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Maintenance, every relationship needs it and even though you may feel like yours is in a good place, you always need to do the work to keep things on track. By making time for one another, even when life gets hectic and learning how to keep things fresh and sexy will help make your bond even stronger.
Here are a few tips to insure that your relationship remains secure and that you and your love keep the fire burning.
Tell your mate that you appreciate all that they do and live in the moment. Do not base your relationship on what could have been or what you think it should be…live for the now.
Don’t sit around waiting for the “other shoe to drop.” Sometimes things are just good and because they are so good does not mean that something is wrong that you don’t know about. Let things just be.
When you commit to quality time, disconnect from all social media, phones and laptops. Enjoy your time together without all the distractions.
Do things for your mate without them having to ask or expecting it. More times than not, it’s the little things that you can do for your mate when they aren’t expecting them can mean so much. If you know they could use your help with something, be there to support them and help them out.
Before you say something in the heat of the moment, take a step back and evaluate the situation and how harmful negative words could be in the current situation. Don’t use words that will hurt, no matter how angry you are because once you’ve said them, there is no going back.
Never lose sight of yourself. Sometimes in relationships we focus so much on our mate and their wants and needs that we forget about our own. Don’t forget that you are just as important.
Don’t focus on what went wrong in your past relationships, live in the now. He isn’t your ex and you can’t judge every man by the mistakes of your ex. Let it go and be happy with what you have now.
Don’t compare yourself to him or try to “out do” him by competing with him. That will kill the relationship.
Before you go “reading between the lines” and assuming, ask him to clarify what he said or what he meant when you aren’t clear. It will save you lots of undue stress and drama.
That’s it. Have spontaneous sex!
Always ask about their day, even when you’ve had a horrible one. If they are involved in something, don’t look bored when they talk to you about it. Be present in the moment.
Keep them fresh by switching them up sometimes. Do the unexpected…they will love you for it.
Practice listening to your mate without saying anything. Don’t inturrupt. Let them get it all out before you state your opinion. Sometimes, we are in such a rush to be heard that we don’t listen to what our mate is saying and by doing so, we may miss the point that are trying to get across or something that may be bothering them. Hush for a moment and support your mate by simply listening.
Sometimes you aren’t going to agree with everything that your mate says. There will be topics and issues that the two of you won’t see eye to eye on and that’s okay. By agreeing to disagree, you can walk away and let it go but when you want to fight to try to prove your point or make your partner agree with your point of view, your cause tension that doesn’t need to be there.
It’s very simple to just say thank you. Don’t take them for granted.