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Do You Still Love Me Like You Used To?

Dating & Relationships / August 27, 2013

I’m sure that I’m not the only one that listens to music and it takes you back to a time or a person in your past.  Have you ever thought about an ex and wanted to call and ask, “Do I ever cross your mind” or “Do you still love me like you used to?”

Do You Still Love Me Like You Used To?

As I look back on the men in my life and how our relationships played out, I have been a fool on more than one occasion.  It wasn’t so much about my actions during the relationship (all the time) but more so my actions AFTER things were over.  Have you ever had an ex that you went back to?  Many of us have “played the same record twice,” while others have played it until it was so scratched that we could no longer listen to it without it skipping.  But why do we go back?  Do we go back because we are lonely or because they are what is familiar to us?

I am on speaking terms with several of my ex’s and some cases it took years to get that point.  That point meaning, the point of getting over the fact that one or both of us fucked up and/or getting past hurt feelings.  In some cases, two in particular, I should have never “gotten over” what happened and just left well enough alone.  I think that sometimes, and I am speaking for myself, you get into a place where you are bored or the person that you are dealing with, just doesn’t turn you on the way that they used to.  I have a problem when I am not getting the attention that I desire from my significant other and in the past, have sought after greener pastures because of it.  Many times those, “greener pastures” have been in the form of an ex, who was more than willing to accommodate me.  Good thing we live and we learn…


Other times, I simply missed my ex’s.  It may not have been a sexual thing but jut wanting to hear their voice, laugh about an inside joke or simply be around them.  Of course the question always seems to come up, “Do you still love me?”  That’s when the lies come out because we tell each other what we want to hear to get what we want.  It can become a crazy cycle and I guess the age-old question comes into play, “Can men and women be just friends?”  I guess when you have been in a relationship, especially an intimate one, things get tough and although you may or may not still have feelings for that person, by asking, “If you still love me like you used to” will always provoke some type of feelings.

With all that being said, for me, listening to Meli’sa Morgan’s, “Do You Still Love Me,” while I am feeling some sort of way may get me in trouble. Take it from me, don’t go back down that road…hell, don’t even pick up the phone and call your ex, if music takes you back to the “good times.”  Leave things be and save yourself the heartache that can be caused by “playing the same record twice!”


Have you ever heard a song that made you think of an ex?

Have you ever called or sent a text to an ex after hearing a song that reminded you of them?

Have you ever “played the same record twice?” What happened?


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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on August 27, 2013

Girl, this was the jam for real! I think of exes occasionally, just a thought and keep it moving. I’m sure my husband does too. We ran into one of his about 3 weeks ago, can you say awkward for him? He didn’t introduce us and they embraced. Dude knows he was wrong because he kissed my butt for the next 24 hours. I was taken back a moment but didn’t make a big deal out of it. I pick my battles…bet not happen like that again though.

    on August 27, 2013

    LMAO! At least he knows that he messed up. I bet he won’t do that again

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