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Online dating. To some this can still seem taboo, desperate or dangerous. Many say you never truly know if the person you are talking to is really who they say they are. And that’s true. Hell, they even have a whole TV show dedicated to finding the person behind the profile. (Which if we’re honest, most people already know going into it that this person isn’t really who they say they are. They’ve just decided to ignore the signs.) But honestly it’s no different from meeting a person in real life. So many people aren’t really who they say they are. Sure you know their true face, but you don’t always their true identity. But I understand where this caution with online dating is coming from.
Ok. I’ll admit it. I’ve done the online dating thing from time to time. No I’m not crazy or desperate. I just am a super busy person, whose daily activity doesn’t place them in a position to meet a lot of eligible bachelors. So dating online gives me a few options to meet more people than I do in my daily grind.
What I do find funny with guys on these things is how…we’ll say flawed their approach can be to this whole idea. You have the guys who barely fill out their profiles. Leaving only one sentence or a few words to address the questionnaire and following up with ‘if you want to know, then ask’. I mean, no effort at all, even at the simple things the site asks of you…what do you think that signals? To the women I know who’ve done the online thing, this just shows that you don’t take this seriously and you’re really not trying to find a potential relationship.
Then you have the guys who just have horrible photos. Too dark. Too blurry. There’s the hat and glasses! Oh my, the hat and sunglasses photos. Some guys look amazing in the hat and glasses. Take them off and it’s like who did it and why???? Then there are the camera phone covering half of your face bathroom photos. You know, the ones that only show your body. Let me just say, while the body may be nice, it doesn’t make up for a jacked up face. And we’re not fooled by the way. The same way you can tell when a girl may be a bit bigger by how she frames her face and boobs, we know when your chiseled abs are a cover-up for a frightful face. You know for most women, what’s on the inside has a bit more weight than what is on the outside. So even if you’re not the hottest thing out there, personality can make up a lot of ground. (Just a bit though – I know we can be just as shallow as the men out there).
And then there are these screen names you guys choose. You put anything with a lick or taste in it…just no.
Lastly, let’s talk about these messages. Hi. What’s up? Does not make a message. Nor does getting overly sexual, or mentioning foot massages within the first 2 sentences. Come on, really? This is the best you have? Does that work with the women you’ve met? If we were to meet in person, is that really how you’d step? No, you wouldn’t. So don’t do it online.
Online dating really is no different from meeting guys in a bar. You’ve got your sleazy, your cheesy, your needy, your greedy, your thirsty, your horny, and finally the one decent guy in the whole place. At least the weeding out, rejection and ignoring of the undesirables is a bit easier through your computer. *delete*
Tell us about your online dating experiences…
Any crazy stories?? Did you find love or disaster?
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