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Real Talk Advice For Women

Dating & Relationships / October 27, 2013

They say that “women are emotional creatures” and that 90% of how a woman acts is based on her emotions.  I am going to agree with both of those statements and I would like to add for the record, that women need to knock that shit off!  Too many of you are walking around with your hearts on your sleeves, crying, “feeling down,” making the wrong moves based on emotions and telling your friends all your business.  All that needs to stop…TODAY!

Putting the Single Ladies Up On Game

Women are playing themselves because they are so emotional.  You spend too much time over thinking situations, trying to figure out why men act the way they do, what they are going to do next, how come he hasn’t called you, etc.  Man, if y’all don’t knock it off! You make yourselves look pathetic and who wants to be around someone like that? Ummm…NO ONE!  Women get it together!  You have to start thinking before speaking!  As soon as something goes wrong, your mouths start popping off and necks start rolling.  Take a moment and evaluate the situation.  

Stop to think if you can benefit from it before you start popping off and the situation reaches a point of no return.  

I’m not telling you anything that I don’t know about first hand.  I will be the first one to tell you that if my mouth was a sword, I would be writing this from behind bars, doing life because of the things that I have said to men in anger.  I have been there and done that and allowed my mouth to make some really good men run the other way.  Had I held my tongue, removed myself for a moment and took the time to think about the situation, things may have turned out differently.  They say the game is to be sold not told but I am going to give you a free lesson and take this opportunity to school some of you on a few things.

Stop getting mad at your man and running to your friends telling them all your business. 

Putting the Single Ladies Up On Game


Women let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with “girl talk” but I don’t care if it’s your best friend or not, keep some things to yourself! Everybody does not need to know everything about your life.  Women need to learn to shut the hell up sometimes!  You talk to damn much!  Besides, some of you start talking about what your man did and didn’t do and you sound like a damn idiot for putting up with his bullshit, so for the sake of not looking like a complete fool, keep somethings to yourself.  Here is a trick to live by.  When you are alone, look in the mirror and tell yourself what you want to tell your friend.  If you sound like a dumb ass to yourself, chances are you will sound like a dumb ass to your friend.  Now that you have said it aloud, leave it there and move on!  You have to know that what you tell one “friend” will be repeated to your other friends and they will all be calling you a “dumb ass” behind your back.  Trust me!

When will women learn NOT to tell their friends about their man’s performance in the bedroom?  

I don’t even know why I have to talk about this one but apparently I do because there are still some women out there, running and telling their friends about how their men are in bed.  Hello, how old are you?  Don’t you know that besides being emotional, women are nosy as hell, thus, when you tell them about how good your man is, you have some shady chicks who want to know personally, how good he is.  Don’t be that chick who is crying later because her man slept with her “friend.”

Conversations about sex with your man are off-limits.  

Some things need to be sacred and let that be one of them!

I hope that I have not only enlightened some of you but also put you up on game.  Having emotions is cool and all but damn, you don’t have to go overboard with it.  Get a grip! Put your big girl panties on and be a woman.


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on July 1, 2013

Absolutely! Women do fly off the cuff and say some things that they “always” regret later. Hell, I have done it several times. I had to learn to run the scenario through my head and then say my piece.

Now as far as women (Single & Married) running their mouth off to their friends, I totally agree with you; that is a huge no-no! I am glad you put that in this posting, because some women haven’t learned yet. I have told some of my friends, that some people that you have told your business, will not understand why you chose to stay with LoverMan.

on July 3, 2013

I agree, keeping your personal business to yourself is key to not looking or sounding like a fool. But also if you sound like a fool to yourself when you say it in the mirror, chances are there is a problem in the relationship. I think that as a woman if you are ashamed to say something to someone else about an aspect of your relationship (non sexual of course) then chances are there is something that aint too right. So that mirror conversation serves a dual purpose.

Being honest with yourself in the relationship is just as important as not running to tell your business to everybody. I think women stay in relationships so long in the dark/quiet because they don’t want others to look at them crazy for staying in an intolerable situation (even if it’s only mildly intolerable).

So that’s my two cents. Stay Soulphisticated, Ladies!

    on July 3, 2013

    I am glad that you agree with the “mirror conversation.” If more women practiced that they would be in better shape!!

on July 5, 2013

What a wonderful post. Ladies really do need to step their game up. Women are in control of thelr lives and bodies. Stop letting men use you and then playing the victim role. I am not talking about all the time, but many times when women get played they are volunteer victims. Dont volunteer for that mess.

This is also why women are not as good at the “friends with benefits” game because they tend to catch feelings much more easier then men. Choose better who you share you life and body with and you will be much happier in the long run.

    on July 7, 2013

    Thanks Shawn. LOL! At volunteer victims and yes, that is very true!

on October 22, 2013

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on October 28, 2013

I also like the mirror conversation–once you start talking to your friends about your relationship, it’s hard to censor yourself and decide what not to share. So thinking about it beforehand is a good idea.

    on October 29, 2013

    Thanks, Alexis. Sometime we just have to say it aloud to hear how silly we sound

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