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Can You Drive A Person To Cheat?

Dating & Relationships / He Said / November 12, 2013

There are a lot of things that will cause some ups and downs in a relationship, but that’s par for the course.  It’s how it’s managed that determines if that relationship is successful or not.  So many people in relationships think that if their significant other cheats that it’s somehow their fault.  I disagree.

There is never a good reason for someone to cheat on you.  Never.

Men are generally labeled as cheaters more than women, so I’ll focus there.  A lot of times, especially these days, a man will use deflection to get himself out of trouble or to win a debate.  Despite the fact that he’s the one being accused of some wrong-doing, he’ll flip the script to put the accusations back on the woman.  Now, women do this, too, but I’m just talking about the fellas right now.

Can you drive a person to cheat?

A man will cheat on a woman (or attempt to cheat) and will somehow turn things around to make it seem as if it’s his woman’s fault that he did it.  Surprisingly, this method is very effective in getting guys out of hot water.  You wouldn’t think that it would work, but it’s actually a lot more successful than you would think.

Ladies, don’t fall for this.  It’s a trap.  A man will tell you that he cheated because you did the following:

“You’re always too busy for me.”
“You won’t have sex with me any more.”
“You don’t dress sexy like you once did.”
“You’re always mad at me over something.”
“You drove me to cheat.”

All of the above is garbage.  The proper response when a man feels any of the aforementioned junk is to sit his woman down and have a conversation.  He should then explain how he feels and why he’s not happy in the relationship.  If things don’t change for the better in his eyes then he needs to return to single status and move on with his life.

Can you drive a person to cheat?

Boom.  It’s that simple.  No one gets cheated on in that scenario.  Instead of trying to have your cake and eat it, too, just simply move on to the next one and allow the last one to find someone who is more compatible with her.

We guys want to find another girlfriend before we decide to get rid of the one we have.  That’s not how it goes.  Leave her because you’re not happy and not because you’ve found someone you think is better.


Do you think that a person can be driven to cheat?
Has a mate ever cheated on you?  What excuses did they give you for cheating?
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Q is a barely 40-something sports fan who is full of opinions and observations when it comes to relationships. He was thrown back into the dating pool after breast cancer claimed the life of his wife of 10 years. He shares some of his life's stories and observations on his blog at and his talk radio show at You can follow him on Twitter: @Talk2Q or Friend him on Facebook: Thank Que.

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