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Love and Happiness

Dating & Relationships / He Said / April 28, 2014

Many of us are in difficult times.  Times,that we are working hard to get through, but on the verge of giving up on.  Some of us have people that we can lean on and that can lean on us.  Some of us are single and only have family and friends to lean on.  Some don’t even have that.  Sometimes you want to talk to someone who is not your family or someone who is not just a friend.  Sometimes you just need love, sometimes you need happiness.  Sometimes you need a little of both.

My question is can you truly have happiness without the love?

True happiness that does not just come from family and friends, but a person that really gets you.  love and happiness - The Sexy Single Mommy.netSomeone special that is not afraid to be real with you and stop playing stupid childish mind games.  Someone that gives you the enamored love look every time she or he sees you enter a room and actually acts like she or he want to be with you when you call or text.  Ladies, if your guy calls you and leaves a voice mail or texts you, it is perfectly alright for you to call back or text back.  If you both are in the middle of a text conversation and it takes you 10 minutes or 20 minutes, or a day between each text.  That’s just rude.  It’s telling your guy or girl that you don’t want to be in a relationship, so stop making those eyes if you can’t back up the love that your eyes and gigantic smile are transmitting like a homing beacon to possible suitors, past, present, and future.

Hard to get?  Yes, I realize that women feel they must play hard to get to see if a man is truly interested and to let him know that “I am the one”.  love and happiness - The Sexy Single Mommy.netWell, at a point it’s a turnoff for the man.  Sure he might still fill that attraction and if you are super model sexy might even give it a good effort for a few weeks, but Shonuff there are others that will not act like they are in love, they will show it.  Not talking about those thirsty women out there but respectable women that are a bit parched and would like a tall glass of water on a warm summer, winter, fall or spring day.  These are the women that usually find their love and maybe also their happiness.  Sure some may argue “I don’t need a man!”

My response: Liar, Liar, Pants on Mother F’n Fire!

Some may argue “I don’t need a man to define me!”

My response: “You are absolutely right; a man should not define you but compliment you.  Be the Yen to your Yang and sometimes Yen and Yang gotta do that thang.”

And sometimes that thang is sex, sometimes that thang is just making you feel happy when you are sad, sometimes it is just lifting some of the load when you are beat down by the way the world is today. love and happiness - The Sexy Single

Trust me, do your business thing but don’t forget to do your love thang.   How can you expect to be happy if you are not putting yourself into a relationship that you are trying to build on? …or just trying to start or restart?  Sure there is always the chance of a broken heart.  Men get rejected by at least 2/3rds of the women they flirt with a day, just to get to a point where they are in a relationship with a woman who does not make time to return a text or a voicemail.  Yea, that’s where he hears that song “On to the next one” ringing in his ears.  Then you find yourself listening to Boys II Men singing “End of the Road.”  Guys, make that time for your ladies.

Ask yourself people:

Can I have Happiness without Love?

 What am I willing to risk in order to have both?

You can work on happiness but will the finished product still be true happiness?

You can work on love but will the finished product still be true love, and if so, will you be one step closer to finding true happiness? No romance without finance?  Maybe, but if you work on finance 85 percent of the day what is your chance of getting romance after getting your sleep?

love and happiness - The Sexy Single

Then what’s your chance of finding love from the romance?

That brings me back to a previous post of mineBALANCE.


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