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I was watching Real Housewives of Atlanta, you know the episode where Porsha said that she was Glad her husband LET her go on the trip, and the women in the limo were acting like she said something crazy. I actually gained a new respect for that woman Porsha that day. She actually realized that she has a husband that she needs to listen to and consult with.
There are plenty of Black women with the “I go where I want to go, and do what I want to do attitude.” When you get married, the IIIII’s are gone for good, that’s over with. You just can’t pack up with the girls talking about going to the strip club, and this goes both ways. When you get married, How do you explain going out and letting someone put their body parts in your face?
Now I wrote a post a while back on about submitting, and for this one I will not use that word. Instead, I will use the terms Leader and Head. The post gained a number of responses from women, and lets just say that there were some very strong opinions voiced. Now me, I totally believe that the man should have the final say so, just as GOD says that we have to come to him first, he has left us with instructions on how everything in life should be set. I don’t go around quoting scriptures, but I do believe in the beginning of that good book, GOD allowed man to name woman, and gave him control over everything….
Enough of that, those are just my thoughts and beliefs.
My experience with black women in my 32 years of life, leads me to believe that they do not know what the hell they want.
Not all of you sista’s, but some of you, and I will add the mast majority that I know. Most women say that they want a strong man, not a weak little crying wimp, however, when I see a strong man exercise his manhood, sooner or later he is going to be called controlling, or “not my daddy”, or be told, “you don’t tell me what to do!”
If he bows down to his woman, then he will be called a bitch of a man, or too soft. If he tries to fall somewhere in between, he’s not enough of this or enough of that. So guess what happens, the woman, yes the woman, who can’t get along with other women…the woman who will cry as soon as her emotions get out of hand…the woman who needs a man to open that jar that’s too tight, change the tire, and take out the trash wants to take over everything.
I can almost guarantee that if a man is living in the house, and he is not allowed to take charge or keeps getting knocked out of position, the house is in total chaos. Ladies, I’m not talking about a dog, I’m talking about a good man! It seems to me that Black Women only wants a man to take charge when it’s convenient for them. If taking charge means denying them from what they want, you better count your losses, buddy. If your man is a Real Man, and you are treating him as such, there is not too much that you will go lacking for.
A woman who has a real man, and treats him like one will not have a problem getting her way or treated how she should. You know why men are so controlling and want to be the Head, it’s because it’s how we were created. Most women I know want to be spoiled and want attention, it’s because that’s the way they were made. I do not go against human nature, I flow with it. So with that being said, Why n d hell is it so hard to just let ya man Take Charge, have control, and/or the final say so?
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