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I’ve been super single for over a year now and I have to admit I’m still trying to figure this whole dating thing out. After being with one person for a little over three years I have to admit I initially went into the dating scene with the wrong mindset. I wanted to make everyone “the one” and I was taking some of these men entirely too seriously. Finally I’ve seen the light and decided to make dating categories to help me keep it all in perspective.
He’s the guy that you throw caution to the wind for. The Fun Boy may not always be trustworthy, or the man you want to take home to meet your parents but damn if he’s not a busload of fun. Chances are the sex with him is absolutely mind-blowing It’s important to categorize this fella quickly because if you don’t you may just find yourself wrapped u in some emotions he’s probably not ready for.
Here’s some signs that you may need to put him in the Fun Category:
Nice guy but you feel like he may be hiding something from you
He makes himself available on his own terms
You like him but you can’t really see long-term with him
When you’re with him you have the most amazing carefree time but you just sense he’s up to no good
He’s that guy you can call for anything! Bored, lonely, need a date? Call him because he’ll always be there. In most cases he know’s he’s the on-call man and you may be his on-call girl, just as long as you both have an understanding things normally work out without drama. I’m ready for ya’ll to rip me apart for this category and I’m not saying that its right but I am saying that it happens. Also, this guy has the potential to turn into something more…you’d be surprised how letting the friendship develop may allow for a loving relationship to develop.
When To Put Him On Call?
You like him but you’re still trying to figure out what you really want from this guy
Your hectic schedule doesn’t allow you much time but when it does you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else
You enjoy every girls night out but
Sometimes you just need a good vacation and sometimes there’s that guy that’s like “babe, where you want to go?” Nothing heavy, strings don’t have to be attached and he really doesn’t even have to foot the bill but hey, you have an amazing time during a weekend getaway.
You Know He’s Just The Traveling Man When:
You only really speak when one of you has a vacation idea
You live in two separate cities/states and have no interest in a long-term relationship
As much as you like to vacate with homeboy, the thought of being committed to him is a no go
He’s never trading in his playa card
So far I have one guy in the “I’d marry him” category and it’s quite unlike anything I’ve felt before. We’re friends first and somehow he’s like all of the men listed above but has the qualities that make you want to keep him. He’s that guy that you know will make an excellent husband and father one day, the one you want to make an honest woman out of you and wake up next to every single morning. He’s ambitious, caring and perfect for you. It takes some time and there will be debates forever about if you should find him, or he finds you but when you meet it will be simply amazing.
Marry Him When:
You can’t imagine life without him
You know he’ll be a father to your children no matter what happens between you both
He adores you
He takes his place as man while still respecting and honoring you
Judge me if you will but I’m convinced men categorize women all the time, how else do you think they come out of the clear blue wife’n up a woman you considered was the underdog? Maybe you don’t need categories but be clear about what you really want when it comes to this dating stuff. Don’t forget to have lots of fun when dating and give yourself options. You make the rules, ladies.
Do you put the people you date into categories?
How do you determine who goes into what category?