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Relationships in and of themselves can be hard to maintain but when you are in a relationship with someone who is a celebrity bodyguard for some of the biggest celebrities in the world, there are several things that are necessary to make it work.
Before I jump into the lessons that I’ve learned from dating a celebrity bodyguard, let me answer the question that happens to be the elephant in the room, “Is the Sexy Single Mommy still single?” Well, ladies and gentleman, The Sexy Single Mommy is off the market and no longer single. However, I won’t be changing the name of my blog until I get a ring on it. So until then, the title of the blog will stay the same….moving on.
I’ve known my Boo Thang for about 9 years before we “seriously” committed to a relationship and during that time, he would be in and out-of-town because he was always on tour with some celebrity. Back then, things were simpler because we were friends and would go out when he would come home. Now, that we are in a relationship, things aren’t as normal as they are when you are with someone who you see all the time. Here are 5 lessons I’ve learned from dating a celebrity bodyguard:
In every relationship, you have to trust your partner, but when your partner is traveling around the world and some of the most beautiful women are willing to do anything, including him, to get to a celebrity, you have to be able to trust your mate.
My Boo Thang is on the road 9 months out of the year and those other 3 months are not 3 consecutive months. We both had to build and maintain a level of trust to be able to make it. Insecurity in a long distance relationship is detrimental, so the key for us is really about knowing that what we have is more important to both of us then risking it for a fling that doesn’t mean anything.
I don’t know how people survived long distance relationships before Skype. When my Boo Thang is out of the country, Skype is not only the most cost-effective way to talk to one another but it gives us that face time that you need, especially when you haven’t seen your partner in months.
Because my Boo Thang is generally on tour with some pretty famous celebrities in the music industry, it’s hard to keep track of the time difference. I keep the tour schedule handy and update my world clock because he is usually travelling every other day for a show.
When he is out of the country, it’s usually daytime here and nighttime there and vice versa, so late night skyping is what we do when we can but because of the time difference, it is usually a bit harder to connect when he is out of the country.
It is important to know that in some countries like China, social media is banned by the government. When he was over in Asia, at the beginning of our relationship, communication was damn near non-existent. Given that I didn’t know anything about Asia and the inability to use social media to communicate with him but texting was even hard, I was pretty pissed when I was not able to talk to him and I didn’t know why.
One thing about me (and I’ve been working on it), my mouth can get a bit out of hand and in this case, it was my texting and Facebook messages that went totally left field. To say the least, I felt like an idiot when he got to another part of Asia where he was able to communicate and when he read what I said, it was not a good situation to say the least. That’s where trust comes in to play and at that time in our relationship, my insecurity got the best of me and I learned very quickly that my insecurities weren’t valid and almost resulted in the loss of my relationship. Luckily, we were able to get through.
When my Boo Thang is at home, we try to make the most of our time togther. The saying, “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” is true. It’s a trip how that works but I feel closer to him now than I have in the 9 years that I hae known him. I believe that when you take sex out of the equation and you really talk and get to know one another, it makes your bond stronger.
Because the time varies that my Boo Thang is actually at home, ranging from literally a day (which I hate, by the way) to a week or two depending on the tour and celebrity, we try to spend as much time as we can together. The cool thing is that when we are togther, we don’t have to go out but are content in staying inside, watching tv, cooking togther, listening to music…just being together and at the end of that day, that’s what matters most to us, quality time.
Photo Credits: Hollyscoop.com, 24.media.tumblr,com, china4square.com, thesingersroom.com,