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Why do men think that they should not pay for a date? This is a question that today’s young men and some older men pose. Now let me be fair and state that not all men even have this question in their mind, but for some reason today’s “so-called men” has made this an issue.
For those of us that were raised and taught how to be men, by our fathers, mothers, or someone we viewed as a role model, the idea of showing chivalry is an honor. Dare to be different… a woman knows her wealth and when you open the door, bring flowers just because, pull her chair out, or just take the time to plan a day or evening, it shows her that you value her. As for the actual date, no matter the location, it is your time to display all your qualities and the reasons why she should date you. To not pay or to ask to go “dutch” (that’s old school which means she pay her way and you pay your way) is “relationship suicide.”
Think of all the priceless things a woman does…not just the physical things because I’ll address that in a minute. But those invaluable things; the support of her dreams and goals, being a mother to our children married or unmarried; or how about the ones that are waiting to be married to her boyfriend and it’s been 3 or more years. When I hear men say “why do I have to pay for the date?” I say why not? Most men do not support as strong or stay as long, while other men are selfish in their ways and believe that the relationship is all about them.
Why should you have to pay, you may ask? You should have to pay because you are the MAN. By paying you are showing her that you have her back and that you are capable of providing for her. Why should you have to pay? Because that’s what a “REAL MAN” does. Why should you have to pay? Because when you don’t pay some more deserving man notices it and you makes it easy to lose your woman? Oh yes, fellas, you can lose her and don’t say “she was never mine if I lose her” she was yours but you didn’t want to pay for the date, you didn’t want to show her you could take care of her.
Oh and as for the physical, meaning the sex. A woman is the best poker player in the world because they believe in us and are willing to ensure we are satisfied all around, but the “weak man” will not factor that in when he let’s his mouth speak and ask “why should I have to pay for the date?”
We pay because she is one of the best gifts God has given to men. She is our balance, she is the calm during our storms, she is our nurture to our children and ourselves. Why pay? Because she is priceless, magnificently made, and designed for you.
Do you think men should pay for dates?
Why do you think men believe that men should not pay when he takes a man out?
Is it a deal breaker when a man doesn’t pay for a date, ladies?
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