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Originally posted 9-3-2012
Sometimes in our lives we just have to grow up. We have to let go of all the bullshit and bullshit ass people in our lives. 2012 was my year to do just that. I cut a lot of people out of my life, especially men. I decided that I was not going to do bullshit this year at all. Well, it is almost September and I was doing pretty good until I let Bullshit walk back into my life…I got back with my ex. Against my better judgement, I let his foot through the threshold, but I quickly came to my senses and kindly escorted his bullshit ass back out the door. It’s funny how sometimes someone can say all the right stuff but when it comes to putting those words into actions, they drop the ball. This should have been flag #1!
Bullshit said all the right things, about how he had messed up before and how he wanted to “prove” to me that things would be different and then he said it! “I love you.”
Those are generally the 3 words that a woman wants to hear but when Bullshit says it, it kind of has the same kind of annoying sound that scratching your nails on a chalkboard would make. Yet and still, I let Bullshit back in.
My bullshit detector is always on, although apparently, I ignore it at times. Thank goodness, only about 2 weeks passed before I returned to my senses and decided that I was not going to deal with or do Bullshit anymore. Those “actions” that he spoke of, never came to pass. It was just like old times; me putting forth an effort and him putting forth none. I read this the other day…
“a man that wants to be with you will make it happen, no matter what.”
That hit me like a ton of bricks. I sat back and felt like such a hypocrite for telling women all the shit that they should not do or should not deal with and here I was, slipping back into old patterns. I had to shake it off and shake it off QUICK! I had to let him know that I would not be doing this…us, anymore. It wasn’t anything that Bullshit did wrong, instead, it was all the things that he didn’t do right. I felt like there was no effort being put forth, no showing and proving and there wasn’t much else for me to say. I didn’t feel like I needed to give a long explanation. Hell, we had been down this road several times before, what else did I need to say besides, “I am not doing this anymore.”
I realized that by wasting my time with Bullshit, I was wasting time that I could not get back.
I knew he wasn’t Mr. Right because everything about him was so wrong.
Would things be different if he had put his words into actions? Probably not. They say a leopard never changes his spots and after being on again, off again for 10 years, his spots have only gotten bigger. Some people never change and because of that I had to be the one to change and simply walk away from Bullshit…once and for all.
Have you ever gotten back with your ex?
How did things work out when you got back with your ex?
Do you think that people should get back with their ex?