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In Spite Of Divorce, T.D.Jakes Daughter, Sarah Jakes, Still Believes In Love

Dating & Relationships / Single Mommy Stuff / October 6, 2013

T.D. Jakes’ daughter and blogger, Sarah Jakes who recently filed for divorced her NFL linebacker husband, Robert Henson wrote a blog about why, even after divorce, she still believes in love.  While I have never been married, thus have never experienced divorce, I know that many of you, my readers have.  I think that her truth will serve as a healing to many of you who have experienced divorce or who may be going through it right now and have given up on love.  Hopefully what she says will speak to your hearts and help in your healing.



Call me naïve, call me young, call me what you want… I believe in love. I look at my children and know that I would lay my life down to save theirs… without hesitation… without a second thought.  I believe in love that doesn’t ignore wrongs, but pushes past it to find the right. I have known love that stands as a wall around me in the face of adversity, protecting me from a harsh world. I have seen love that silences personal thoughts and opinions, to spare pain from the one they love. I have witnessed love that casts the perfect shadow in the scorching heat of heartbreak. I believe in that giddy, conquers all, we can take on the world love…

I trust love… I trust that no matter what happens, love will see us through. I trust that love can see my mistakes and beauty at the same time, never loving me any less. I don’t believe what “they” say when they tell me love will make me weak. Love has picked me up when I couldn’t find my own way, filling the gap that exists between making my weakness a strength. I believe love is patient, because it knows it cannot be denied… Love is what wakes me up in the middle of the night to pray for my children. Love is what guided me out of harm’s way… Love is what protected me from the things I didn’t understand, but wanted so badly to know.

Love has mended the heart of the most shattered people. Love has provided warmth in life’s coldest days, reminding me I am not alone. My family did not just say they loved me, they showed me… There were plenty of times they could have turned their back, leaving me to muddle in my own pool of wrong… but love picked me up, cleaned me off, and carried my head up high until I gained the strength to do it on my own.

Even though many people masquerade lust as love, I will not be swayed… I will not give up, because I believe in love… I have experienced too much love to ever turn my back on it. Love cannot be seen, it isn’t always felt, but in the most needed moments, it wraps itself around us like skin, marking all that we touch with our love prints…

I pray that life never robs us of the treasure, that is love. Too many times we give up on love because someone abused it… Someone broke us. We become afraid to feel the warmth of love flee, so we choose to adjust to the cold of this world… But true love should begin on the inside. It should exist in the deepest part of our soul so it is not easily robbed… It should burn fervently so that it can melt the ice that life brings… Yea, I believe in love, in the beauty it possesses and the pain it heals. I cannot believe in God and not believe in love, for they are one in the same. I cannot trust God, and not trust love… Just as we must be cautious who we allow to lead us to God, we must also be careful who we let show us love… Love is too powerful to be administered by someone you cannot trust… Love is medicine for the soul, but if given to the wrong person, what is meant to help you, will hurt you… Love is too powerful to be shackled by your past… Love wisely, strongly, and freely…

Thank you Sarah for sharing this with the world.

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on January 23, 2013

With all due respect, this is why the church is weak, and anemic. This is nothing but sloppy sentimentalism, sprinkled with religion. Where is the separation? Where is the forbearing with each other, the forgiveness that we are to live in and by? We are so like the world. We think like them, act like them and divorce like them. Then we tack God onto our justification, and think we’re alright. I have news for you, we’re not. I’m afraid no one is reading His words, and taking them to heart. This is truly like the days of Noah, Luke 17:26. Shame on us!

    on February 7, 2013

    It really surprises me how people quote parts of the Bible but do not believe in the whole. Yes it is true that in the Bible it says that what God put together let no man tear apart, but at the same time there was divorce in the Bible and with the people of God. The thing about Christians is that we are not perfect. The most unperfect people are the ones God destined for greatness. He used whoremongers, men that slept with their sister and everything else. But the “idea” of Godliness people have created and try to make everyone else live by it. And who are you? I strongly honestly urge you to listen to Bishop’s teachings, he doesn’t just preach but he teaches on exactly what was going on in the world when the person wrote that book in the Bible and you will see sooo much more than “God said this and God said that.” At the end of the day we are His children. And I know my mom isn’t happy with every choice I’ve made but you can’t tell her that I’m not the best woman she knows.

      on February 7, 2013

      Erynne, why are you “urging” me to listen to the Bishop’s teaching. All that I did was repsost Sarah’s blog post on the topic. I am not in any way trying to “make people” live by anything. Maybe I am misunderstanding your point here….

        on February 9, 2013

        I was speaking to Sandria. The lady who felt the need to pass judgement on what and Christian and what is wordly. I commend Sarah for not trying to hide her struggles. Women are dealing with things, who happen to be Christian and we need guidance and an uplift. And S/O to Sarah for being the one to take on the role!

          on February 9, 2013

          Okay. I understand now, Erynne. I invited Sarah to respond to the comments. I am not sure if she will.

on October 1, 2013

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on February 26, 2014

love will always supersed all

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on December 28, 2014

Her new husband is better than her ex. He still the same. Engaged to a woman he got pregnant only knew for three months. He still a liar and a cheater. He only got engaged to portray a good boy image because of his divorce with Sarah. Sarah I’m proud of you for moving on.

    on January 15, 2015

    Wow. I’m glad things worked out for her.

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