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Recently, I was asked to be a guest on the Blog Talk Radio Show, AfterHourz, to discuss the topic, “Dating with Kids.” Interesting topic, right? Not to mention one that I am very familiar with. Many of you don’t know a LOT about me because I don’t put all my business on my blog, however, I will lay some things on the line for the sake of tying it into this discussion…
Now, that being said, during the radio show, another blogger thought that it was okay to let your children see you go on dates and that you shouldn’t keep secrets from them. No, I held my tongue…actually, I bit the shit out of it because I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but I frankly think that is a bunch of bullshit!
As a single mother, I totally agree that you are still a woman, who has desires and needs and that you deserve to go out from time to time and have a good time. I don’t believe that your child should meet every man that you date. You child doesn’t even need to know that you are dating? FOR WHAT? A child is a child and as a parent you don’t have to break down or explain EVERY single move that you make. YOU are the parent!
During the talk show, I explained that I am dating someone, he has met my child but I send my son to my mother’s house if we go out or if I spend the weekend at his house or vice versa. My son doesn’t need to know that he slept over or I slept over his house. My son doesn’t need to know that I am going out…period! My reasoning is that until I establish that we are indeed going to be in a relationship, there is no need for my child to be around you like that. If I decide tomorrow that this is not working out or that I’m no longer interested, then it is no harm…no foul! I don’t want to have to explain to my son, whose father is not in his life, why such in such is no longer coming around and have to do that with every man who I date and decide that a relationship is not what we want. Why would a mother, expose their child to a series of men that they are DATING because they want to be “open and not hide anything from their child?” How does that look for your daughters? Is that the example that you want her to see…a series of men that mom “dates” in and out of the house? Really? As mothers, do we need to share EVERYTHING with our children?
Give me some feedback…What are your views on Dating with Kids?
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