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Dear Sexy Single Mommy,
How would you handle the following situation:
I attended a Super Bowl Party given by my best friend. I helped purchase food and the event was “Bring a Bottle” meaning, bring a bottle to share with everyone. At the end of the night, as were cleaning up, I grabbed two bottles of liquor and announced that I was taking them home. My best friends sister said, ‘How are you gonna take liquor?” Even if you bought it, you don’t take stuff that you bring to a party!”
Once again, I announced that I was taking the liquor and by now, I had moved closer to my best friend’s sister and said it again. She told me to get out of her face and that I wasn’t taking anything. She then proceeded to say, “I told my sister about hanging out with Ratchet Bitches!” Of course, I was surprised and hurt by being called, Ratchet. I have always felt like my sister’s best friend never liked me, although I look at her and respect her as a sister. Where I come from, being called, Ratchet is like being called a Bitch. Actually, I think that being called Ratchet is worse!
I tried to talk to my best friends sister after this all happened and she didn’t want to discuss it. The problem is that because she is my best friends sister, I will see and be around her all the time. Do I try to talk to her again, now that things have cooled off a bit or do I just ignore her going forward?
What The Sexy Single Mommy Would Do?
1. Let me start by saying that although I have heard and used the term, Ratchet, I had to look up the definition to ensure that I was using it correctly especially when you said that to you , it was worse than being called a bitch. According to the Urban Dictionary, it means: 1. “A diva, mostly from urban cities and ghettos, that has reason to believe she is every mans eye candy. Unfortunately, she’s wrong.” 2. “a term for someone who is either 1. a whore 2. dirty/nasty 3. ghetto as HELL 4. being annoying 5. busted” 3. “A ghetto girl who is loud and obnoxious and constantly causing drama and usually trashy.”
2. Now that I know the “meaning” of the word, I guess that I too, would agree that being called ratchet is worse than being called a bitch. However, taking liquor from a party is not acceptable unless the hostess gave it to you. You didn’t mention that your BFF said that you could have it, so I am assuming that she did not. Proper etiquette is that when you bring something to a party, you don’t take it with you when you leave nor do you lay claim to something that was not offered to you by the hostess. That in and of itself may be an exhibition of ratchet behavior.
3. You mentioned that you didn’t think that you BFF’s sister liked you. Maybe she doesn’t and what she said was a buildup of how she feels about you. If this is indeed the case, I wouldn’t waste my breath reaching out to her. Continue to be cordial when you are around her but you don’t have to be her friend.
Now is the time for you to tell me…WHAT WOULD YOU DO?