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You’re Not Making Love If You’re Not In Love…You’re *ucking!

Sex / March 7, 2014

I have heard many women tell me about their experience with a man that they recently met and they telling me about “how he made love” to them” REALLY?  You just met his ass yesterday…oh, my bad, 2 weeks ago and you are “making love already?”  Girl, if you don’t KNOCK IT OFF!

Women are so quick to equate sex…*ucking with love.  How can you make love to someone who you are not in love with?  The two just don’t go together?  Maybe it’s a “better” way of talking about the act because let’s face it, the word *ucking does sound rather crude, but I am from the old school where we call things what they are.  Now some of you will say Ty, there is a difference between *ucking, sex and making love. Yes, I totally agree with that, so let’s jump into the differences between the three:


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  • Sexual Intercourse – Per Wikipedia “…is the insertion and thrusting of a male’s penis, usually when erect, into a female’s vagina for the purposes of sexual pleasure or reproduction.  Sexual intercourse commonly contributes to human bonding, usually being used solely for pleasure and often leading to stronger emotional bonds.”
  • Making Love – Per The Urban Dictionary “like sex, except it sounds more groovy and hip. Also used to make women think you don’t want to have sex with them, you want to create a feeling that is completely nonphysical with them.”  Some would say that when you make love it is gentle, sensuous and there are emotions and feeling involved.
  • *ucking – Per “fuck – “For many people, the word fuck is extremely vulgar, considered improper and taboo in all of its senses. Some would say that sexual intercourse and *ucking are one in the same, while others say per the Urban Dictionary “The man’s erect penis rapidly thrusting back and forth in the woman’s vagina.”

You're Not Making Love If You're Not In Love...You're *ucking!

One of my readers explained the difference as “Sex is what people told you about ….. Making love is an illusion of what you think you are supposed to do….. now *uckin looka here that’s when you plan to disrespect that ______ totally and put him to sleep – when you finish stand on the side of the bed – blow the smoke off your guns cause u done handle your business again.”

Another reader said, “Sex is what you have with someone you like and are hoping the relationship will last.  f……, is just to relieve the stress of either a long time without or not being satisfied with other encounters, however making love is when the both of you really love and care about each other, each person is wanting to completely enjoy each other and they are interested in complete pleasure for both”

There it is…

What do you think?

Can you “make love” if you aren’t in love?

Is there a difference between sex and *ucking?\

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on August 9, 2013

I think “making love” can definitely be achieved without being “in love.” Making love is intimate. You don’t have to be in love to enjoy intimacy. Making love does require a connection beyond the flesh though…

    on August 9, 2013

    Hmmm…I never thought about it like that.

on August 16, 2013

I agree with Andrea. Intimacy, the feeling not action, can be obtained without being in love. However, I don’t think you can “make love” with someone you have just met or do not share some type of deeper connection with. For instance, when two friends share a strong loss and they come together sexually as a way of comforting…they’re not in love, but they share a bond that can be seen during intercourse. I think “sex” is just a general, loose term that can cover all types. You can have sex with a stranger, sex with someone you care about, or sex with your husband. Fucking, to me, is exactly what it sounds like: dirty, rough, and has some type of shock factor. It even SOUNDS satisfying and tiring. But back to making love, I think that is more of an act where you can share something special, bond, and find emotional relief/reinforcement. To illustrate how I apply the 3 terms to my relationship, my fiance and I have sex at least every other day. 3/4 of the time we fuck, and 1/4 of the time we come together out of missing each other, making up, or being emotionally distraught and make love to each other.

on October 7, 2013

[…] she wants you to spank her (“Really? Spanking? Won’t it hurt?” – yes, it does. That’s the fucking point). We know you’ve read Stuff and Maxim, and that’s all those laddie mags talk about in […]

on March 29, 2014

I don’t know about not making love if your not in love. People can form an illusion of love in their minds. That’s probably what those women who are telling you they are making love to men they recently met were doing. I am in love and we f*ck. No one can make me feel strange about it. It’s all the same to me we do that thang. lol

    on April 1, 2014

    LMAO!!! Go head now!!!

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