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Exclusive: Interview with a Married Cheater

Dating & Relationships / He Said / February 20, 2014

The following is an interview with a married cheater.  He is a 40 something year old man who has cheated on his wife off and on during the 10 years that they have been married.  He will give his insight on why men cheat and has a few things to say to women about cheating.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Welcome and thank you for agreeing to this interview.

The Married Cheater:  You’re welcome.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Tell me a little about yourself.

The Married Cheater: Well, I have been married 10+ years, good career, good provider for my family and I love my wife and kids.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  So, let me just right into it…do you cheat on your wife?

The Married Cheater:  YES!

The Sexy Single Mommy:  That was without hesitation.  Why is that? Are you not happy?

The Married Cheater:  Yes, extremely happy.  My wife never turns me down when it comes to sex, she is willing to try new things, etc. but every now and then a man wants something different.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Something different? Why, if you are getting everything that you need at home?

The Married Cheater:  It is in a man’s nature.  We like to chase and conquer.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Doesn’t that get old after a while?

The Married Cheater: What?  New pussy?

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Yes, all these different women.

The Married Cheater:  No!

The Sexy Single Mommy:  How is that in a man’s nature?

The Married Cheater:  Look at every animal.  Humans are animals.  We do everything an animal does. A mother protects a cub with her life.  It’s a natural instinct.  Men, like to conquer.  It’s a natural instinct.  We kill animals to eat and survive and every male animal has more than one mate.  Look at lions, bulls, etc.  They all have a harem.  They protect that harem and will die fighting to protect their harem.  The dominate males mates with several females, so it’s actually in our nature to mate and multiply.

It goes back to the beginning, every king had a gang of women.  We don’t want to have sex with the same woman over and over.  In Africa, you can have as many wives as you want as long as you can take care of them.  Look at Muslim’s.  Same thing.  It is only in America that you can’t have more than one wife.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  That’s not only in America

The Married Cheater: Of course, but you get my meaning.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  You mentioned that is in your nature to mate and multiply…does that mean that you do not use protection with these other women.

The Married Cheater:  I was just giving an example.  Of course, I use protection.  The last thing that I am thinking about is having a baby outside my marriage.  I just want to have sex with someone different and go about my way.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Do these women know about one another?  Does your wife know?

The Married Cheater:  No, my wife does not know.  The other women know that I am married.  Hell, they are married! Women are no different from us!  They do the same thing.  They want something different, too!

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Do you feel any remorse about what you’re doing?

The Married Cheater:  Yes, I do but not enough to make me stop doing what I am doing. (Laughs)

The Sexy Single Mommy:  What if you found out your wife was cheating on you?

The Married Cheater:  She is probably doing it, too.  If she is…so what?  I might be mad but shit, I did it.  I am not trying to leave my marriage behind it because I know it was just sex.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  So, if the day comes that your wife finds out about all this, then what?

The Married Cheater:  Then she just finds out.  What can I do?

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Do you think that men are not capable of being faithful?

The Married Cheater:  I can’t speak for every man but I can tell you that 98% of men will cheat.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  What message would give women?

The Married Cheater:  Just because a man cheats on you doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. It’s a physical thing for us.  It’s not a mental attraction.  It doesn’t change the way that he feels about you.  We can have sex and it’s just that…sex!  We are not emotional like women are.  It’s just a man’s nature.  Plus, women do the same thing.  It’s just not only men cheating.  Women cheat, too!  Put it like this, you wouldn’t want to eat chicken every day of your life, would you?

The Sexy Single Mommy:  No

The Married Cheater:  There it is.  We don’t want to have sex with the same person every day of our lives either.

The Sexy Single Mommy:  Well, there it is.  Thank you for taking the time to give women some insight on cheating from a man’s point of view.

The Married Cheater:  You’re welcome.  Anytime.

Do you agree with what he said? 

Do women cheat just as much as men?

Are men capable of being faithful?

the sexy single mommy


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.




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34 Comments

on September 21, 2012

I still don’t understand y men cheat on women. I was engaged to my spouse for six years and that’s all he did and he made a baby. After six years i just decided to leave.

    on September 21, 2012

    Dang!

    on January 15, 2013

    I’m not sure about that one myself, and I’m a man. As someone that refuses to cheat, all I can say is some of the guys out there say they are strong and workout as much has possible, but when it comes down to it. Some are weak and stupid and the little brain is bigger than the big brain. And running the show.

on September 21, 2012

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on September 22, 2012

What a dog! I couldn’t get past the first couple of questions.

    on September 22, 2012

    It was hard for me to do the interview without being upset and going off. I still don;t understand his rational!

    on January 15, 2013

    Yea, it was hard for me to get pass the first 3 comments too and I’m a man. Guy’s like that make it impossible to get a good woman, hell even a bad one sometimes. Already put my 50 cents in further down this thread.

on September 22, 2012

What a shame if a wild animal kills and eats that guy, but you couldn’t blame them, it’s in their nature!

    on January 15, 2013

    LOL – Sounds about right.

