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Writer Puts Down Stay At Home Moms And Marriage “These Aren’t Accomplishments!”

Uncategorized / February 12, 2014

Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.

Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same. It’s hard for me to believe it’s not just verbally placating these people so they don’t get in trouble with the mommy bloggers.

Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And here’s the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?

Writer Puts Down Stay At Home Moms And Marriage "These Aren't Accomplishments!

If women can do anything, why are we still content with applauding them for doing nothing?

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on February 12, 2014

I wouldn’t say that being a stay at home mom is average. Plenty of moms stay at home for their own reasons. I thought it was about having a choice and knowing that you’re only option isn’t to stay home. I don’t get why people have to demonize someone who for her own reasons is happy being at home and running her home. I don’t get why some feminist look down on other women for their choices when actually we need to need to fight to never ending battle of equality for all woman no matter what they choose to do. Feminism is different for everybody. Some people celebrate births because maybe it was hard for them to have that child, it’s not so easy to run out find a man/woman worth settling down and starting a family with not for. I also think people need to get a clue on what it means to settle down versus “settling”. Settling down might mean that you are tired of dating scene, tired of long term relationships and want to build something together with someone you legit have strong feelings for. Settling, plain ole settling is knowing your man/woman ain’t worth a damn and you don’t think you can do any better.

I also feel like these conversations are one sided like they are getting their information because of a few folks and not looking at the bigger picture.

on February 12, 2014

I think this writer was aiming to put out a piece that would be provocative and get her some attention and it did.

I was 32 when I got married and 34 when I became a mom for the first time. And after working in Corporate America for over 15 years, I became a stay at mom almost two years ago.

Now, while I don’t necessarily considered either my SAHM status or my marriage “accomplishments” I do consider them a huge part of my legacy. The accomplishment comes after my children take what I’ve given them and become functioning & contributing members of society. And me staying at home with them may or may not have any bearing on that…

However I made the best decision for MY family. My husband travels a lot for work and we have no real support system, so my kids were spending 10 hours a day in daycare. To me that’s was unacceptable especially since we could totally make it on one income. I’ll probably go back to work after my youngest starts school or maybe I won’t, who knows….

Every one ends up living the life they lead by the choices they ultimately make and I am extremely happy with my choices so much so that I don’t have to write an article proving it to everyone or making moms who work outside the home or single women feel insignificant.

on March 29, 2014

I kind of agree with them, although I haven’t read the entire article yet. I don’t call carrying children and having them an accomplishment. It’s what I have had to endure while raising them that makes for the biggest accomplishment in my life, but still, not really. I would like to think I am bigger than what I am expected to do. If i carry a child and it’s born, I am expected to raise them to the best of my abilities and beyond. Big whoop! When I get married, I don’t think it will be anything worth running a ticker tape for either. The accomplishment would be in keeping it tight and making it last. Still, that’s nothing. It’s what you’re supposed to do if you take on the task. I do think births and weddings should be celebrated as starts of new journeys, but not as, “girl, you are so doing it now”. No.



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