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6 Things that ‘Marrying the Game’ Taught Me About Men

Dating & Relationships / October 22, 2013

I’m a sucker for big, beautiful weddings, so when Season 1 of VH1’s Marrying the Game aired, I was all smiles and Pinterest ready. I would’ve bet my monthly subscription of Essence magazine that The Game’s fiancée,  Tiffney Cambridge would be wearing a designer Vera Wang wedding dress, walking down a plush red carpet posed as her wedding aisle as soft, slow jams played in the background. Instead Don’t Drop That Thun Thun was the aisle’s musical contender for a wedding that didn’t even happen. Sorry Essence!

Like Tiffney and Jayceon, I’ve experienced my own long-term relationship that led to a child pre-marriage. This is why I decided to give them another chance to get it together and surprise me with a lavish wedding in the show’s second season. But just like the first one, all I got was more yelling and hollering between them, the run in the ground we’ve-been-together-for-eight-years conversation, and more camera time for their adorable two kids. A part of me wants to say that I’ve had enough and vow to never watch the Monday night episodes again. However, the other part of me recognizes the reality show’s silver lining aka the Man Lessons that I took away from their televised chaos.

 6 Things that ‘Marrying the Game’ Taught Me About Men

See what Marrying the Game taught me about men 

1. Men love just as hard as women do.

As evident as their problems were, Jayceon’s love for the mother of his children is just as plain. For the sake of love – and keeping old girl quiet – he made changes in his lifestyle to appeal to her inner woman. Sadly, they weren’t good enough.

2.  Men hate nagging.

I can’t blame y’all men because I hate it, too! While this isn’t a Bash Tiffney session, I must admit that her annoying and constant complaining made me want to go through the TV a few times. Apparently The Game thought so, too, being that he WENT IN on her on their trip to Mexico.

3.  A man has to be a man.

Now, I don’t mean this in the way your grandmother may have meant it in the 50s by sticking alongside him while he’s living a double life. I mean that we have to allow for our men to be comfortable and be themselves. Sure, Jayceon could cut off The Game when he comes home. Still, that other side is a huge part of him and furthermore, it brings home the bacon.

6 Things that ‘Marrying the Game’ Taught Me About Men

4.  Men still nurture “bromances” in their mid-thirties.

Was I the only one who found it annoying that ALL of The Game’s friends seemed to use his home as their second home? He even referenced in an interview when asked about how often his friends are at his house that “mi casa es su casa”. In the words of Sweet Brown, “aint nobody got time for dat!” Homeboy time is great…but every other day in your living space is ground for “the talk.

5.  Men don’t like all your damn friends (knowing his business)!

Girl talk has never hurt anyone. Still, just like homeboys need a break from living quarters, home girls need a break from the ins and outs of your relationship. Your friends and your man play two separate roles in your life; establish them and make sure that everyone abides by them, respectively. (Or, at least wait until he leaves the house to talk about him, sheesh!)

6.  Men will try harder when given direction.

If a man wants to be with you, he’ll do what he has to do to make things work! This show was a reminder to literally state the things that I want plainly instead of whining or complaining about what’s lacking. How can he fix an error if he doesn’t know it exists?

 

What did you learn from watching Marrying the Game?

Do you wish they would’ve gotten married?

Have you experienced similar issues in your relationship as Tiffney and Jayceon?

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Ariel is the creator of www.ArielsSaysNow.com, a lifestyle blog catering to 20s-somethings thirsty for real girl talk about love, sex & relationships, single mommy hood and getting through the inevitable quarter life crisis. She’s a freelance writer who loves words, makeup and fashion. Follow her on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest & YouTube @ArielSaysNow.




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6 Comments

on October 22, 2013

Hunty..1-6 hit the nail on the head. A man will let you know exactly what he needs. Another thing, women set the course for the relationship, so what we allow in the beginning, expect for him to be looking for all throughout the relationship.

    on October 22, 2013

    Amen! This is so true about what women are allowing. If women would understand that more, the better off we will be.

    on October 24, 2013

    YES!!! These men have to be led, girl! lol

on October 24, 2013

I’m glad they didn’t get married…sounds harsh but at least they are taking the time to try and work things out before pledging forever. So many times couples get married with the idea that they can work on the problems after the wedding and that’s a messed up idea. I skipped on watching this season but you may have convinced me to go watch On Demand. Great observations!

    on October 24, 2013

    I totally agree with you, Rchelle. I am lad that the didn’t get married because they weren’t ready for sure!

    on October 24, 2013

    I agree! Forever is a long time. Honestly, they’re not experiencing anything we all haven’t at some point in a relationship. There’s is just on TV! lol. Though I wanted to see a wedding, it’s probably better they get counseling or something first.



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