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Hell No! You Can’t “Come See Me!”

Dating & Relationships / Single Moms Talk / March 19, 2014
Hell No! You Can't "Come See Me!"

What is up with men wanting to “see you,” meaning, “I want to come over?”  Whatever happened to, “Can I take you out?”  I mean, REALLY?  Why should I let you come over to my house?  Here’s the deal, I can see if we were dating or if you were my man or something but if you: 1.  Have never taken me out several times and 2. are not my man, there is no reason for you to come “see me”.
Men kill me now a days, wanting to “see me”  No, your ass can not come over here and wear out my damn couch, relax under my central air, watch the cable that I pay for and eat my food and drink my drink.  HELL NO!! Then, most men don’t even have the decency to ask, “Can I bring you something,” if you do allow them to come over.  Where they do that at?
They say, “You live and you learn” and one thing that I have learned is that I CAN NOT DO BULLSHIT! Call it what you want, but I will be damned if a man who claims to be interested in me thinks he can just sit up at my house and not contribute to anything.  It costs to sit up over here, Partner.  Trust me on that one!
Since I am on the topic of shit that pisses me off about men, don’t call me and the first thing out of your mouth is, “What’s up?”  “The rent and these bills, Fool.  That’s what’s up.  How much you got on it?” Let’s see how long the conversation lasts after that.
Hell No! You Can't "Come See Me!"I know those of you who don’t know me are probably thinking that I am crazy or have lost my damn mind; while my friends know that this is me being me.  I am sure that I will receive plenty of calls from male friends who will read this post and want to talk shit.  Let me stop those of you BEFORE you make that phone call, take me out of character and have your feeling hurt…It’s like this. Even if you are not my man, but trying to become my man, you need to step up to the plate.  I have someone to take care of, I will not take care of you.  Meaning, if you have not contributed to groceries or bought any; no I can not cook for you, give you a drink, a snack or anything else.  PERIOD!  I am doing this over here by myself.  I will not be sharing with you, if you have not “shared” with me.  You have to come to table, ready to play and I don’t play with kids.
So, if this post offended anyone…you already know what I am going to say about that…  As my mother would say, “I’m just giving it to you straight with no chaser!”

the sexy single mommy


Originally Post July 1, 2012

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on July 1, 2012

I wish there was a way for me to “like” these entries individually! Lol 😉

on July 2, 2012

Awwww thanks!!!

on July 2, 2012

Spoken like a TRUE GENIUS!!!!!

    on July 2, 2012

    *Takes a Bow*

on July 3, 2012

Amen!!! Preach on!!!

    on July 3, 2012


on September 24, 2012

I COMPLETELY AGREE! In fact I was just telling my brother this same exact thing about his new GF (who has three children) – I was like why you over her house why she comin over? I don’t even have kids but nawwwwwwww you can’t come over. Hell you can’t even know where I live til you’ve been courting me (yes I said courting!) for a while. And since she does have kids – you SHOULD have a bedtime where you have to leave…no sleepovers all early. That’s just me. You don’t have to spend money like a baller but you do have to make an effort.

    on September 24, 2012

    Exactly!! She most def needs a bedtime with 3 kids unless she’s trying to have #4 with your brother. I also agree with the “courting” part. Men, don’t even know how to do that nowadays!

on October 10, 2012

I LOVE how real you came off! I don’t blame you for your theory…us women work hard at what we do and only wish for our companions to meet us 1/2 way. It’s to the point if you don’t identify up front then the other party can get to the point of being comfortable with always receiving and never giving! it’s a 2 way street.. 🙂

on November 22, 2013

The problem with this kind of attitude is that your men, unsurprisingly, will think “fuck this” and go looking for someone more pleasant to be with. But hey, whatever works for you….

    on November 22, 2013

    Actually it is more about the knowing your worth and what you will or won’t accept. So if a man says fuck it because they cant hang out at my house and lay up…kick rocks, then.

on March 19, 2014

You crack me up. I love reading your commentary. But it’s true though, I don’t need you wearing out my couch if you aren’t bringing anything to the table. Preach girl.

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