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Can Men And Women JUST Be Friends? Listen Up, Ladies, Series

Dating & Relationships / He Said / August 18, 2014

It’s an age old question, “Can men and women just be friends?”  There seems to be a great divide on this question and it seems that many single people think that men and women can just be friends, while those who are in relationships and/or married believe that men and women can’t be “just ” friends.  I take the position that you can be platonic friends with someone of the opposite sex, even if you are in a relationship or married.

According to GQ, in a 2003 study by Heidi Reeder, a communications professor at Boise State, there are four different types of attractions that can arise between friends:

1. Nearly everyone in the study reported feeling “friendship attraction,” pretty much the same thing guy friends would feel towards each other.

2. 14 percent reported “current romantic attraction,” which is defined as the desire to become a couple.

3. One third felt “subjective physical/sexual attraction,” which means they want to get bizzay without actually looking to partner up.

4. More than 50 percent said they felt “objective physical/sexual attraction,” which basically means that they’re not into their friend but they can totally see why others would be.

So basically, one of the “friends” has feelings towards the other according to this study. Now on the other hand, when I asked several men ,”Can men and women just be friends,” the common answer was NO!  Men said that they can’t because most men want to have sex with their female friends and if they don’t it’s because she isn’t attractive to them.

Very interesting, right? Let’s check out what Jay has to say on the issue and leave your comments and responses to the questions below.

What are your thoughts?

Can men and women just be friends?

If you are friends with someone of the opposite sex, will it cause problems in your current relationship?


Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on August 26, 2013

Guys and girls can be friends in my opinion but only if the guy does not fancy the girl in any way. If there is any attraction of if there is a dating past, it will not work out.

    on August 26, 2013

    I have been friends with exes and have no problems, but I guess it depends on the situation.

    on August 27, 2013

    Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts.

    I believe there will always be attraction. That’s what brought those two people together. Even if that attraction is physical, I believe they can still maintain a platonic friendship. The key is for them to both be on the same page and make a mutual agreement that they won’t cross certain lines.

on August 27, 2013

[…] we want.  It can become a crazy cycle and I guess the age-old question comes into play, “Can men and women be just friends?”  I guess when you have been in a relationship, especially an intimate one, things get tough […]

on September 23, 2013

I have to agree with Ty I think you can depending on the situation, but what do you do when you know your partner is a habitual cheater can you trust him or her just being a friend and nothing more to the other person.

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