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A Strange Thing Happened On The Way From The Movies…

Dating & Relationships / January 31, 2013

The names have been changed to protect the innocent and not so innocent…

Kelly was asked to go to the movies by her long time friend, Donte.  Their history can be read in my previous post, “Not only was he controlling but sexually…”  She decided to take him up on his offer despite their history and met him at his house so that he could drive.  On the way to the movie, she asked if after the movie they could go grab a bite to eat at a restaurant that was near the theatre.  His response was, ‘Is that how you do it?  That’s your problem, Kelly, you are used to these men doing whatever you say.”  She chose to ignore him and they continued on to the movies.

At the movies,  he gets some popcorn and she didn’t get anything.  She didn’t want anything from there.  After the movies, she asked again could they stop for something to eat and he responded, “I have stuff for sandwiches at the house.”  “Okay, that’s cool,” she responded, starving by this time.  Before they got to his house she said, “What type of cheese do you have because I don’t eat American Cheese.”

“What are you talking about?  I don’t have anything for sandwiches at my house,” Donte responded.

She looked at him like he was crazy, but again chose to ignore him.


They get in the house and again, she expresses the fact that she is hungry.  He asks her what she wants to eat and they leave to go pick up the food.

Back at the house, he asks what does she want to watch, “Die Hard or Coach Carter?” She says neither one.  Of course, he had a problem with that.  Kelly decides to go home and he walks her to the door.  As she is getting in her car, she drops her phone somewhere in the car.  She was driving her daughters car and couldn’t figure out to turn the lights on in the inside of the car.  She decides to ask Donte for a flashlight and looks up and he has already gone in the house.  He didn’t bother waiting to see if she got in the car safely and drive off.  She eventually found her phone and drove home.

Upon getting home, she gave  him a call him and asked “Why didn’t you bother to wait to make sure I drove off safely?”  His response was, “Why?  Was I supposed to watch you drive off into the sunset?”  She hung up and never spoke to him again.


1.   If you read the back story on this…I wouldn’t have NEVER (and that is NEVER with my neck rolling and my finger moving from side to side) gave him a second of my time again after all the BS he pulled before.  I wouldn’t give a damn millisecond of my time!

2.  If I go out with a man, I shouldn’t have to say that I’m hungry.  He should ask!  If for some reason he didn’t, I mentioned that I was hungry and he responded the way that Donte did, he would have been turning that car and taking me to my car AND on the way, I would be calling one of those men who “gave me my way” to take me out.  But not before, I cussed him out for even making a stupid ass statement like that!!

3.  I would have never made it to the movies…but lets say that by some crazy ass reason, I did…after the movie if a man mentioned that he had “stuff for sandwiches” at home, I would have said, “REALLY?  Do I LOOK like that kind of woman who you can take back to your house and feed sandwiches?”  After she said that she didn’t eat American cheese and he acted like he didn’t know what she was talking about, ALL bets would have been off!  There wasn’t anyone else in the car but the two of you,


4.  Now, I would have never went into the house after all of this but why would we leave AGAIN to get something to eat when we just got back and I said NUMEROUS times that I was hungry!

5.  It should go without saying that a man should not have to be told that he should insure that any woman who leaves his home or anywhere, gets to her car safely and drives off.  He should have walked her to her car!  His actions basically said that he didn’t give a damn about her or her well-being.

Now, it’s time for you to tell me…WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

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Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on January 31, 2013

The second so called date would never had of happened. I’ve never dated anyone like that and if I was single he wouldn’t have gotten a chance. When I asked about dinner after the movies and gotten that response his movie experience wasn’t going to be great the best thing would have been for him to take me back home. Also not making sure I got into my car safely was a No No people are crazy these days and who raised him? A wolf negatives all away around

    on January 31, 2013

    I agree, Rochelle!!!

on January 31, 2013

Kita, he was BEYOND selfish! What a jerk!!!!!

on January 31, 2013

It’s oblivious that he cared little or nothing for her. Friends don’t treat friends like that. Hopefully that was the final straw for her because I hate seeing this woman torment herself with that worthless loser/jerk.

on January 31, 2013

Oh yeah, to answer your question, I would leave his azz alone and never revisit that shit!

    on January 31, 2013


on January 31, 2013

Wow… it is so amazing to me that some guys can be so disrespectful. I have learned through trial and error that a man will only do what you allow him to do!!! Standards must be set in the very beginning and he can’t accept what your expectations… keep it moving because there are 2 things in life you never run for; a bus and a boy because there will ALWAYS be another one coming!!!

With that said, I think she should have never accepted the invitation in the first place, but since she did, she should have left at the start of his response “is that how you do it?” Yes, should have been her response as she walked to her car and left!!!

    on January 31, 2013

    I love that…” there are 2 things in life you never run for; a bus and a boy because there will ALWAYS be another one coming!!!” I totally agree!

on January 31, 2013

What in the hell is wrong with him??! After the last issue with him his number would’ve been blocked and deleted. If we were friends on Facebook he would’ve been blocked on there too. Hell his email address would’ve been blocked too. Bad enough what happened the first time, but the stunt he pulled the second time was beyond ridiculous. I would’ve cut ALL communication with him after the first time. No “man” lets a woman walk to her car alone without making sure she gets in okay. No “man” gives a woman attitude for her addressing the issue when she calls back. If he was a real man none of that would’ve happened, but he definitely would’ve walked her to the car and called to make sure she got home okay. He showed the first time he couldn’t be trusted and the second time he cemented that and made it a carved in stone fact! Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

    on January 31, 2013

    LMAO @ blocking his email!! You are right on the money! BTW, WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN DEE? email me

on February 1, 2013

He sounds like a real fool. She should have never gave him a second chance.

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