on September 22, 2012

I love how men keep comparing themselves to dumb ass animals! This man is silly. Smh. But to each its own. I hope he has a boat load of money so his poor wife can take his butt for all he’s worth!

    on September 22, 2012

    Dumb ass is right on point. SMH! BS never ceases to amaze me!

on September 22, 2012

If he wants to compare himself to animals then how about a penguin. Penguins mate for life. And somehow even though they all look the same to me, they can tell out of the hundreds of other penguins which one their mate is. So don’t give me that we’re just like animals shit. If a man cheats on you it’s because he doesn’t love you enough to be faithful. If a woman cheats it’s cause she doesn’t love her partner enough to be faithful. I’ve been cheated on and I know his ass didn’t love me. You can’t tell me you love your partner as much as you did when you married or first fell in love with them if you feel the need to cheat on them. Least he’s protecting himself and not bringing a disease home.

    on September 22, 2012

    HELLO! You better PREACH!!

on September 22, 2012

Great interview… but I probably would have told him he was a dumb ass. LOL Thank goodness he is wrapping it up too!

    on September 22, 2012

    True! I had to seriously bite my tongue on this one!

on September 25, 2012

Its sad to say, but he is right about how most men are, hell women that I have came across as well. Most men will cheat, and thats a fact! To be honest, me and about 1 other buddy of mines are the only men that I know that has never cheated on his woman. I have never in my life went out of my relationship, and Im married now so I be dam if I cheat on my wife. Every single man in my family has cheated on there mates. Hell most of the female friends had cheated on theirs, its really just said. The world is fucked up! http://www.blackconvo.com

on October 3, 2012

I think he is an idiot. Sounds like he has a problem and can’t admit to it. I like to think more positive and sad that it isn’t in a man’s nature, but against his nature NOT to be loyal. Men value loyalty and cheating in Marriage is a huge disgrace. You are breaking a promise to stay with that person. You are breaking their trust and putting your own selfish indulgences above your relationship. That is NOT love. You do not LOVE your wife if you are doing this. I understand that sex is different for men and women, that is why you should not be cheating and why you have a huge problem. Stop being selfish and quit running around on your wife. Sooner or later you are going to get caught and your marriage is going to end. There is no such thing as an open relationship. The relationship ends the minute you try an open relationship. Sorry, but this guy is not a man, he is a little boy acting on every immature impulse, trying to fulfill something that is void in his heart.

    on October 3, 2012

    I couldn’t agree with you more! You can’t imagine how hard it was to do that interview

    on January 15, 2013

    Thank you, well said totally agree. Would write more but already write further down in this thread. Being a man is taking care of your responsibilities i.e. Wife, Kids, maybe a dog or a cat too. And if the parents need help and it is within his means, them too. Yes Women cheat too. I’ve been cheated on before but that’s no excuse to send your own soul to Hell by doing the same stupid, weak shit. Cheaters get to Church, find Jesus, jump up and down waiving your hands so he can see you and save you.

    OK I’m done.

on October 11, 2012

I found it really interesting that his wife doesn’t know. I got the impression that he thinks he’s a good man, but he just cheats and it doesn’t mean anything. He has a good job, is extremely happy with his wife, is a good provider, etc. He’s not an asshole who doesn’t love his wife, right? He’s not a jerk, because he’s all of those things and he’s very happy with his wife. His cheating is no big deal, right? Except there’s one problem and it’s not really the cheating. It’s the dishonesty in the cheating. And that’s what makes him an asshole. If he and his wife agreed to have an open relationship, then fine. If his wife knew about it and looked the other way, fine. But he’s lying to his wife about it; he’s sneaking around and breaking the bonds and trust in his marriage. So yeah, that makes you a bad guy and it makes you a jerk. If you’re such a man and so real with it, be real and tell your wife and be prepared to live with the consequences.

    on October 11, 2012

    Marisa, there’s more to this story. I’m working on Part 2, right now, and you will be surprised and how things turned out!!

    on January 15, 2013

    I think his wife knows something is wrong. He said it himself, he is tired of the same “pussy” every day. That tells me he is leaving out something important. Can’t get it up for the wife. Needs to work with what he has committed too. Wife and kids. If his equipment works on every woman but his own wife. Fix it. Change shit-up. He might not want to insult her but if she has gained more that a few pounds or lost more that is healthy and he isn’t feeling it. Let her know or seek professional help. And I don’t mean a hooker. Marriage counseling it’s the wave of the future, it will save him money in the long run (she won’t sue his pants off taking half later) , and he said it himself. He makes very good money. So pay for the Doctor to tell him what that little voice he has be ignoring is saying. “Don’t cheat stupid…tell your wife what you like to do in bed stupid”.
    Be a real man.

