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Relationship Advice For Women: Know Your Worth

Dating & Relationships / From the Editor / Single Mommy Stuff / August 22, 2012

I know that some of you think that I’ve been coming down pretty hard on the ladies this week but I don’t think that it’s a matter of coming down hard on but instead, a matter of imparting some wisdom to those who are going out the world ass backwards.

Some woman may have never had anyone to break it down for them before.  Others may not have had a mother or sisters who kept it real with them.  While there may be a few that are just so damn hard headed that they don’t want to hear the truth.  Whatever the case may be, some of you have been reading my blog long enough to know that I’m ALWAYS going to keep it 100 with y’all. This post is no exception and by the time you finish it, hopefully, you either learned something you didn’t or wouldn’t want to accept as the truth or something that you can share with someone else who needs to read this.

Some of you ladies are making poor choices.  You are giving men too much power and allowing them to treat you however they want to.  It’s not until you get totally feed up that you want to put your foot down.  By that time, Boo, it’s too late.  When you allow a man to do and say whatever they want to you…that’s a problem!  If you have no standards, then of course, a man will treat you any kind of way.  Let me break some things down for you…

If you allow yourself to be “just” a booty call and that’s all that the two of you do, how can you expect after being a “piece of ass” for 6 months, that you can demand that he start to take you out?  Why now?  Why not in the beginning? Is it because you have caught feelings for him?  Now you want him to be your “man” and do stuff that people in a “real” relationship do?  GTFOH!! It’s too late!

Ladies, you have to demand respect from the beginning. Not in the middle of the game.  The problem is that some of you women, want to be the man.  You think that you can have sex and not have emotions.  Some women can but most can’t.  You want to open your on doors, pay for everything when you go out, etc. etc.! You won’t even allow a man to be a man! Then, you give up the ass from the gate then want him to start doing shit with you like going on dates, family functions, etc. Sweetheart, are highly delusional!  What part of the game is that?  I am sorry to tell you, Sweetie, but you played yourself!

Now let me say that every now and then, you may get one that after complaining that all you do is have sex, MAY take you to the movies to shut you up, but trust me when I say, if you are thinking that he is going to be your man, you are mistaken. That isn’t going to happen because he has already labeled you as an “easy piece of ass” and who wants someone like that to be their woman?

You messed up from the beginning by choosing to lay down with a man who didn’t give a damn about you.  If he was any kind of man, he would have tried to take you out and get to know you from the start.


And let me not forget…respected yourself!  

So if you are the person that I’m speaking of, you are probably wondering what do you do now?  How do I demand respect from men?

Ladies, it’s really very simple…

Be a LADY! 

Respect yourself and carry yourself like a lady.  Don’t go smiling up in every man’s face that approaches you or shows you some attention. You should be picky!  Have some standards and spend time getting to know a man.  Let him take you out.  A man who will take you out and spend time with you is showing that he is willing to make an investment in you.  If a man is not willing to spend any money or time with you, he is showing you that he doesn’t think that you are worth it and he is not interested in investing in you.

Also, don’t give up the ass quick.  Make him work for it.  The saying, “All good things come to those who wait” holds true here.  Make him wait for your good thing!  There is power in the p!  Don’t be a fool!  Use your powers wisely!!

Lastly, do not chase a man! Let him call you. Allow him to court you. A man will make time for what he wants to make time for. If he isn’t making time for you, then he is not interested. Plan and simple.

the sexy single mommy



Ty Knighten
Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships. You can reach her on Twitter @UHeardMeRight, on Facebook at The Sexy Single Mommy or connect with her on Google+ and Instagram at chocoty.

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on September 6, 2012

I am so glad you found me through the TGIF Hop! Let the church say Amen….AMEN!!! If only every woman on the planet would just read this one post maybe, just maybe there’d be less tramps and more ladies in the world. I learned my lesson years ago that you can’t make someone change if they don’t see anything wrong with the way they act. If you can’t be proud of the person you’re with, or the person you are when you’re with them…then it’s time to go. Mmhmm definitely adding this blog to my list of favorites!

    on September 6, 2012

    Thanks, so much!! I really appreciate that. There are so many women who need to here this. Thanks for stopping by! Don’t be a stranger!

on April 1, 2013

My parents taught me this years ago and my uncles have reinforced it. When a man calls you the first time and the call comes late, why would you answer it? I have stood by a door and waited until a man opens it for me. We have to set the standards high from the beginning and if they want you, they will abide by those standards. I love it when men at work tell me they see a difference between me and other women at work. Nothing wrong with standards. Thanks for this post!

    on April 1, 2013

    Hi Roni. I could not agree more. Once women set the standard, if a man is “REALLY” interested in being with her, he will comply. If he is only looking for somthing physical then he won’t and the written will be on the wall. Women need to make sure that they are setting the standard and not dealing with men who aren’t willing to be gentlemen and respect them.

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