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When Does “Taking A Break” Equal Having Babies With Random Chicks? Yes, We’re Talking About You, Ludacris And Dwayne Wade

Dating & Relationships / From the Editor / January 1, 2014

It seems that having “on a break babies” is the new trend among celebrities lately.  First Dwayne Wade confirmed that he fathered a little boy with “a longtime friend” while he and Gabrielle Union were on a break.  Now Ludacris is also confirming that he, too, fathered a child while on a break from his long time girlfriend, Eudoxie Agnan.  So my question is, when does “taking a break” equal having babies with random chicks? Better yet, when does “taking  break” mean having SEX with random chicks?

When Does "Taking A Break" Equal Having Babies With Random Chicks? Yes, We're Talking About You, Ludacris And Dwayne Wade

First let me state for the record, people have been having babies while on “a break” for years and years.  Some of you may even be a “take a break baby.” LOL! However, how is it that while on a break, men manage to knock chicks up?  If you were going to have sex with someone else while on a break, wouldn’t common sense tell you to wrap that shit up and use a condom?  I mean, REALLY?  Is that they way that we’re doing things nowadays and I would give five *ucks if we were on a break or not, if you got someone else pregnant…there is NO get back in that one.

And who goes on “breaks” anyway? Either we are going to be together or we aren’t.  There is no, let’s take a break for a while and see if we really want to be together?  Now, if a woman got pregnant while on a break, you know damn well a man would be pissed and there would be no get back.

When Does "Taking A Break" Equal Having Babies With Random Chicks? Yes, We're Talking About You, Ludacris And Dwayne Wade

Some people may say, “Gabrielle has invested so much time in their relationship and they weren’t technically together.” Yes, both of those statements may be true but how do you give a pass for that shit?  As far as we know, Gabrielle and Eudoxie haven’t got pregnant by their mates, so how is it cool that they get some other chicks pregnant and when exactly did they let the ladies know that they fathered children by someone else?  Was it after the chick told them, once the baby was here or right before it was leaked to the media?  Besides the hurt they must have felt that their man got another woman pregnant but how embarrassing is that?  The entire situation is excuse me….fucked up and I wouldn’t give a damn if he finally proposed after all the bullshit he has done but who is to say that he won’t do that same shit once you’re married? I for one wouldn’t bet that he would be faithful.

Now let’s take a look at the type of woman who would stay after their man fathered a child outside of their relationship. I get the whole thing about time invested but does investing time mean stay and be a fool?  Is it the money that makes a woman stay with a man who continually hurts her or is it because of “appearances” that they stay?  Do you accept that it happened when you weren’t together, respect the fact that he told you and move on with your lives together or do you wonder at what point did he realize that he wanted to be back with you…after he had sex with the other chick and before the baby or after he told you about it and you accepted him and the new baby?   Help me figure this out ya”ll…

What Do You Think? 

Would you give a man/woman another chance after they had a baby during a “break?”

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Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on January 1, 2014

Well, this all about being attractive (1) & male (2).

It doesn’t mean a woman cannot do the same thing & the man won’t take her back. Rare, but there are a few live examples.

Attractive/valuable people get away with way more in our society than less attractive/valuable counterparts

Because I can juxtapose this situation/scenario with all the “good” (but unattractive) men who get cheated on by scandalous women, Even though they did everything a woman asked of him.

Dutiful husband,
Loving father,
A net-positive to his community

So, although these scenarios seem messed up, women make exceptions for attractive men, and therefore all men should focus on, when dating & mating is becoming more & more attractive. Character & integrity is optional.

Being a man of character without swagger/charisma will get you nothing but a lump of coal.

    on January 1, 2014

    Well said!!!

on January 2, 2014

I definitely think that in general rich or famous, we as women, especially women of color tolerate too much disrespect from our male counterparts. Too many of us don’t have the patience to stand by our standards until a man who will treat us with respect, remain faithful (even on a break), lift us up and motivate us. Our society is all about the now. Some men feel like well, I’m not with her, but I want sex now. So, they go out and find these groupies quote unquote friends they’ve known for a while and have unprotected sex which in and of itself is stupid and highly irresponsible.

Women are tired of being lonely. They want a man now. So they go back to an ex who should have remained ex or just settle for the next thing that comes their way. But honestly, at the end of the day in regards to this the D Wade & Gabby situation, their relationship started off with a scandal. Reportedly, he was still married to his high school sweetheart and supposedly been introduced to her at an event, they hung out and thus an affair was started that led to a divorce. So, she knew what kind of person he truly was from the jump. And she proved what kind of woman she was.

I know people can change, but for both their parts they’ve proven that old habits don’t really die sometimes. Hopefully, they take their vows and the commitment they are about to make to God seriously. The divorce rate is too high and his children have already been through the trauma of a broken home. There comes a time when we have to really be adults and that includes being responsible in ALL aspects of our life.

    on January 2, 2014

    Rich & famous, is not IT. Regular women put up with BS with regular but very attractive dudes.

    More BS than what DWade is dishing out to GUnion.

    You don’t need examples, you have enough.

on January 5, 2014

It’s sad but I think this will just be another divorce for both of them. She doesn’t have the self esteem and self respect to demand he treat her better, and he doesn’t have the respect for her or himself to treat her better coupled with the knowledge that she’ll continue to take BS like this – he has no reason to. It’s a problem a lot of women have. It doesn’t matter what their social status is or his for that matter. Some women for whatever reason don’t feel that don’t deserve a certain level of respect so they don’t demand it of those around them. Each one of us is responsible for our actions. Ms Union knows exactly who she’s marrying. A man who will not only cheat on her (check the timeline – they weren’t on a break unless the baby was seriously premature), but do it unprotected with a woman she knows (if she was a long-time friend I’d imagine his girlfriend of many years has met her). She probably wasn’t the only one either. Just the only one who got knocked up. Quite the example he’s setting for his 3 sons. Hopefully they’ll find a way to grow up to be better men than their father when it comes to the women in their lives.

    on January 5, 2014

    I agree and what’s even sadder than the entire disrespect thing is that Karma is a MF and let’s not forget the way she got him. He was married!! I think the entire situation is sad and I wish that Gabrielle and women like her would realize that they deserve so much better and they don’t have to settle for a piece of a man.

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