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I have always been a fan of the singer, Monica, not only because of her music but she has always been down to earth, humble and a role model for single moms (she is now married to Laker, Shannon Brown). In Jermaine Durpi’s web series, Living the Life, Monica and Dupri discuss how she makes her blended family work, how she and the father of her son’s, Rocko, deal with child support and the whole “baby mama” issue. She also talks about allowing her husband, Shannon Brown, be the man in the household.
Ladies, listen up, Monica is dropping some serious gems on us…
I don’t think I like the term baby momma. Let’s be clear, I have two sons, I had an 11-year-relationship and two sons came from that, which was blessing and I am now married with another child on the way. So, I don’t know where the “babymama” part comes in.
People always ask me, “How do you make a blended family work?” It is what you make it. The first order of business as parents is we gotta respect one another. I don’t believe in the court system. I’m not steppin’ in no court-house, I’m not callin’ them people. Now let me explain. This is my thing. I’m sure every situation may require something different, but for me, I feel like a real man will be man enough to assess the needs of his child, and make sure that it happens. I don’t need to call you and I don’t need to call the people for you.
Since I feel that way, I’ve never had any discrepancies with the father of my two oldest children at all, period, point, blank. When it’s time for it to get done, he can access the needs, come in and see what they need and it gets done. Let me pause it, there is still the type… because I have girlfriends… that deal with the type of man that’s just simply selfish… Come back from Fifths with the bags and ask, “How was your day?” “No, how was your day?”
I’ll use my husband for example. My husband is a man’s man. My Mother’s Day was incredible but I don’t expect anything but good love, honesty is a must and respect. So everything else kind of happens on its own. I’m going to say this to any woman because I have two brothers, nagging, complaining, annoying is the worst thing you can do. I’ve learned that some things you just lay back, my husband being the ultimate man, I don’t even have to say anything. But vice versa, he shouldn’t be in there fixing his own plate, vacuuming the floors and everything.
Dupri goes on to tell the guys that they need a woman like Monica!
I’m a type, Southern. I still enjoy being needed. I’m the boss at my job, so I don’t feel like I should be the boss at home. Shannon’s the boss and that’s just it. You got some high society women that will argue me down, I’m not looking for an argument, I just know what works in my house. They say, ‘Good girls are no fun,’ but good girls are always were they run when trouble come…and trouble can be anything, it can be heartbreak, loss of a family members, that could be change of a job, that could be trying to pursue your dreams…
I have to agree with Monica, too many women are too busy trying to run the household and their man, instead of allowing a man to be a man. My hats off to you, Monica, you ran the game down for the ladies! Hopefully they take heed to the wisdom that you laid down!
Photo Credit: WeddingClan.com, lacelebrityblogspot.com,
Video Credit: Jermaine Dupri’s Living the Life