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Approximately seventy-two percent of black babies are born to unmarried mothers today. Seventy-freakin’-two. Are you kidding me? If you’re a single, black mom, then you’re getting ready to be upset with me. If you’re a single, black “baby daddy”, then you’re going to be offended.
Good. That’s exactly what I want. I hope I step on so many toes with this post that I leave a room full of dislodged toenails after I’m done. I struggled with my approach to this post because at first, I didn’t want to upset anyone. Afterwards, I thought to myself, “this is one of the many reasons black people are stuck in the rut we’ve been in for decades now. Why be nice?”
Your child deserves two parents and if you disagree, then you’re an idiot. That doesn’t mean that a single parent can’t manage on their own, I’m not saying that. What I am saying is that a single parent’s love can never possibly match the love of a good two-parent household.
Jesse Washington, an AP National Writer wrote:
“Children of unmarried mothers of any race are more likely to perform poorly in school, go to prison, use drugs, be poor as adults, and have their own children out-of-wedlock”
It doesn’t take much research to figure that one out. If the mother is having to work, clean, pay bills, etc., then who in the world has time to fool with kids, right?
Parenting is meant to be a team effort. That sentence would look good on a t-shirt right about now. It takes a phenomenal person to raise a child successfully solo. Contrary to what most of you believe, most of you aren’t that phenomenal.
And to the sperm donors, let me give you my two cents. Some black males have no clue of what “being a man” truly is. It pains me to say that. You’re so focused on putting rims on your car, buying jewelry and wearing name-brand garbage that you can’t see what it’s all about and it sickens me.
You continue to go through life thinking a woman’s job is to take care of you because you, too, probably came from a single-mom household.
We gotta break the cycle. Why not be the person to do so? Why not start educating today? Stop celebrating single motherhood as if it’s some badge of honor. It’s one thing to be a single mom because of a divorce or a death, but it’s another to intentionally not take steps to give your child what he/she deserves.
The black community’s 72 percent rate dwarfs that of whites mothers at 29 percent, the most recent year for which government figures are available. The rate for the overall U.S. population was 41 percent.
Dag, if you can’t have sex responsibly then close your legs until you say “I do”, black people! I’ve heard the reasons that lead to single-parent households and the main culprit is “irresponsibility”. Sure condoms break or other birth control methods fail, but we all know that people have unprotected sex like it’s Woodstock 2013. I’m not saying it’s all the fault of the female, but given the fact you’re normally the one left to raise the kid, birth control should mean more to you than him.
Photo Credits: billemory.com, the-pa-in-connection.blogspot.com, nomblog.com