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From the Editor / December 26, 2013
This evening the lyrics to “So Amazing” by Luther Vandross are playing in my head and I have this overwhelming sense of purpose.  I feel like I am finally walking into my destiny.  I am finally using the gift that God gave me and I can’t really explain how extremely grateful I feel right now.  I am grateful that God allowed me to live long enough to accept the gift that he gave me and to really begin to use it. 
Just a couple of weeks ago, I was telling a friend that I needed to start using my gift.  That I needed to start taking my writing seriously and start doing what I was put here for.  For many years my friends and family had been encouraging my to work on a book and I would always respond that I was “working on it.” I would start writing and then stop, over and over again.  I would complain that I didn’t have the time, that I was just too busy with work and raising my son, that I would get around to it and never did.
It’s funny how God works and even funnier how the Devil distracts you.  It’s been almost a year since I have been off work and I have had more time on my hands now then I have had my entire adult life, yet I still didn’t REALLY write.  I found everything else to do with my free time, i.e., fool around on Facebook, playing The Sims and the one thing that I spent hours on…  Sure, I would write a little every now and then and I would tell myself that “starting Monday” I would commit at least 2 hours a day to writing.  I can’t tell you how many Mondays came and went and yet, I STILL wasn’t writing.  God had given me all this time off, time that I probably would never have again and STILL I didn’t write. 
It’s a good thing that God isn’t in the business of giving up on us, because had it been a mere mortal, they would have said, “She’s a lost cause.  She will never use her gift the way that it was meant for her to use it.  She will never understand her purpose here on earth.”
I guess you can say that I started listening to what God and everyone else had been trying to tell me for years.  Lately, I have been coming up with all this subject matter to write about.  I have come up with ideas on how to use my writing to inspire and help others and it’s crazy how once I decided to really accept my purpose, how my creative juices have been flowing.  But you know the Devil never wants you to do what God wants you do and he almost had me doubting myself through “an acquaintance.”
I asked someone to read my blog and let me know what they thought and without reading the entire thing, part of their response was, “..I am just not big on these single sista blogs that are nothing but self righteous rants with no self reflection.”  Now if you know me, you know that I don’t take criticism very well (I’m working on that) and to say that I was pissed off would be an understatement, especially when you didn’t read all my blogs.  You just went off the name off the blog and came to that assumption?  For a minute, just a QUICK minute, I was second guessing myself and was thinking that maybe this wasn’t such a good idea.  However, I though about what my momma always said, “One monkey don’t stop no show,” so the show as you can see, kept going on.
It’s so amazing when you realize and start doing exactly what you were called to do.  This blog is only the beginning and since I started writing it, I have come to remember how much I really love to write.  How effortless it truly is.  I said it before and it is worth saying again,  It’s a good thing that God isn’t in the business of giving up on us because if he had I wouldn’t be feeling so amazing right now. Thank you God!!!!
the sexy single mommy
Repost from 5/24/2012

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on December 2, 2012

AMEN! I’m glad you didn’t listen to that unfounded criticism either! I love your blog and your subject matter isn’t based on the title of your blog, how ridiculous! You are talented and I know you will end up using and sharing your gift for a very long time to come! Good luck! (POW- in the face- to all haters and detractors! LOL!)

    on December 2, 2012

    LOL! Thanks, Tracie for being a fan of the blog and for understanding where I was coming from! Those same people who were hating and “didn’t get it” are now amazed and what I have done so far!

on December 2, 2012

It’s so true not to listen to others who aren’t excited about people actually doing stuff. I remember having a ‘friend’ reading the first draft of my very first play and she bashed it. The next day I went to a cold reading of my play, not feeling too good about myself and the theatre people loved it!!! It’s so important to do what excites you! because what’s in you is meant to come out! Your gift is meant to be shared!

    on December 2, 2012

    That is very true. I am glad that you didn’t give up. Thanks for stopping by!

on April 17, 2013

I really needed that. I’m sitting here playing on the computer thinking about what the hell I want to do with my life. I got over one hump in my life now I’m trying to figure out my purpose. I know my purpose (writing) but I get distracted and discouraged as well. I have a blog I haven’t wrote on in months. I have 2 books that need editing and another one that is half done. I have the means to do it all but I just get the “blah” feel. I know published authors so I have connections and contacts yet I’m still sitting around twirling my thumbs. I need to use my talents before I lose my talents.
Thanks again because this was right on time for me!!

    on April 17, 2013

    Hi Stacey. I’m glad this post could benefit you. I think that we all get into a “rut” from time to time and lack the motivation to do the things that we should be doing. Let me know when you post something new on your blog, so I can check it out!

on December 26, 2013

That’s truly a blessing Ty. The truth is we all are called by Jesus Christ. Unfortunately, there are too many who don’t answer the call. I am so glad to hear that you’re answering the call and preparing yourself to do even greater things with Jesus at the helm. If there is every anything you may need, please don’t hesitate to ask.

    on December 27, 2013

    Thanks Jay. I appreciate your ongoing support and so glad that you are on my team.

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