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We all have times when our significant other makes us so damn mad that we want to throw in the towel and walk away. Here are 6 things to do when he drives you crazy, before you jump off the deep end, as well as things to consider when you decide to make your relationship work.
We all know that when we are upset and say things when we are angry; what could have ended in a conversation and then it’s over, can be blown totally out of proportion because we were mad and/or hurt and wanted our mate to hurt just as much as we were. Our tongues can be like swords and once you’ve said it, you can take it back.
Before speaking or saying something hurtful, cool down first. It can be the difference between getting through an argument or walking away from the relationship forever.
Not every relationship is worth fighting for and depending on the situation, you have to decide if you want to stay or if it is better to just walk away. This can never be an easy decision but you have to weigh the pros and the cons. If the cons outweigh the pros…well, you know what you should do.
Don’t walk around mad, expecting him to read your mind and know why you are pissed. Sit down and let him know what you think and put your issues on the table. By this time, you have already decided that the relationship is worth fighting for, so let him know how you feel. Talk it out and explain what it is that they are doing that makes you so mad and explain why it pisses you off but when you sit down to have that talk, be sure to…
The worse thing to do is to approach the conversation with anger or by going through an entire list of what pisses you off. Start the conversation by letting your mate know how much you love them and how committed you are to the relationship. Speak in a calm tone and simply tell them how you feel.
Don’t do all the talking. You have to be sure that you are listening to what they have to say because it may help you get a better understanding of why they do the things that they do.
You have to be able to forgive them and put it behind you. A relationship will never last if you keep bringing up all the things that your mate did wrong or did that upset you. In relationships, just as in life, you have to learn to forgive people and move on.
You also have to give people the benefit of the doubt and in relationships, especially when they are new, we are getting to know one another. Your mate may not know that their actions make you upset and 99% of the time, they are not doing it on purpose. By learning to forgive and letting it go, your relationship will grow stronger and you will be able to move on to a brighter future.
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