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Singer, Monica Talks Child Support and Making Blended Families Work

Entertainment & Celebrities / Parenting / Single Moms Talk / June 23, 2014

I have always been a fan of the singer, Monica, not only because of her music but she has always been down to earth, humble and a role model for single moms (she is now married to Laker, Shannon Brown).  In Jermaine Durpi’s web series, Living the Life, Monica and Dupri discuss how she makes her blended family work, how she and the father of her son’s, Rocko, deal with child support and the whole “baby mama” issue.  She also talks about allowing her husband, Shannon Brown, be the man in the household.

Ladies, listen up, Monica is dropping some serious gems on us…

Monica on the term Baby Momma:

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I don’t think I like the term baby momma. Let’s be clear, I have two sons, I had an 11-year-relationship and two sons came from that, which was blessing and I am now married with another child on the way. So, I don’t know where the “babymama” part comes in.

Monica on Blended Families and Child Support:

People always ask me, “How do you make a blended family work?” It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another. I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court-house, I’m not callin’ them people. Now let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call the people for you.

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Since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my two oldest children at all, period, point, blank. When it’s time for it to get done, he can access the needs, come in and see what they need and it gets done. Let me pause it, there is still the type… because I have girlfriends… that deal with the type of man that’s just simply selfish… Come back from Fifths with the bags and ask, “How was your day?” “No, how was your day?”

I’ll use my husband for example. My husband is a man’s man. My Mother’s Day was incredible but I don’t expect anything but good love, honesty is a must and respect. So everything else kind of happens on its own. I’m going to say this to any woman because I have two brothers, nagging, complaining, annoying is the worst thing you can do. I’ve learned that some things you just lay back, my husband being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he shouldn’t be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floors and everything.

Dupri goes on to tell the guys that they need a woman like Monica!

Monica on her Husband Being the Boss at Home:

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I’m a type, Southern. I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t feel like I should be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss and that’s just it. You got some high society women that will argue me down, I’m not looking for an argument, I just know what works in my house. They say, ‘Good girls are no fun,’ but good girls are always were they run when trouble come…and trouble can be anything, it can be heartbreak, loss of a family members, that could be change of a job, that could be trying to pursue your dreams…

I have to agree with Monica, too many women are too busy trying to run the household and their man, instead of allowing a man to be a man.  My hats off to you, Monica, you ran the game down for the ladies! Hopefully they take heed to the wisdom that you laid down!

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Video Credit: Jermaine Dupri’s Living the Life

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on June 13, 2013

I am a single mom as well and I REFUSE to accept the title of baby mama. I am my son’s mother. Period. My identity does not revolve around a man. I was in a relationship. That relationship ended. The father is not involved, and has not been since my son was 7 months old. That’s just the way it is. And I prefer the complete lack of contact. I also choose not to pursue child support. If a man has to be forced to provide for his children, then something is very wrong. I do what I need to do to provide for my little family. That’s all that matters. Karma will deliver what is deserved to both of us. All I can do is make sure I handle my business in a way that I can feel good about.

on June 14, 2013

Love this article. It is great that her family situation works out for her. She seems to be a beautiful person inside and out. I’m happy for her and family. May God continue to Bless them all.

on June 14, 2013

Truly seems like a beautiful woman and I wish her and her child all the best. As a man I would encourage all women to pursue child support. For one reason maybe these guys would take more responsibility if they were forced to take more responsibility. For another it is for the child so why make the child suffer when they could be living a better life. Some brothers need to know there are consequences to every action they take. Maybe then they would be more careful going forward. If you don’t want to do it for you, then do it for the next child these guys will not support.

    on June 17, 2013

    I say that if it works for her and she has never had a problem with the father of her son’s supporting him, then it is not necessary to take him to court. Every single mom, doesn’t have that problem. Just because you are a single mom, does not automatically mean that the father of your child is a deadbeat.

      on June 18, 2013

      This is true. If things are going great with the relationship between the single mom and single father then it is better to leave the court system out of it. Let me rephrase my statement, any woman that is struggling to make ends meet should be taking these men to court.

on June 15, 2013

I agree with the term baby mama and what she said about blended families. I’m not sure I agree with the part about the man being the boss of the house but if it works for them, great.

I’m here to say thanks for joining the blogathon. See you next weekend!

    on June 17, 2013

    Thanks for stopping by! Yes, I will see you next week

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