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Hell No!

Dating & Relationships / Single Moms Talk / July 16, 2013

What is up with men wanting to “see you,” meaning, “I want to come over?”  Whatever happened to, “Can I take you out?”  I mean, REALLY?  Why should I let you come over to my house?  Here’s the deal, I can see if we were dating or if you were my man but if you: 1. have never taken me out several times and 2. Not my man, there is no reason for you to come “see me”.

Men kill me now a days, wanting to “see me.” No, you cannot come over here and wear out my couch, relax under my central air, watch the cable that I pay for and eat my food and drink my drink.  HELL NO!! Then, most men don’t even have the decency to ask, “Can I bring you something,” if you do allow them to come over.  Where they do that at?

oh hell no

They say, “You live and you learn” and one thing that I have learned is that I CAN NOT DO BULLSHIT! Call it what you want, but I will be damned if a man who claims to be interested in me thinks he can just sit up at my house and not contribute to anything.  It costs to sit up over here, Partner.  Trust me on that one!

Since I am on the topic of shit that pisses me off about men, don’t call me and the first thing out of your mouth is, “What’s up?”  “The rent and these bills, Fool.  That’s what’s up.  How much you got on it?” Let’s see how long the conversation lasts after that.     


I know those of you who don’t know me are probably thinking that I am crazy or have lost my damn mind; while my friends know that this is me being me.  I am sure that I will receive plenty of calls from male friends who will read this post and want to talk shit.  Let me stop those of you BEFORE you make that phone call, take me out of character and have your feeling hurt…It’s like this. Even if you are not my man, but trying to become my man, you need to step up to the plate.  I have someone to take care of; I will not take care of you.  Meaning, if you have not contributed to groceries or bought any; no I cannot cook for you, give you a drink, a snack or anything else.  PERIOD!  I am doing this over here by myself.  I will not be sharing with you, if you have not “shared” with me.  You have to come to table, ready to play and I don’t play with kids.
So, if this post offended anyone…you already know what I am going to say about that…  As my mother would say, “I’m just stacking it straight!”

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on July 16, 2013

Good for you Ty. The sad part is that women have no one to blame for this madness, but themselves. Too many women are allowing men to come over, get the sex and other benefits (food, clothing, shelter) and then bounce, leaving nothing behind but a baby, STD or hurt feelings. If more and more women were like you then much of this foolishness would stop. Until that time you can only do you and be who you are. Come on ladies, step your game up!

on July 16, 2013

This right here. And the ‘do you wanna come over to my place?’ Mind you, he hasn’t taken you out on a single date as yet or wants use that as the date. Now ain’t that some bullshit.

    on July 16, 2013

    Girl, I don’t understand why men think this okay? So many “thirsty chicks” have messed up the game for it. It is a damn shame!

on July 16, 2013

Love this post. Honest and straight to the point. Men who read this will know exactly what you expect.

    on July 17, 2013


    Men already know what to expect. When they find a woman of quality they will usually just keep on until they find one so thirsty she will take any amount of attention. Until the number of thirsty women drops the men will not change. It is too easy to get these days.

    The good news is if you hold out for quality you will eventually find it, but it will take longer.

    on July 17, 2013

    Thank Katherine, I’m glad that you enjoyed it! Yes, they will certainly know that won’t work over here!

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