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I’m a sucker for big, beautiful weddings, so when Season 1 of VH1’s Marrying the Game aired, I was all smiles and Pinterest ready. I would’ve bet my monthly subscription of Essence magazine that The Game’s fiancée, Tiffney Cambridge would be wearing a designer Vera Wang wedding dress, walking down a plush red carpet posed as her wedding aisle as soft, slow jams played in the background. Instead Don’t Drop That Thun Thun was the aisle’s musical contender for a wedding that didn’t even happen. Sorry Essence!
Like Tiffney and Jayceon, I’ve experienced my own long-term relationship that led to a child pre-marriage. This is why I decided to give them another chance to get it together and surprise me with a lavish wedding in the show’s second season. But just like the first one, all I got was more yelling and hollering between them, the run in the ground we’ve-been-together-for-eight-years conversation, and more camera time for their adorable two kids. A part of me wants to say that I’ve had enough and vow to never watch the Monday night episodes again. However, the other part of me recognizes the reality show’s silver lining aka the Man Lessons that I took away from their televised chaos.
As evident as their problems were, Jayceon’s love for the mother of his children is just as plain. For the sake of love – and keeping old girl quiet – he made changes in his lifestyle to appeal to her inner woman. Sadly, they weren’t good enough.
I can’t blame y’all men because I hate it, too! While this isn’t a Bash Tiffney session, I must admit that her annoying and constant complaining made me want to go through the TV a few times. Apparently The Game thought so, too, being that he WENT IN on her on their trip to Mexico.
Now, I don’t mean this in the way your grandmother may have meant it in the 50s by sticking alongside him while he’s living a double life. I mean that we have to allow for our men to be comfortable and be themselves. Sure, Jayceon could cut off The Game when he comes home. Still, that other side is a huge part of him and furthermore, it brings home the bacon.
Was I the only one who found it annoying that ALL of The Game’s friends seemed to use his home as their second home? He even referenced in an interview when asked about how often his friends are at his house that “mi casa es su casa”. In the words of Sweet Brown, “aint nobody got time for dat!” Homeboy time is great…but every other day in your living space is ground for “the talk.
Girl talk has never hurt anyone. Still, just like homeboys need a break from living quarters, home girls need a break from the ins and outs of your relationship. Your friends and your man play two separate roles in your life; establish them and make sure that everyone abides by them, respectively. (Or, at least wait until he leaves the house to talk about him, sheesh!)
If a man wants to be with you, he’ll do what he has to do to make things work! This show was a reminder to literally state the things that I want plainly instead of whining or complaining about what’s lacking. How can he fix an error if he doesn’t know it exists?
What did you learn from watching Marrying the Game?
Do you wish they would’ve gotten married?
Have you experienced similar issues in your relationship as Tiffney and Jayceon?
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