    Ok now I’m done.

      on January 15, 2013

      Did you read Part 2 of the interview, David?

on January 15, 2013

Well I read this. I don’t think his numbers about 98% of men cheat but maybe that’s because I’ve never cheated and see it as a weakness and a line I will not cross. I know good guys that have married women and honor their wives. As far as I know they don’t cheat on their wives. I do however remember some guys being jerks during locker room talk back in high school and college usually to impress the other guys. Some were actually jerks. Some actually did cheat on their girlfriends. I guess some guys never lose that mindset that they have to have many to be a “real man.” Yea he can argue that animals out in the wilderness and all over the planet have male with a gang of wives, but there are also some that love only one wife for life. Remember a few stories about penguins and pandas and a few other species that have evolved.

I don’t know I guess I’m just going to keep with my thinking and focus on me. Someone that has evolved and refuses to cheat. One woman per relationship is perfectly fine and required with me. …well unless she want’s to add another woman in the mix. Sometimes you get lucky like that. Most times you don’t.

on October 8, 2013

this left a bad taste in my mouth; a very bad taste…very immature views that i’m sure to him sound good, and yes I could eat chicken every day for the rest of my life. chicken isn’t all that bad, its good for me and i like it and i know what i’m getting – i don’t need pork or any other meat to satisfy me. and there are a hundred ways to do chicken. and IF i get tired of chicken, I would go without, not replace it with some other meat. It takes maturity and discipline to reap the benefits of love and marriage…what he’s done is elevated sex to a place it need not be.

    on October 8, 2013

    I couldn’t agree with you more and you would think that someone well into their 40’s would have a higher maturity level.

on October 28, 2013

The only thing I read over and over from him was that how much he loved and respected his wife to make sure that he still kept it 100 at home so that she would not know.

Most men nowadays don’t have any type of foundation or value to actually keep it right at home yet have their side pieces the side don’t get me wrong cheating is cheating and it is wrong but in the sense I think what he was saying was saying that he did not want to hurt his wife with his infidelity. The one thing that I always told my ex husband about his cheating was that he didn’t lose me because of he did it was bexause he would not make sure that he treated me right at home so that I wouldn’t feel neglected or more hurt when I found out about his infidelity..He has been married to her for 10 years I’m quite sure she knows because wives usually no its just that she doesn’t care because he’s taking care of home.
Side piece revelation is just like Jezebel a deliberately going out to seduce Christian married men its the same all over again but what we are as this wicked generation has learned to do is accept these people being cheaters and not leaning on to the word of what God and hold on to his commandments him to do its so sad.

LISTEN UP LADIES LETS HAVE STANDARDS AND MAKE THIS MENLINE

on October 28, 2013

Angel Longwood October 28, 2013 at 1:05 pm

The only thing I read over and over from him was that how much he loved and respected his wife to make sure that he still kept it 100 at home so that she would not know.

Most men nowadays don’t have any type of foundation or value to actually keep it right at home yet have their side pieces the side don’t get me wrong cheating is cheating and it is wrong but in the sense I think what he was saying was saying that he did not want to hurt his wife with his infidelity. The one thing that I always told my ex husband about his cheating was that he didn’t lose me because of he did it was because he would not make sure that he treated me right at home so that I wouldn’t feel neglected or more hurt when I found out about his infidelity..He has been married to her for 10 years I’m quite sure she knows because wives usually no its just that she doesn’t care because he’s taking care of home.
Side piece revelation is just like Jezebel a deliberate ACT going out to seduce Christian married men. Its the same all over again but what we are a wicked generation have learned to do is accept these people being cheaters and not leaning on to the word of God and hold on to his commandments. This is so sad.

LISTEN UP LADIES LETS HAVE STANDARDS AND MAKE THIS MEN LINE UP AND BE BETTER. WE NEED MORE ACCOUNTABILITY NOW OF DAYS

on February 20, 2014

He doesn’t get an ounce of applause. He doesn’t love his wife nor respect their marriage. He’s a self-centered child with no self control. We all like new things and enjoy the thrill of “unboxing”. Just because I can afford a new Mercedes every month doesn’t mean I need to indulge. This dude is disgusting.

    on February 20, 2014

    Yes, beyond disgusting but did you read part 2? It came back to slap him upside the head!

on February 20, 2014

This guy is the classic dog. He has convinced himself of his justification to cheat with the age old standard B.S. that men are just made this way. He has the make-up to be what cheater must be to survive from getting busted, a cold calculating person of deceit. Congratulations you’ve made the high grade for now but if and when (I use that term loosely) his wife decides that she has had enough of his behavior (Believe me she knows) she will leave him with only his memories of past discretions and forever being labeled as an adulterer.

    on February 20, 2014

    His wife actually did walk away during what would be considered the worse time to do so! Karma is a MF! Read part 2

on September 2, 2014

Stupid! Men are animals? Since when? He can speak for himself. Men and women who choose to cheat are simply cowards, disrespectful and also have issues of their own (desire to always have what they want, when they want and can’t be satisfied). The point of marriage is to remain faithful to 1 person alone. If you’re out there wanting to have sex with everybody else, then don’t get married and drag your spouse into your mess. Simple as that. #disgusted

    on September 3, 2014

    Shae, I totoally agree with you and his rational is idiotic!



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