance of them coming back with more angry dependants for you to take care of (kids, husband or wife, dog, cat, goldfish).

–The Good Guy.



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